In high-end circles, people usually support and help each other. This is because members of high-end circles are often industry leaders, experts or people with high achievements, and their cooperation can have a great impact.
In high-end circles, people can help each other to grow together. Such mutual help can include sharing resources, providing suggestions, introducing contacts, answering questions, etc. These help can make the connection between members closer, and also make it easier for members to succeed.
In addition, members of high-end circles will also develop together through mutual support. Such mutual support can be business cooperation, investment, providing opportunities, etc. These cooperation can make the business between members more extensive, and also make it easier for members to get more opportunities.
In high-end circles, people usually support and help each other. This mutual help and support can make members more closely linked, and also make it easier for members to achieve success and development.
Only by mixing well in circles can we accomplish great things
1、 What is a circle?
It is a group of people who gather together a group of people with the same aspirations or common needs, with communication and feelings as the link. The circle is divided into circle of friends, circle of resource sharing, circle of colleagues, circle of industries, circle of peers, etc. Identity display, resource sharing, emotional exchange and like-minded people are the basic attributes of the circle. The bond that exists in a circle is emotion. People without emotion can't enter a circle even if they have no resource needs. Therefore, the circle should emphasize like-minded and emotional interaction.
2、 Why do you want to mix circles?
Joining a circle must be purposeful. Some are simple and some are complex; Some are utilitarian, some are simple; Some for resources, some for emotions. The ultimate goal of the mixed circle should be "benefit". The purpose can be divided into making friends, opening up horizons, exchanging ideas, improving learning and sharing resources. Making friends and enhancing feelings should be the core purpose in the open, and resource information sharing should be the deep purpose. It takes a lot of time and energy to get involved in the circle, and even to pay membership dues. Isn't it just to get something? Do nothing. Those people might as well stay at home with their wives and children and watch American and Korean dramas.
3、 What are the principles for selecting circles?
1. Self like principle. It is to select a circle of people who are similar to themselves in terms of social experience, educational background, values, world outlook, aspirations, etc. Choose a circle that is too high-end. For one thing, people don't take you with them, and for another, you can't play with them. If you choose a circle that is too low-end, you will feel that it is a waste of time.
2. Proximity principle. It means that people in a circle are easy to contact, approach and carry out circle activities. For example, colleague circle, industry circle, classmate circle, friend circle, etc. If circle activities stay online, the viscosity will be relatively low, and if more offline activities are carried out, the viscosity will be much higher. Therefore, whether offline communication can be conducted is an important parameter of the circle.
4、 How can you fool around?
In other words, how can you make insiders accept you, affirm you, or even praise you? The mixed technology circle relies on the ability of technical masters; The mixed investment circle relies on the identity of the investor; It is the relationship of friends that makes friends; Mixed entrepreneurial circles rely on the identity of entrepreneurs or would-be entrepreneurs, etc. Generally speaking, the first reason for mixing in circles is that you have similar identity, the second reason is that you share the same ideals, and the third reason is that you have the resources that others need.
5、 What is the rule of mixing circles?
1. Pay attention to the quality of the circle and the quality of the insiders.
The quality of a circle depends on the quality of its insiders. The number of people in the circle does not depend on the number of people, but on whether each person in the circle has weight and is active. If there are too many people without weight, then this circle has no value. Everyone together is just yelling at each other to eat and drink, or to be casual. What's the significance of existence? If everyone's ideas can't resonate here, can't stimulate new ideas and ideas, can't optimize the combination of resources here, and can't share information, then the circle will lose its value of existence.
The circle you join does not have to be "there are great scholars talking and laughing, but there are no white scholars coming and going", but it must be useful to yourself. What you need can be satisfied to a certain extent in the circle. For example, the members of the entrepreneurial circle may not have a high culture, but they may have some good business ideas, which just enlighten you. So you can have a deep talk with him, maybe even talk about a big company.
2. Actively share your value and make contributions to the circle.
Some people think that wandering in circles is just looking for resources, which is actually the wrong starting point. Resources are not found, but exchanged. If you want to find resources, you should have corresponding resources to change. Your position in the circle is often judged according to your charm and contribution. If you have no sense of existence and are unwilling to pay, insiders will slowly leave you. A person who only wants to take, but doesn't want to give, is just like a friend who doesn't pay for every party, which is particularly annoying. Once or twice, they take you to play. After a long time, they don't kill you at all. Therefore, you should show your value, that is, tell everyone what you can bring and do for everyone. When members of the circle are willing to show value, share interests and make positive contributions, each member can make progress and improve here, get benefits and help, and the circle is very valuable. Someone has to say, don't be so utilitarian. Aren't we all friends? Please remember: Friends who are mutually beneficial are the most lasting friends.
