The friendship between simple people and real people may be more complicated. Here are some possible challenges and solutions:
1. Understanding and trust: simple people are usually more idealistic, while realistic people pay more attention to practical results and interests. This may lead to differences and misunderstandings between the two sides when dealing with issues. The solution is that both sides need to understand and respect each other's ideas and positions as much as possible, and establish a good relationship of trust to jointly solve problems.
2. Communication mode: simple people are usually more direct and frank, while real people may pay more attention to protecting themselves and speak more tactfully. This may lead to a feeling of unsmooth communication between the two parties. The solution is that both parties need to express their ideas and feelings as clearly and directly as possible, and learn to listen to the other party's voice to establish a good communication relationship.
3. Difference in values: simple people usually pay more attention to emotion and morality, while real people may pay more attention to actual effects and interests. This may lead to differences in values when dealing with problems. The solution is that both sides need to respect each other's values, try to understand the problem from the other's perspective, and adhere to their own principles and values.
4. Way of doing things: simple people are usually more idealistic, while real people may pay more attention to practical results and interests. This may lead to differences in the way the two sides deal with problems. The solution is that both parties need to solve the problem through negotiation as far as possible, while respecting the other party's way of doing things, so as to establish a good cooperative relationship.
The friendship between simple people and real people needs to be based on understanding and trust. Through good communication and mutual respect, we can overcome the differences and differences between the two sides and establish a stable and healthy friendship.
Don't be too simple
1. Don't be too enthusiastic about people
The biggest character characteristic of honest people is their inferiority complex and pleasing personality. Don't dare to fall out with others for fear of causing trouble. I am ashamed to refuse others' request for fear of breaking up the relationship. It is this weakness in character that leads to losses everywhere. Obviously, you don't like the other person, but if the other person asks you for help, you will probably help him, hoping to repair the relationship. But the workplace villains will not accept your love. When you can't stand to refuse, your relationship will still break and will never be repaired.
If you don't want to be calculated, don't be too enthusiastic about others. This is not to make you look good, but to be moderate. Don't deliberately please others, and protect your own principles and bottom line. Don't be afraid to offend others.
2. Don't judge others
Those who like to say right and wrong are most likely to provoke right and wrong, especially honest people with low EQ, who often offend people without knowing why. Honest people should always remember that they should not judge others or speak ill of others behind their backs. Especially those who have nothing to do with your interests, try not to mention the other party. Even if other colleagues speak ill of others in front of you, you should not agree with them in order to please them. Don't think that if you speak ill of others behind their backs, they won't know. There are no secrets in the workplace. If you tell your secrets in the wind, the wind will blow all over the forest.
You can speak well of others behind their backs. If they hear you speak highly of them behind their backs, they will thank you from the bottom of their hearts.
3. Know how to control emotions
You should know that there is never a shortage of villains in the workplace. When you are not strong enough, you will inevitably encounter the other side's calculation. If you have been calculated by the other party, don't feel sorry for yourself, but learn from your mistakes, and be prepared next time. Honest people should learn to restrain their emotions and not be impulsive. The villain in the workplace is good at provoking discord. If you are impulsive when something happens, you can easily be shot. When people are angry, their thinking is easy to be confused, and they will do wrong if they can't do it well. Keep calm at all times, and you can see through the routine of villains in the workplace. If you always keep a calm attitude, you will be able to frighten the other party and make him dare not despise you.
4. Be prepared
It is necessary to be harmful and defensive. Honest people do not know how to harm others. They are afraid that they will suffer losses. But you should also remember not to be calculated by others. A man must be prepared, and can't trust anyone completely. Human nature is very complicated. Good and evil can not be excluded from each other. Even people who are good to you, who are honest with you, will dictate to you in order to meet the control desire, not to mention colleagues in the workplace. These villains can do anything to calculate you.
If you are always on guard, you will not be too warm to others and know how to protect your own interests. If you know how to maintain your bottom line, you will not be calculated easily.
5. Work must be focused
Honest people are simple in character, but their thoughts are chaotic. They lack a sense of security and are prone to cranky thoughts. Such divergent thinking will cause great difficulties in work. You just can't do some simple things well. You have a good working attitude and are willing to do the hard work that others do not want to do. But if you do your job badly, you will never expect a promotion or a raise in your life. If you want to work without making mistakes, you should always keep focused thinking. When doing things, don't think about other things in your mind. If you find yourself distracted, immediately put your mind back to the present. Maybe you don't adapt to this kind of thinking at first, but as long as you cultivate a focused thinking, the work will become very simple.
