The more capable people are, the more they have these 5 characteristics at dinner
1. Never drink indiscriminately
Capable people never drink indiscriminately, showing their efficiency and self-discipline. They are able to control their desires and impulses, remain calm and rational at meals, and do not lose their temper easily. They speak and express themselves in a measured way, and do not say big things at will, reflecting their sense of proportion and self-control. They know how to control the amount of alcohol they drink and do not easily fall into addiction. This quality allows them to have more opportunities and success at dinners.
2. Never advise alcohol
Never persuade alcohol means that at dinner, people who have the ability never persuade them to drink, they pay attention to the feelings of others, and they will not force others to do things they are not willing to do. They have their own bottom line and principles and will not easily infringe on the interests and dignity of others. This quality is important at dinners, because a drinking party is an important occasion for interpersonal relationships, and if someone can never discourage alcohol, they will be able to establish a good reputation and gain more respect and trust.
3. Never flaunt your wealth
People who never flaunt their wealth are nothing more than to satisfy their vanity, to be envied, to be in the limelight, and to trample on the self-esteem of others by the way.
4. High-profile checkout
People who pay high-profile checkouts always like to check out high-profile when they eat and drink, for fear of being known that they are paying, and pretend to show their rich strength. They know how to spend money to buy face, in order to impress their friends. This kind of behavior may feel a bit ostentatious, but it is often because they are not rich in the depths of their hearts, or they are trying to escape from reality. High-profile checkouts, although they seem simple on the outside, have a hidden wisdom and ability.
5. Never stutter
People who never stammer tend to be introverts, not good at interacting with people, confident that they don't need to stammer, or flatter. They don't take the initiative to take chances, and they don't deliberately curry favor with others. This attitude allows them to stay calm at the dinner and not easily reveal their true thoughts. They are able to find their place in the dinner and show their worth.
The essence of the wine party
1. At dinner, to see whether a person has real ability, just look at how big a person will lose his temper, because the more capable people are, the more solutions they have to solve problems when facing difficulties, so they will not be troubled and angry because of small things. This is what the ancients said "the wise man has no worries"
2. Someone deliberately derogates you at the dinner, and you have to unceremoniously direct a "killing chickens and monkeys". If you back down, then you are cowardly, you will lose all your connections, and no one wants to be friends with cowards. Being too kind is a danger, and the more injurious it is, the more you can avoid being hurt.
3. Chat at dinner, the most taboo is to talk deeply, most of the chats in public are entertaining, the real value of in-depth communication must be one-on-one private communication, don't ask others sensitive questions at the dinner, no one will tell the truth if you ask, and what you continue to ask will only be lies.
4. What to say at the dinner depends on your position, it can be said that "the ass determines eloquence", what role to play and what to say, saying the wrong thing is worse than doing the wrong thing, less talk and listen more, and if you say more, you will lose if you say more, especially when your status is not high and the amount of alcohol is not good, silence is more popular than not having anything to say.
5. Drinking at dinner, no matter how enjoyable you are, you can't easily promise, because light promises will inevitably lead to untrustworthiness. It is frivolous to easily make promises beyond ability, and it is frivolous to make promises within ability. I don't make a promise, so I don't live up to it. If you don't keep your promise, you don't live up to me.
6. Participate in the dinner, why can't you get connections by drinking desperately? Drinking because you are wronged will only bring a sense of conquest to others, and reckless drinking, not only harms your health, but also makes onlookers feel hypocritical. True networking is based on the fact that both parties have "use value". Networking is the result of success, not your path to success.
7. The key to the dinner is in the bureau, not in the meal. To not understand this is to not understand the world. The word "bureau" reveals that the participants or initiators are designed, have a theme, and have a purpose. Only by knowing the theme of the dinner will you not say the wrong thing, knowing the purpose of the dinner will not do the wrong thing, and knowing the design intention of the dinner will win the overall situation.
8. Drink at the dinner, you can't refuse a glass of wine that you really should drink, and it is not the wine itself that cannot be refused, but the person you ask. If you want to be in the right place, you have to cater to the other person's preferences, and if the other person wants you to drink, you have to drink. Surviving for a better life is much more painful than you think.
9. Dinner is a social identity system in China. What kind of dinner you attend means what kind of interest, wealth, status and status you have. The more high-end the meal, the more closed it is. The best way to stop ineffective socializing is to only participate in meals that are beneficial to you.
Capable people usually have some characteristics. Especially at the wine table, it can be best performed, so let's briefly analyze it.
First of all, China is a country of etiquette, and what I like most is to hold all kinds of wine parties, especially in the business field. If he is a professional businessman, he probably spends all of his dinner throughout the year with various people in the business. An ordinary table of wine will be filled with all kinds of people. Who is the most capable can be seen through the following characteristics.
First, the first person to be toasted at the table. The Chinese are the most vicious in their eyesight, and the various people at the wine table are also the most snobbish. Therefore, often the first glass of wine is toasted to the most powerful person in the whole banquet, who may be the most powerful or the richest. So if you're participating in an unfamiliar drinking party that many people don't know at the table, don't act rashly at this time. Don't raise a glass first, just sit quietly, see who the first person to be toasted is, you can understand who the most powerful person at the wine table is, and then slowly observe the words and colors, and integrate into the wine game.
Second, the one who is always sober at the drinking party. For Chinese, drinking is often not a sign of indulgence. It's a science. People who can drink can do all kinds of things at the drinking party, and people who can't drink can do a lot of things at the drinking party. Some people have a few glasses of wine, and the wine worm is in the brain, and they immediately talk about it, and even forget the difference between the host and the guest, as if the whole world is his, for this kind of person, sooner or later something will happen in the wine party. The more capable a person is, the more humble his performance will be at the wine table, and everyone will take care of it, and will not only respect the leader's wine, nor will he force others to make it difficult, and he will not have to drink a full glass of others, let alone bring his emotions to the wine table. Moreover, he knows how much alcohol he can drink at most, and he will always grasp that degree, and he will never let himself be in an embarrassing situation of being unconscious in the drinking party.
