Women's friendship is not born thin, which is related to individual differences, environmental factors, cultural background and other factors. The following are some reasons that may lead to the weakening of women's friendship:
1. Lack of mutual support and understanding: friendship between women should be based on mutual support and understanding. If there is no atmosphere of mutual support and understanding between two women, the friendship will gradually become thin.
2. Competition and jealousy: There is also competition and jealousy among women. If the competition and jealousy between two women are too intense, the friendship will break down.
3. Different life stages: over time, the life stages of two women may change, such as marriage, childbearing, work, etc. These changes may lead to the thinning of their friendship.
4. Ways to deal with conflict: The way women deal with conflict may also lead to the thinning of friendship. If there is a communication barrier between two women or the way to deal with conflict is improper, the friendship will break down.
The friendship between women needs to be maintained and cherished by both sides. If there is a problem between two women, they should communicate and solve it in time to keep the friendship healthy and stable. At the same time, we should support and understand each other to establish sincere friendship.
There are three main reasons for girls' fragile friendship. One is jealousy, the other is that they attach too much importance to friendship, and the third is that they take friendship for granted.
1. Jealousy
Jealousy among girls is pervasive, especially when two girls who are close to each other become friends, they must secretly compare with each other, such as academic performance, physical appearance, popularity, personality, quality of boyfriends, and the gap between one of them and the other who has made too fast progress, which will stimulate people's instinctive jealousy.
These inexplicable jealousies and jealousies can't be seen on the stage, but they do exist. My idea is that if you are the better one of the two, you should take a low attitude in front of her, talk about your unhappiness more sincerely, and praise your good friends more.
If you are the one who is slightly worse, you should maintain self-confidence, pay more attention to your own advantages, and face the gap calmly. In short, no matter where you are, sincerity is the most important word.
2. Take friendship too seriously
People who value their feelings will also have higher requirements for the purity of their feelings, such as requiring friends to be upright, considerate and loyal at the same time.
But the fact is that the higher the purity of something, the more dirty it will be. In general, the friendship between you and her is not so special, and it cannot rise to the level of loyalty and righteousness.
Using these "ideal friend" rules to ask friends to be disappointed at the end, and taking the feelings between friends too seriously will also lead to magnifying all unnecessary details.
Just like in love, the more you care, the more suspicious you become. It seems that everything she says and does has another meaning. There are too many such things. It is because you care too much, so you try hard to think about them, and then you become more and more blocked. Finally, there is suspicion.
3. Take friendship for granted
This is to ignore the core value of interpersonal communication: exchange. I read a sentence that feelings are not eternal, but interest exchange is eternal. Exchange between friends includes material exchange and emotional exchange.
Material exchange includes giving gifts to each other on holidays, occasionally inviting dinner and coffee, etc., and material investment. Emotional exchange includes actively chatting with her, friends praising her, sharing their lives, etc., and emotional exchanges.
If a friend has done something for himself, he must remember that reciprocity is needed; If you have done something for a friend, remind yourself that you are a friend, so you don't ask for return.
Any relationship should be managed with a mind. The essence of emotional relationship lies in the exchange of needs. There is no love for no reason in the world. Even with your parents, if you want their love/financial support, you need to pay more attention and contact more in exchange.
How can we have pure friendship?
1. Don't expect pure friendship. You won't expect perfection from each other. It's most comfortable to stay at a certain distance. No one can stand the observation under a magnifying glass, including yourself. Look at people and see their strengths. Learn to dance with people who love dancing, learn to raise children with people who know how to raise children, play with people who love traveling, learn to cook with people who love cooking, earn money with people who can make money, and cultivate feelings who can write poems. Friends are everywhere and happiness is everywhere
2. Revise your mind and cognition. Most of the time, the matter itself is not important, but your own opinion on it is important. Always look at people and things with positive thinking and attitude. It is said that there is nothing in the world, and nobody worries about it.
3. You are the center of the universe. In this life, everyone we meet, parents, spouses, children, brothers and sisters, friends, and enemies, is actually just a passer-by in life, just for our better or worse. Look at yourself and all living beings with the mind of practice. Both parents and children will leave. Only couples have white heads, but they also play games and are their own independent souls.
To love yourself, to live and to blossom is the truth of being human, not bird, not fish, not wood. There has never been anyone else in this world, only you, the unique you, irreplaceable you. Everything about you rises because of you.
