In fact, each of us longs for ourselves to have an unforgettable relationship, in love the other half can be honest with themselves, can take care of themselves, love themselves, but not all people are so lucky, some people will encounter some things that make them sad and sad in love, that is, the so-called other half of their own deception, you must know that once the trust collapses, it is really difficult to recover.
Personally, if the other half cheats on me, I will definitely not trust him again in the future, after all, at the beginning, he deceived me, and he was already sorry for me, so how can I trust him again.
I still remember two years ago, I had a boyfriend, and at first the two of us got along quite well, but slowly he lost patience and even treated me coldly, and had a feeling of not asking.
I remember one time, I came to my aunt, the pain was unbearable, my limbs were weak, I lay on the bed and couldn't fall asleep, so I called my boyfriend, the phone was not answered, the text message was not returned, in desperation, I had to call his good friend, but no one saw him, at that moment I was really chilled, I really thought that he had evaporated in the world, but I only saw his figure in the afternoon, he saw me without a word of condolence, and said that I was hypocritical, I asked him what he was doing, he told me to play with friends, In fact, I called his friend just now, but he didn't see him at all, he was obviously lying, what did he do and tell me the truth, why are you lying, I really feel very cold.
Fortunately, we're breaking up now, otherwise with someone like him, I really can't stand it, lying all day long, I really don't know which sentence is true, in fact, I think two people must be honest with each other together, so that the relationship between two people will last.
Even if the relationship between two people is good, once the trust is lost, it means that the relationship will soon fall apart, and once the trust is lost, it is difficult to recover, because everyone is afraid that they are being hurt, so they will not easily trust a person. In the relationship, it is said that once the trust is broken, it is difficult to return to the past, mainly for the following reasons.
1. Dodging damage is instinctive.
It is our instinct to avoid damage, and many times we will stay away from the source of harm to the greatest extent possible in order to avoid damage to ourselves. If trust has been lost in a relationship, it means that it will cause great damage to the other person's heart. I think everyone can't accept such emotional damage, and if they want to make up for it again, it can be said that this kind of trust is as difficult as heaven.
Second, a sense of trust is the basis for getting along. Trust is the basic of two people in marriage, if both parties do not trust each other, then such a marriage, there is no need to exist, only two people have a sense of trust in each other, can rest assured to do their own things. Many women can't trust their partners in married life, mainly because they suffer from gains and losses, and are afraid of the other party's departure. In married life, if there is a lack of trust, this marriage is like a bamboo basket for nothing.
Third, there is no reward for paying.
If there is no sense of trust in married life, then it is likely to mean that everything you have paid has become empty, and you have not received any feedback, everyone wants to pay for yourself, to be recognized by others, to be able to get a kind of feedback, and to have a kind of self-satisfaction. But once the other party breaks such self-illusions and destroys the sense of trust in married life, it means that the collapse of self-belief and the shock of the three views are not enough to maintain this marriage.
If you get back together after a breakup, but it is difficult to trust each other, it means that you still have feelings, so try to manage this relationship and try the following methods.
1. A fresh start needs to be genuinely voluntary
Broken up love is a kind of harm to each other, and they will endure a certain degree of suffering. And such a relationship suddenly starts again, then it needs to be sincere and voluntary with each other, otherwise it will be difficult to continue. If you want to get back together, ask yourself first: Would you like to?
2. Don't always dwell on the past
Once there is a crack in the relationship, there is no way to go back to the beginning, but since you have chosen to get back together, you must work hard to maintain it and try to make each other really start over. Even if you have experienced too much in the past, you have to throw it all away, otherwise how can you start over?
3. Don't always talk about things
Since we are together again, everything is new, we should treat each other as the new ones, love and be loved again, correct our shortcomings again, accept and tolerate each other again. Before, throw it away as much as possible, otherwise there will be a tomorrow for such feelings?
4. Get rid of the bad habits you once had
I didn't know how to cherish it, but I got back together after separation, do I want to continue not to cherish it? can make the other party depressed, disgusted, and hateful, as long as it is not too much, change it if it can be changed, otherwise is there still a need for this relationship to start over? It's just a re-enactment of the past damage. Change some of the bad things in your body, give each other more care, and at the same time be more tolerant of each other, I think, the relationship will still be sweet.
5. Give the other party the least trust and be trusted
To be able to make the other party trust, but also to trust the other party, not to be suspicious all day long, ta chose to be with me again, is it really because he loves me? Will it love others behind my back? Will you dump me again one day? Wait a minute. Distrust is an invisible knife in the relationship, which can cut through very strong feelings.
6. Don't pose that the other party can't live without you
There is no coercion and coercion in love, since they are together, it means that they are voluntary, why put on a posture that whoever leaves will not be able to live to each other? Love is mutual, not giving and being given.
7. Don't pretend to be comfortable with each other
There are some couples who break up and get back together, no matter how hard they try, they can't find the feeling they once had, but they are unwilling to separate again, so they force themselves to accept it, and try to tell themselves to cherish it. This kind of relationship is uncomfortable for yourself, and the other party is also heavy. Love needs to be willing, not artificial, let alone disguised.
8. Don't take it all day long
When we are together again, we must love each other well and cherish each other's hard-won feelings. Whoever leaves will live well, not that you will be beaten if you leave, either hurry up and separate, no one will delay anyone, or love well, or the old saying, there is no one who is humble or noble in love.
