Men's unfeeling is to delete, not to pull black.
If a man really decides to put you down, he will not delete or pull black, so let you put it. Because boys' thinking is rational, while girls' thinking is emotional, boys will feel that their hearts are gone, and it is difficult to cultivate feelings again.
If he thinks you are disturbing him, he keeps sending messages to him, causing trouble in his life. For example, he has a girlfriend. In this case, he will delete you. And he can make sure that you add it again. He doesn't agree, and he won't add you again. This is true unfeeling.
The remedy for being blackmailed by your boyfriend
1. Cold treatment
Cold treatment is just when he pulled you black at the beginning. Since he still needs to do so after breaking up, it proves that he has made a decision. If you start making difficulties at this time, or even pestering, he may become more and more bored with you over time. At this time, the cold treatment does not agree that the relationship between you is over, but does not continue to increase negative energy and let him dilute your negative impact.
2. Find the problem
If you want to recover from being cheated by your boyfriend, you should first solve the reasons that affect your feelings and make him cheat after breaking up. Only when we find out the cause and solve the problem, and then re contact the other party to use the recovery skills, we will not do useless work.
For boys, pulling black is even more unfeeling.
Because Lahei means that if the other party doesn't take the initiative to add you or disagree, then you are only strangers after all.
The deletion operation is usually peaceful. We often use the deletion of friends operation, which is to delete some WeChat "friends" who have not been in contact for a long time and do not know each other. This is a kind of redundancy clearing. In terms of psychological motivation, it is just a kind of peaceful normal operation, generally without emotional color.
However, black pulling is often punitive and emotional, which is equivalent to making the black pulling party shut up and unable to defend itself. When we are angry or harassed, we often interrupt our communication by pulling black.
From the perspective of intimacy, I have blackmailed you, which is equivalent to locking you into a small dark room and not letting you talk. But you are still mine. When I get over my anger, I will pull you out of the blacklist and have a pleasant chat.
Of course, it may be that I will be merciless to you to the end. After you are blacklisted, before I remove you from the blacklist, you have no chance to defend yourself. A permanent blacklist means never having a chance.
From this, we can see that deleting a friend is more like putting it down or ignoring it, while blacking a friend means being angry, hateful or even hateful.
With the arrival of the 5G era, more and more people use chat platforms. Of course, chat platforms bring convenience to our lives, but also bring us some bad experiences. For example, when a couple has a conflict, during the cold war, when you want to send a message to the other party, you suddenly find that you have been blackmailed or deleted? So when boys pull girls black or delete them, which one is more unfeeling? Most unacceptable?
1、 The reason for blackout and deletion is love
If you want to say which kind of behavior is more unfeeling, it mainly depends on the boys' attitude towards love. For most men, love is not the most important thing. Behind love is responsibility, so boys will be more rational when dealing with love. He doesn't pull black and delete people who don't matter. Why only does he do this to the person he deeply loves? It's because of love. He wants to make himself try to forget.
2、 One day, when you send a message to the other party and are rejected, it means that he may have plans to leave, but the other party has not completely abandoned your idea, or the other party has not completely put down, so he will pull you black and calm down. The deletion is to clear everything about you. At this time, he does not want to have any relationship with you. Even if he is added as a friend again in the future, the original record will disappear.
3、 The most unacceptable one is the one that is more difficult to accept than pulling black and deleting, but what is more terrible than the two is that when two people are together, their hearts have already gone their separate ways. When there are unsolvable contradictions between lovers, or even when they are stuck in a stalemate for a long time, if they can't find a better way to get along, this feeling of being broken will happen sooner or later. By this time, there are still so many people who can't accept it.
Therefore, neither blacking nor deleting is merciless. If you are still on the other party's list, the other party can't help thinking of you when they see your avatar. The most terrible thing is that you are clearly on his friends list, but no matter how you send messages, you are indifferent.
