There are many reasons why too honest people may be unpopular. The following are some possible factors:
1. Lack of confidence and initiative: Honest people tend to be introverted, lack of confidence, and are not good at communicating with others and establishing contacts. This behavior may make others feel that they are unfriendly or difficult to approach.
2. Lack of social skills: Some honest people may lack social skills and do not know how to communicate with others and establish good relationships. This may cause them to behave less naturally or fluently in social occasions, affecting their popularity.
3. Too modest and shrinking: Some honest people are too modest and shrinking, and are unwilling to show their personality and ability in front of others. This kind of performance may make others feel that they lack confidence or determination, and also affect their popularity.
4. Lack of interests: Some honest people may lack interests and hobbies, and do not know how to find common topics and interests with others. This may cause them to behave monotonously and uninteresting in social occasions, affecting their popularity.
5. Too much pursuit of perfection: Some honest people are too much pursuit of perfection and have too high demands on themselves and others. This kind of performance may make others think that they are more demanding or critical, and also affect their popularity.
Too honest people may not perform well in interpersonal communication for various reasons, leading to poor popularity. However, through active self exploration and skill improvement, they can gradually improve their interpersonal relationships and gain better popularity.
Everyone likes to get along with honest people, because most of them are honest and honest. Nowadays, the honest people in the society are generally poor! Some people even suggested that the more honest people are, the worse their popularity is. Why does this strange phenomenon appear? The main reasons are as follows:
1. Inappropriate way of speaking
Most honest people like to tell the truth and come straight to the point, which is why they are trustworthy. However, in this process, they are easy to ignore each other's feelings and hurt or hit people around them.
In life, not everyone has an open mind. Language is a unique art. The same problem and the same thing can be expressed in a euphemistic and implicit way to achieve better results.
The psychological Aronson effect tells us that people always like to be praised and encouraged by others to avoid negative attitudes and thoughts. To learn to communicate with different types of people is not to cater to the whim, but to communicate normally.
2. Poor first impression
A Xi, a famous social psychologist, believes that when people first meet each other, their first impressions will form memories in the brain, which will guide and occupy the primary position for a long time, that is, psychological primacy effect.
However, most honest people are not good at communication, so it is difficult for them to make a good first impression on each other. In the process of first meeting, they are easy to miss some important links, which are manifested in resistance and social avoidance. In their view, frequent social interaction is a psychological burden.
3. Honest people tend to feel inferior
Psychologists believe that another prominent feature of honest people is the inferiority complex. They always like to magnify their own shortcomings and compare them with the advantages of other people, which is undoubtedly self inflicted trouble.
In addition, this kind of psychology prevents them from finding their own advantages, and at the same time limits their own development, leading them to be unaccustomed to interacting with people around them. At this time, quiet solitude is more suitable for them, because they can enjoy their own time, do what they like, and do not have to force themselves to "face contact" with others.
Why don't honest people invite people
1. Honest people don't stand out
In interpersonal relationships, in the eyes of many people, an honest person is equivalent to being dull and has no outstanding expertise, so many people do not like to associate with him. The interpersonal relationship itself stresses mutual benefit. If you are valuable to me, then I will remember you. On the other hand, the halo effect of psychology finds that people's cognition and judgment of a person often start from the local and diffuse to get the overall impression, that is, they often generalize.
If a person is marked as good, he will be shrouded in a halo of positive affirmation and endowed with the quality that everything is good; If a person is marked as bad, he is enveloped by a halo of negative negation and is considered to have various bad qualities. The reason why honest people are in a weak position in social life
2. Honest people have no personality
People are afraid that it is not mediocrity, but lack of personality. Many honest people are unpopular. In fact, there is another factor, lack of personality. According to psychology, those who are popular have obvious personality tags. What is personality? Personality is something unique to a person. For example, being cheerful, introverted, calm, honest, versatile, and fond of traveling can all become a person's personality label. Honest people often give the impression that they have no personality, which is also because they do not know how to use labels to shape themselves in a social environment.
3. Honest people are not human
Honest people can actually be said to be people with good three outlooks, but it is precisely these people with good three outlooks who do not know the pros and cons of human nature, so they are easy to get on the top line. Although they abide by rules and disciplines in life, they do not know what the truth of human nature is. This stereotype of inhumanity makes them narrow minded and easy to get into trouble.
