I'm sorry to hear that such a problem has occurred in your relationship. Long distance love is very difficult, but it is not insurmountable. Many people successfully survive long distance love through common beliefs and efforts. However, sometimes even if we try hard, the relationship may still have problems.
If you have overcome long-distance love but failed in reality, you may need to consider some other factors, such as whether the two sides have similar lifestyles and values, whether they can support and understand each other, and whether they can face challenges in life together.
At this time, you need to seriously consider what problems have occurred in your relationship, whether they can be solved, and how to take measures to improve the relationship. If you still love each other, try to have an in-depth conversation, find out the root of the problem and find solutions.
At the same time, we should also understand that the end of a relationship is not a failure, but an opportunity to grow and learn. You can learn from this experience, grow and improve yourself, and prepare for the next relationship.
There are many examples of this in real life, including many people around us who have survived long-distance love. However, when we really get married together, life will soon divorce. This shows that love and marriage are two different feelings, which can not be mentioned in the same breath. Romance and beauty are the same feelings. Love only exists in young people. The world outlook and values of young people are different from those of old people. Young people pay attention to romance and sentiment when they fall in love. This romantic and emotional tone, to a large extent, is not mixed with any material and interest disputes. It is a simple love relationship, so the feelings are relatively pure. Pure feelings are often illusory and unstable. Although it is a long-distance love affair, because of pure feelings and good emotional foundation, yearning all the time can show the deep feelings between young people. But when you really get married together, that is another matter. After marriage, you have formed a family, which is independent of other feelings, and you need to be responsible for this family, We will work together to nurture children for this family. In this process, it is precisely because your previous love slowly turns into family love, and the family love itself is as plain as water. He and your previous hot love, the feelings are different. It is precisely because it will be easier to understand each other in the long-term flat love and marriage life, and whether it really suits you. The problem often arises in this process. Love is beautiful, but life is cruel.
Why does long-distance love break up easily
1. Distance creates too much loneliness
Even if we just said I love you on the phone or on the Internet, even if the phone is hot, but put down the phone, you are still yourself, and you still can't feel the temperature of the other side. When you are wronged, when you are sick, when you need someone to comfort you, when you stand alone, you are so eager for your ta to be around you, even if it is just a hug. But because of the distance, something simple for other lovers has become a luxury. Such a distance directly creates a deep sense of loneliness, which is the most terrible reason for defeating long-distance love.
2. Uncertainties of each other's feelings
Even if two people love each other deeply and trust each other again, all affection will be severely tested in front of time and distance. Knowing that the other party loves itself, they will doubt each other's feelings in lonely moments. Knowing that two people love and miss each other, they will doubt each other in sleepless nights: Do you know my missing? Will he miss me when I miss him? Can our feelings really last forever? wait. In the face of the reality of helplessness, feelings become uncertain and full of uncertainties.
3. Beauty within reach but beyond reach
Even though there are so many ways for long-distance lovers to contact, such as phone calls, text messages, or various online chat tools, they can even see each other all the time. But all these are separated by a computer or mobile phone screen. Even if the other side opens its arms to give you a loving hug, you can only imagine the warmth and tenderness of the other side across the cold screen. Those beautiful things that come from the other side, and the warmth and care that the other side can give, can only be in a place that is within reach but never within reach, which is really a mutual sorrow.
