Should the department dinner be AA system or the leader pay? I think it's better to have an AA system.
1. Respect the spirit of the contract in life and work
As the saying goes: there are no rules, there is no circle.
Whether in the workplace or in life, we need to abide by the rules and regulations, and it is not easy to step on the thunder by doing things within the rules. Don't underestimate the AA system between colleagues, although there is no explicit provision, but it exists in the hearts of every colleague, and we need to be bound by the spirit of contract in doing things.
In the workplace, people should pay more attention to the contract, every job that falls into your hands, the responsibility also falls on your shoulders, you can't say get rid of it, otherwise it is easy to be looked down upon.
And for the trivial matter of dinner, it is also bound by the spirit of the contract. In order for a group to maintain a long-term friendly relationship, it must abide by this principle, and whoever violates it is easy to be kicked out.
For the AA system of departmental dinners, it is a reflection of a person's character problem. Some people will pay the money immediately, while others will pretend not to know or be forgetful and forget about it. Occasionally, it can be reasonable, if it is like this for a long time, it will definitely leave an impression in the minds of colleagues such as selfishness, greed, and picking.
Second, colleagues should have the courage to stop this kind of behavior
In the workplace, it is inevitable that colleagues will need to get along with each other. If a colleague has some minor problems, and colleagues choose to turn a blind eye, then they will only condone him to become more and more "rampant", and many problems are habitual.
Some people dare not offend people because of their feelings, dare to be angry and dare not speak, and finally secretly plant the seeds of contradictions, and sooner or later there will be an outbreak.
If you encounter some people who like to be greedy and cheap, and infringe on the collective interests, you should stop it in time. For the AA system, it is a fair and just act in itself, it is not easy for everyone to make money, and if you indulge your colleagues again and again, you will only feed the appetite of the other party, thus being more presumptuous. If others follow suit, then there will be no rules for the whole team, and I believe there will be no next dinner.
If a team wants to be united and maintain a long-term and stable relationship, then there needs to be someone in the team who dares to speak up. It is good for everyone to point out the problem in time, stop the other party from continuing to be "presumptuous", and safeguard the interests of the team.
3. There should be a sense of boundaries between colleagues
Even if you have a good relationship with a colleague, don't try to touch the bottom line of your colleague. Colleagues are working partners, and they are the relationship of interests, not your closest relatives, so you should maintain a sense of boundaries when getting along with each other.
The most taboo in the workplace is that the responsibilities are not clear, some people see that they have a good relationship with their colleagues, sign for him, or help him deal with the work, in the end, when there is a problem, it is easy to be dumped by colleagues. At this time, you can only sigh that you do bad things with good intentions, shoot yourself in the foot, and at the same time you can see the true face of the other party.
The more blurred the sense of boundaries, the more it hurts you, and the easier it is for you to see through the nature of the colleague relationship. Therefore, a rational person in the workplace is respectful and amiable on the surface, but when he touches a sense of boundaries, he will definitely be able to carry it clearly, and he will not make such mistakes, and try to protect his own interests and safety.
In the workplace, don't try to blur each other's relationships and responsibilities, and don't try to touch the bottom line of others, colleagues are not your closest relatives, no one will get used to your little faults, do your part, you can gain a good popularity, help your career development, I hope you can understand.
From strangeness to enthusiasm, if such a small thing as paying for a meal just happened by chance, then there is nothing wrong with it. But this is already a unit culture, and it may have been predetermined by the leadership, so it is said to be premeditated. From formality to activeness. Those who are not familiar with the business, in such a happy atmosphere, will also quickly grasp and quickly adapt to the work that should be done.
Not only can you not buy this order, but you can't stay in such a unit, and the sentence that the embankment collapsed in the anthill for a thousand miles also just illustrates this truth, if you don't care about this unit culture and think that this is a trivial matter, then you are wrong. The cultural literacy of this department is so low, so it can probably be judged that the cultural literacy of this unit is not much better.
According to normal habits, when a person first arrives in an unfamiliar environment, he will feel unaccustomed, and the first impression of this place is also very deep. Therefore, everyone will often welcome the newcomers to the department dinner to welcome you, and they will not let you pay, which is common sense. It's really rare to see this like you said, and it's the department head who makes you pay. Maybe the director is a person who likes to joke, maybe the director has drunk too much... But, whatever the reason, the director said so, and you generously bought the order. , try to take care of the newcomer's food, clothing, housing and transportation, so that he has a warm feeling.
The department welcomes you at dinner, it is the department to welcome newcomers, in addition to work, it is very important for everyone to cooperate between departments. The original colleague is already familiar with you, you are an outsider, and you are still the youngest, so you want to express your sincerity. Although eating, drinking, and having fun has nothing to do with work, the necessary communication is still needed, which means that your department is not cold. Either use the department's funds to give others the impression that you are an honest person who is easy to bully. In the future, if there is any extra work that you should not do, of course those who cheat and cheat will think of you, and the supervisor will also think of you, and you can even ask for a meal that you should not have paid for, so how can you open your mouth to refuse at that time. Either the supervisor pays the bill, or the department colleague AA asks you, and there is no reason for you to pay.
Should I take the initiative to pay for dinner with leaders and colleagues? What is the reason?
1. Leaders or colleagues have a treat, don't rush to pay. If it is said in advance, this meal is invited by the leader or colleagues, and this situation has been indicated in advance. Then at this time, you should not be too fond of expressing yourself, scrambling to pay, for example, the leader invites the collective to dinner, if you take the initiative to pay for the leader, it will definitely make other colleagues have reverie and suspicion, there is no need to hurt the leader's situation in order to please the leader. If you feel embarrassed, you can reflect it in another way, and you can take the initiative to invite them to dinner next time.
2. Leaders can take the initiative to pay for dinner when they meet alone to get closer. The domestic workplace culture is the opposite of the Western workplace culture. In the West, dinner parties are not AA and should be paid for by the person in the highest position. The workplace conforms to the unspoken rules of Chinese human society. The lower the position, the lower the bill. The higher the position, the less accustomed it is to bringing money. I often see leaders eating, which is the canteen model. If you take the initiative to pay, you will definitely be despised by your colleagues. In a small restaurant, seeing the leader eat and take the initiative to pay, it is not the leader, it is human nature. In addition, if two people eat alone, the cost will not be very high. It's easy to get closer to each other by taking the initiative to pay. You're having dinner with your friends, and it just so happens that the leader and your friends are also eating. When two groups meet, you don't know the nature of the leader's meal, whether someone else invites the leader, or the leader invites someone else.
3. Yes, it is also very sensible in this way, but the general leader will also transfer the money to you later, but if the other party does not do this, then you can avoid going out to eat together afterwards. I think you should take the initiative to check out, especially if the fees are low. Be positive and let your boss see your sincerity. If the expenses are significant, you can put on a show and stimulate your boss to show off his bluff and get him to settle the bill. It depends on whether the leader is willing to be reimbursed. If he doesn't get reimbursed, he often goes out to eat and won't take the initiative to settle the bill. He is the leader and does not settle the bills yet. If the leader is better, that's fine.
