It is not always appropriate to like it. This is a very common situation. Although you may have a strong liking or love for someone, if there are large differences or inappropriate factors between them, you may be less likely to be together.
Of course, whether we have the opportunity to be together still needs specific analysis. Here are some possible scenarios:
1. Small difference: if you are not very different, such as similar interests, values, etc., then you are more likely to be together.
2. Problems can be solved: if there are some problems between you, such as differences in distance, family background, occupation, etc., but these problems can be solved through efforts and communication, then you are more likely to be together.
3. Both parties are willing to try: if both of you are willing to try together, and have made efforts and time for each other, then you are more likely to be together.
Everyone's situation is different. The above are only some possible situations, and cannot represent all situations. If you want to be with someone, it is recommended that you first understand each other's situation and ideas, find common ground and solutions, and strive to realize your wishes on the premise of respecting each other.
When a girl says it is inappropriate, you should be clear that she is unwilling to hurt you with cruel words, or she does not contradict you very much. Saying it is suitable is just a warning to you. I don't feel for you now, so don't continue your next step. So here comes the question.... Is there any chance? Although the opportunity is small, it cannot be completely lost. Loser's counter attack exists. However, many men make themselves very embarrassed at this stage. For example, continue to ask the reason, open the mode of endless entanglement, and make yourself depressed. These are just to reduce your impression in women's minds. Try to put yourself in another position. Would you like to see the girl you rejected do the same? So if you want to seize the last chance, you can try the following ways
1、 Please do not contact after being rejected.
Because girls will instinctively have a psychological defense against you after being expressed by you once. If you touch this defense line again in a short time, it is easy to cause psychological tension. When you try to express yourself for the second time, the answer is still refuse. Don't contact for the time being, so as to give both parties a time to relax. First of all, she will think you are a self respecting and mature person because of your behavior. You didn't experience too much emotional turmoil because you were rejected. Her sense of value will rise and she will slowly relax psychologically. Secondly, for you, during this period, can you adjust your emotions and reflect on your shortcomings? Is your way of expressing yourself too reckless? Or is your relationship just wishful thinking? Or is your usual behavior immature? Giving yourself time to think is also a way to grow.
2、 Improve self-worth
There must be a reason why girls think you are unsuitable. After the first step of thinking, you found your own problem. What should you do next? Many boys will make mistakes here again. They are eager to explain what they did badly and how they will do it. And ask the girl to believe in herself and give you a chance to get along. Believe me, it's no use for you to do so, because your attraction to her and yours has not improved. You didn't give her any new attraction, so the effect is the same. Therefore, the correct way is to first increase your attractiveness and work silently for a period of time. Can't contact directly anymore, what should we do? Create opportunities for her to feel your progress, such as the circle of friends, send positive messages to enhance your charm, see if she likes something, or indirectly communicate through your common friends, etc. Not too much, as long as you can make her feel this information occasionally.
3、 Attempt to resume contact
At this time, the girl's psychological defense against you has dropped by half. You can choose to contact, but not too often. If the other party feels pressure, all previous efforts will be in vain. Which contact method is better? Here we must figure out how to increase slowly. For example, starting from WeChat friends' comments, small greetings on festivals will not make the other party too alert. Find the right time point to let the contact improve. For example, leave a message under the circle of friends she sends, or find a topic close to her and talk with her. Note that if you achieve your goal, you'd better take the initiative to end the conversation. Usually at this time of communication, women can do something better without ignoring your message board and chatting up, such as looking for help when she needs help, giving help, or finding a suitable reason to try to invite. Otherwise, continue to downgrade the contact.
4、 Do a good job of secondary attraction
Generally speaking, if a girl agrees to let you help her, or if she agrees to your invitation, your chances will be much better. Although she will be on guard against you psychologically, you should try your best not to let her feel your utilitarianism, just feel comfortable and complacent. Other time, look for another chance! When she contacts you or asks for your help, your second attraction is considered successful, and continuous promotion will make your relationship more ambiguous. Stop thinking about how to express yourself. When there is no good warm taste, try not to tell. When your relationship becomes better than your lover, will you still be afraid that confession will hinder your relationship?
Like and fit are two different concepts. Like only creates feelings for one person, while fit means whether you and the other person are compatible in lifestyle, values, etc. Therefore, like and fit are not necessarily the same.
If two people like each other but are not suitable for being together, they may face many challenges and difficulties. In life, we should not only pursue love, but also consider many practical issues, such as lifestyle, family background, career planning, etc. If two people are not suitable, even if they like each other, they may end up breaking up because of various contradictions.
Therefore, if you and a girl just like each other but are not suitable for being together, then you may not have a chance to stay together for a long time. However, this does not mean that you cannot continue to be friends. You can be frank with her, tell her your feelings for her, but also respect her choice. If you can't become lovers, then becoming good friends is also a good choice.