3. The purpose of mixing in circles should not be annoying.
All circles are purposeful, but your purpose should not be obnoxious or too obvious. Some people come in just a few days and ask this person to help them. They borrow money from that person, hoping to get the white wolf with their bare hands. Or flatter the big shots in the circle with high status, and the behavior is disgusting. At first sight, such people are not conscientious and purposeful, and will be rejected by insiders sooner or later.
4. Pay attention to the rules of each circle.
Each circle has certain rules, some expressed as the theme and program, and some expressed as the culture or hidden rules of the circle. For example, adding groups can't advertise, which is the rule. If you do not participate in the activity for three times, you will automatically withdraw from the meeting. Council members have the right to vote to expel a member from membership, etc. Before you enter a circle, you should carefully read these rules and hidden rules, otherwise you will commit the taboo of the circle.
5. Choose the boss and surround it around the core of the circle.
A circle, a circle, is a circle only when it is turned around. A circle must have a leader and a core, so that the circle can turn around. Therefore, we must find the core of the circle, and then closely unite around him, in order to obtain the greatest recognition of the circle and the highest status. If there is no core in a circle, the circle will break up sooner or later. If it is too far away from the core, it will be thrown out of the circle sooner or later by the centrifugal force of the circle.
6. Take an active part and pay time and energy.
The circle is a group, which must be cohesive. If the circle convenes an activity and few people attend, the circle will break up sooner or later. As the core personnel of the circle, the most annoying ones are those who often do not participate in activities. If you are a super big guy, that's all right. But if you are just an ordinary person and have no weight, you'd better come to every event. Don't ask for leave or make excuses easily. If you are an insider without much weight, as long as there are activities in the circle, you should actively participate in the organizing committee, pay time and energy, and show your importance, so that you can become famous in this group.
It is suggested that your circle can start with the following methods:
(1) Seek help from people around you
Everyone's social networking circle starts with the contact and accumulation of their relatives, then slowly goes to teachers, classmates, friends, fellow villagers and colleagues, and finally breaks through to a larger and more high-end circle. Among them, because of familiarity and understanding, the circle of people around is often the most solid and reliable circle. Relatives, fellow townsmen, classmates, comrades in arms and colleagues may all become "VIPs" in career development. It also needs to be understood that the biggest gain from working in a company is not just how much money you have earned and how much experience you have accumulated; It also includes how many people we have known, how many friends we have made, and how many network resources we have accumulated. Because this kind of human resources will continue to play a role and become intangible assets and wealth after leaving the company.
(2) Make friends with key and important people
Only by constantly knowing those who can change or help, can we build a useful network resource library. To know the key and important people, of course, you should first open yourself up and start from various channels, not just limited to the circle you often contact, unless you are already a very high-end person. For example, students can try to participate in various important activities of the school as volunteers or volunteers, lectures for successful people, exhibitions outside the school, etc; Graduates strive for first-class large companies, get to know more outstanding people through professional communication, and those who have some savings and work experience can participate in more conferences and forums with top people.
(3) Keep an open mind to meet "strangers"
Everyone is eager to get additional help, especially when it is still difficult to achieve success after exhausting their own resources. Therefore, we must maintain an open attitude towards strangers, which is actually the ability of interpersonal communication. Of course, keeping an open mind to know "strangers" or liking interpersonal communication is not to trust strangers easily or make friends everywhere.
(4) Maintain good interpersonal network
The most important thing is to maintain a good interpersonal network.
——Fill in the record card. Keep a record of the people you meet in activities. Don't just write down their names or keep their business cards. Write down what you are most interested in their work and what they are interested in, including some special things. Although there are not many details, it can certainly play a great role when needed.
——Keep the loyalty behind. In interpersonal relationships, a very fundamental principle is to make people feel your trust as much as possible, and gain trust in this way. This requires doing many things, such as praising rather than criticizing in front of friends.
——Blessings on special days. Small things can also have a big impact. Send a short message, an email, etc. to an acquaintance on a special day, which includes birthday, wedding, promotion, etc. Of course, don't forget to give a blessing and encouragement when others are in trouble.
——Maintain communication and meeting channels. Meet with peers at the party every month, and there will be many free internal information at this internal party; The channel of meeting and communicating with friends will not fade away. Of course, when others have information, they will certainly not forget to provide it.
