The AA system means that each person shares the cost equally, and it is usually used for occasions such as food gatherings and travel to jointly consume and pay for common expenses, eliminating the need for individual or part of the people to invite guests, and the consumption is equal. The AA system is more suitable for the situation that there are many people and are not very familiar, and being too attached to the AA system will make people indifferent, and a long time will make friends feel estranged. The ideal way for good friends to be good friends should be consciously invited in turns, which can not only show relative fairness, but also show that they don't care about how much they ask for more or how little they spend to show friendship. The AA system is best when there are many people, at least four or more people and the relationship is not very familiar (of course, the relationship is extremely good can also be aa, remember that it is extremely good as siblings, and ordinary good friends are not good), it is recommended not AA.
The source of the end of the friend!
Rifts between friends often come from injustice. At the beginning, when I went out to consume, I didn't distinguish between you and me, and they were all competing to pay. After a long time, there is the fact that you buy more orders, I buy less, the one you buy is expensive, and the one I buy is cheaper. After a long time, people who invest a lot will feel uncomfortable and feel that they have been rubbed with oil by others. If there are some unfavorable factors as an introduction, it will cause a battle of words. Everyone has good examples of you, and each of them feels wronged and feels sorry for themselves. It's not worth going on and ending up making trouble until you leave.
No matter how good friends are, be polite to each other!
Brothers settle accounts, if friends can clearly divide the consumption together, who should take as much as they want. In this way, every time I leave, I turn around in a comfortable mood, without any complaints, and the next party, won't I be happy to come back? If friends get together, there is always one person to settle the account, and after a long time, is he still willing to participate? Can this kind of gathering last?
Between friends, the implementation of the consumption AA system can make everyone happy, get along easily and happily, without leaving any sequelae, and it is still good for the exchanges between friends to continue for a long time.
Of course, when a friend is in trouble and needs help, then he must not consider the interests and shrink back. They should each show their true colors as friends, show their best strength, and help each other. If you eat and drink without distinguishing between you and me, but you cringe at the critical moment, then you are not real friends, but friends of wine and meat.
Even between friends, there needs to be a degree. Even if your friend's income is higher than yours. You can't make your friends pay every time you spend. Others are not obligated. If this goes on for a long time, others will be cold.
Adults, be realistic. It's not easy for everyone to work and study, making friends is for mutual warmth, not being a big injustice just knowing that they spoil you and love you. Friends are mutual, and he will do to you as you would treat him!
Different people have different opinions about the AA system.
Some people believe that the AA system can make the relationship between two people purer and simpler, and there is no money involved. Really good friends are each other, try not to cause trouble to each other, and can think about each other. When the two are together, it is not appropriate to let one party pay the bill, even no matter how good a friend is, he can't do it, please go back to the other party, and you have to take advantage of the time when both parties are free, it is more troublesome to make an appointment, it is better to make an AA system, so simple and direct, saving a lot of polite etiquette between outsiders, not only will not hurt the feelings between friends, but also make friends more stable.
For good friends, AA does not mean that every penny is calculated, but a material "equivalent exchange" and a real good friend will not be embarrassed to mention AA, even if the other party has a treat, it will be remembered in mind, and use another way to repay the affection, don't feel that they are all good friends, what is reluctant, the relationship needs to be maintained, and the economic exchange just gives a way to maintain the relationship, after all, an economic exchange may bring a small spark to light, a night of talking, a rare get-together.
There are also some people who feel that there is no need for AA to be too clear, either you invite or someone else invites, but if you have a treat, you have to AA points, which is more awkward. For example, I invited you to dinner, and the two of them ate 300 yuan, and at the end, I told you, "150 yuan for one person, and we have half of the meal fee, so you can transfer it to me on WeChat", don't you feel awkward?
Generally, when you go out to eat, you will take the initiative to pay, unless this time you eat, a friend specifically pointed out that he came to treat him. Let's just put it this way, people like to be generous and bold, ancient and modern, Chinese and foreign, no exception, if you behave stingy, there are basically no friends behind, and no one likes to do business with people who are calculating, especially in a place like Zhejiang.
AA will be misunderstood as stingy, although AA is a normal thing, but in the eyes of many people, AA will be considered a sign of not being generous enough. So, instead of being misunderstood, it's better to say, don't AA, either you take the initiative to treat or the other party treats. Some people may be returnees and educated in the West, but this is China, and sometimes you have to do things that suit China's national conditions.
Of course, there is another point to be able to distinguish, friends go out to eat, two or three times, in the end you pay, the other party has no intention of taking the initiative to pay, then next time don't treat a treat, this friend is better not to come again. True friends have come and go, and they are treated as wronged by others.
It's actually good to practice the AA system among friends. Because after all, in this way, in contact with each other, you can avoid some psychological unhappiness caused by gains and losses. However, the AA system should still serve a certain purpose and increase friendship under the premise that everyone is more recognized.
Therefore, in some things, it is better to grasp a certain scale, to be able to take care of the other person's feelings, and to make yourself very happy. This actually achieves the effect. In many cases, it is better to be flexible.
I think it's appropriate to hang out with friends and play AA.
The reason why I think that the AA system is suitable is a prerequisite, pay attention to the relationship of friends. Friendship is originally equal and respectful, and they become friends because they have a common personality and hobbies. For a small person like me, traveling with friends can afford to have more projects.
Of course, some people will divide friends into three, six, nine and so on, generally speaking, for people who have a request for others, invite friends who can help to go out to play, of course, you can't let people break the bank, this is to get along with the relationship, and do the things to be done.
If you are an ordinary friend, of course, you should choose the AA system, so that there is no psychological burden on each other to go together; It's not very likely that ordinary friends hang out together, because ordinary friends are equivalent to nodding friends, and they don't know each other very well, and it's a bit awkward to hang out together (I think so).
Hanging out with good friends will make the trip much happier. However, when traveling with friends, sometimes it is really difficult to talk about money. I'm all "villains first and then gentlemen", let's talk about where to play first, the cost is AA system. After saying it a few times, a tacit understanding is formed between good friends, and there is no need to mention money in the future, just say where to play.
Some people may think that they don't need the AA system to hang out with friends, maybe it's because he has more rice in his wallet. For a small person like me, I have to make a "financial budget" in advance when I go out to play, otherwise I can only eat soil in the second half of the month. If you want me to treat all of them, there is only one condition, the other party has to help me earn more money, and I am willing to pay out of my pocket, this kind of friend is a cooperative interest relationship.
I remember that once my boyfriend was invited to go on a trip, the air ticket was all-inclusive, and he didn't have to worry about anything about eating hotels and attractions, and someone would accompany him all the time, he just ate well, drank well, and played well. Later, my boyfriend did him a great favor, and it was for this purpose that he was willing to pay.
My personality is not very willing to owe favors, and I don't want others to owe me favors (I will remember it for a long time), so I think it is more appropriate to choose the AA system when hanging out with friends, it is enough to accompany each other, and money should be separated.
