Here are some of the ways some girls might think of you as a spare tire:
1. Don't take the initiative or refuse: The girl may not take the initiative to contact you, but she will not refuse your invitation and kindness, so that you can always stay with her, but she will not give you any commitment or reply.
2. Hot and cold: A girl may show a hot and cold attitude towards you. Sometimes she is warm and active to you, but sometimes she is cold and heartless to you, which makes you unable to grasp her true thoughts.
3. Not willing to open the relationship: girls may not be willing to establish a relationship with you publicly, nor to open your feelings in the social circle, which makes you feel that your relationship always seems to be separated by a veil.
4. Widely cast the net: A girl may keep an ambiguous relationship with other boys while associating with you, making you feel that she does not really like you, but regards you as one of the spare tires.
5. Consume your efforts: The girl may accept your efforts and gifts, but will not give you any response or return, making you feel that your efforts will not receive a real response.
6. Always need you to coax her: A girl may always need you to coax her happy, but she will not provide you with emotional support and response, making you feel that your efforts are not really rewarded.
7. Always procrastinate: A girl may procrastinate all the time, unwilling to establish a relationship with you or break up with you, so that you will always be in the state of spare tire.
If a girl has the above performance, she may not really like you, but take you as a spare tire. It is recommended that you communicate sincerely with her, let her clarify her ideas, or consider breaking up with her to find a healthier relationship.
If you think a girl uses you as a spare tire, you can consider the following ways to deal with this situation:
1. Maintain self-esteem and respect: Don't let yourself become the spare tire of others, maintain self-esteem and respect your own feelings.
2. Direct communication: communicate your feelings and expectations directly with a girl to see if she is willing to clarify your relationship or give a reasonable explanation.
3. Keep independent and diversified: Don't focus all your attention and energy on one person, keep independent and diversified life, and find a partner more suitable for you.
4. Set boundaries and protect yourself: set clear boundaries, do not tolerate being used as a spare tire, and protect your feelings and interests.
Believe in your own value and ability, and don't sacrifice your happiness to pursue a person who doesn't cherish you enough. It is more important to find a person who truly values you and establish healthy and equal relations.
Skills for pursuing girls
If you want to pursue a girl, the first thing to do is to match the value.
In the process of courtship, both men and women want to have a partner of higher value than themselves, which is a hidden rule in the history of biological evolution. In nature, female animals always want to mate with more powerful male animals, while male animals want to mate with healthy female animals, all in order to make their genes have a long history. The same is true of people: wealth, appearance, knowledge, IQ, EQ, etc. These are all value factors.
A girl with a score of 7 likes almost few boys with a score of 6 or less, and she is more likely to be attracted to boys with a score of 8 or higher; When the score is only 6, the girls who can only pursue 5, 6 or even lower scores will not bother. But the problem is that if they like 7 or even 9 girls, they will start to improve their value. Different from boys, girls like boys and tend to pay more attention to their inner qualities.
Wealth, appearance, personality, talent, etc., you should always have a prominent one. When they show their high value and charm, girls will naturally be attracted to themselves. No money, no face, no body? It doesn't matter. Use character and talent to attract her.
How many beautiful women are the other half of interesting people, rather than tall, rich and handsome. Don't pay attention to her deliberately, but take the initiative to make achievements on the display. Work, school, or watching movies, eating food, traveling, long-distance running, or participating in any interesting activities can all be shown to show your interest and connotation, so as to attract girls.
