What should we do about interpersonal anxiety? It's really wonderful to get along with people. In real life, many people hurt themselves because of making friends, so we need to maintain our own principles and bottom line and treat people sincerely. What should we do about interpersonal anxiety?
1. Dredging method: Dredging is a kind of psychotherapy for anxiety. It mainly uses persuasion, enlightenment, explanation, encouragement and other methods according to different patients or different conditions to help patients understand themselves, enhance treatment confidence, mobilize treatment initiative, so as to achieve the purpose of treatment and rehabilitation.
2. Cognitive method: any psychological process of human beings is completed under the control of consciousness. When a person's cognition is biased or makes wrong comments and explanations, it will lead to bad emotions and behaviors. Therefore, cognitive approach is a good way to treat anxiety.
3. Behavior therapy: through learning and training, adjust and transform people's various behaviors and establish new normal behaviors, which is the theoretical basis of behavior therapy. Behavior therapy generally includes systematic desensitization, aversion therapy, behavior shaping, standard rewards, relaxation therapy, skill guidance, self-regulation, biofeedback, etc.
4. Hint method: Hint is one of the ways to relieve anxiety, which is mainly carried out when the patient is awake or hypnotized. It can make the patient enter the hypnotic state through hypnotic suggestion therapy, and then use words to hint.
Many people with interpersonal anxiety disorder are extremely afraid of speaking in public or talking with others in social occasions. Interpersonal anxiety disorder is not only a disease that seriously hinders the career development of patients, but also a very serious psychological disease. Therefore, timely treatment is a matter that cannot be ignored.
Performance of workplace anxiety symptoms:
1. Causes:
(1) Work: mismatched leadership style, heavy workload, high difficulty in work, unclear tasks, difficult to guarantee results or work unable to meet our personal needs can all lead to work anxiety.
(2) Life: major changes in family life, emotional problems, personal physical and mental health and other issues occupy a lot of energy, which will affect the work and also cause anxiety in the work.
2. Symptoms:
(1) In terms of cognition: I always worry about not finishing my work or not finishing it well, or think that the current work state does not meet my expectations, I am dissatisfied with my work and life state, or I am uncertain about the future. It's easy to worry about what the future will be like. There is often a sense of self denial at work.
(2) In behavior: going to work is like going to the grave, and going off duty is like celebrating the New Year; Avoid leaders and decisions; It is also easy to have inattention, and some anxiety states with high work pressure will also have chest tightness, dyspnea, insomnia, panic, etc.
(3) Emotionally: it is easy to show high tension, irritability, stress state and behavior, persistent anxiety, creeping fatigue, and self disorientation. Unable to engage in work, or persistent mental depression.
You may be familiar with the topic of "the cause of exam anxiety". The first thing that comes to mind is that the pressure is too great and the competition is too fierce. What we don't know is that students' pre-test anxiety caused by interpersonal problems accounts for a large proportion of middle and high exam anxiety. Here are some common situations to share with you:
Scenario 1:
So and so students used to be very close to me, but I don't know why, they ignored me recently, and they also alienated me with other students. I'm worried now, and I don't know what to do?
analysis:
After further understanding of the visitor's situation, she realized that it was her childhood trauma that made her communicate poorly with her parents, so she was eager to find good communication from her peers, but she did not know that there was a big cognitive bias in her heart. She thought: I should get corresponding rewards for my efforts, Therefore, in the process of communication with peers, there appeared very caring emotions and behaviors, which made the peers leave her. After several sand table play therapy and cognitive adjustment, the client's mood basically stabilized.
Scenario 2:
Several students in my class and I have excellent scores and are competing fiercely with each other. This year, the middle school entrance exam is coming, and our competition is even more obvious. I pay close attention to what each other is doing almost every day? One day, I found several of them talking together. It seemed that they were speaking ill of me, so I quarreled with them. Since then, our relationship has been very tense.
analysis:
It can be clearly seen that the visitor's interpersonal problems were caused by jealousy, which affected his examination review and caused anxiety. The jealousy of Chinese people is particularly strong. How to turn their jealousy into the motivation of efforts is very critical. Otherwise, it will harm themselves and others, and even the society. This visitor is hurting himself. However, after consulting, he understood his problem and adjusted his mental state well before the exam.
Scenario 3:
I often quarrel with my boyfriend, and every time I end up in failure. The reason is as follows: When I see or hear my boyfriend talking or joking with other girls, I will be frightened, and then I will have some unreasonable demands on him. At this time, he will not let me, and the result is a quarrel. The whole process often occurs in my study and life, which seriously affects my college entrance examination review.
analysis:
According to the interview with her, the visitor realized that it was her parents who loved her very much, even doted on her since childhood, which led to the current wayward and strong mentality, and the wrong perception that "my boyfriend can only belong to me". When the boyfriend was slightly uncomfortable with himself, she would quarrel with him. She ignored that the boyfriend was also an only child, It is also the treasure of parents. Although I realized my misconception, I couldn't change it. At the critical moment of the college entrance examination, how to adjust myself is the most important. This visitor has a strong desire to ask for help, which is enough to prove that her heart will slowly calm down.
