As the saying goes, "Men are afraid of getting into the wrong business and women are afraid of getting married to the wrong man." For women, if they marry a man who can't support a family, their life will probably be destroyed. Because men are the backbone of the family. Although women can maintain the family, most of the time they still need men to support the backbone. Otherwise, it is difficult to support a family by women alone. So what are the performances of men who can't support themselves?
1、 Live like a child
Some people are as old as a child and cannot live without their parents. People who can't live without their parents are young. Even if they have another half, they are more like their parents than lovers.
Men, who always shoulder more responsibilities, can have some children's temper and personality, but they should always have all the responsibilities and responsibilities of adults, because the weight of the family is never affordable for children.
2、 I feel comfortable eating soft food
Some men marry to protect their beloved women, while others have nothing to do with love, but the worst men marry to eat soft food.
The men who eat soft food are not absent. Everyone's career rises at different stages. People's life rises and falls, ups and downs. Couples should support each other as a whole.
A marriage can't always let the other party bear the wind and rain, but hide in the other party's arms, especially as a man.
3、 People are poor and have short aspirations
Successful people are always climbing a mountain, steadfast and conscientious. The cowardly man always looks at the mountain, but the mountain has never been climbed.
Change of mind is not limited to the lack of love, but also the lack of perseverance in career.
Marry a man who is not single-minded about love. Even if he can reign in the world, he may have lost you when he becomes famous.
Marry a man who has no perseverance in his career. Even if you support him with all your heart, you can't see the sweet side of hardship.
4、 Cowardly character
In ancient times, the most famous man who could not lift himself was Liu Bei's son, Ah Dou. No matter what the facts in history are, at least the image of Ah Dou created in the romance has become a model that cannot be supported.
The reason is cowardice. If you are too cowardly, you will miss many opportunities. Maybe some women, especially intelligent women, think that even if they marry a cowardly and obedient husband, as long as they can "coach" him well, they can make him succeed.
However, even if a woman is extremely intelligent, who can defeat Zhuge Kongming? Wolong failed to achieve Ah Dou with all his efforts. In a marriage, even if there are few cowardly men like Ah Dou, which woman would like to have a dedicated love?
There are three kinds of men who can't support family responsibilities and can't shield women from the wind and rain. If you really want to marry these three kinds of men, you have to regret it. So when choosing a marriage partner, you should try to stay away from these three kinds of men.
1. Ma Baonan
The first kind of men who are not suitable for marriage is "Ma Bao Men". In fact, it is just a general term for a type of men. It does not mean men who only listen to their mothers, but also men who listen to their fathers, sisters, relatives, and everyone.
I ranked it No. 1 because I had such a friend around me. She married a "Ma Baonan". From childhood to adulthood, her husband's parents protected him very well. They didn't ask him to do anything, and didn't care about any housework. From childhood to adulthood, they didn't accomplish anything independently.
When he was young, he went to school at his home. After college, his parents often rented a house at the school gate to take care of him. His mother often lived there to take care of his college life.
Female compatriots, do you think that after marrying such a man, he can support a family? Can he shelter you and your children? If you are really going to marry "Ma Baonan", you should be prepared to raise your husband as a child, because there is no essential psychological difference between him and a child.
2. Soft rice man
Now many people attribute the soft food man to the Phoenix man. I don't agree with this view, because the Phoenix man has some ability and can rely on it occasionally.
But men who only know how to eat soft food are different. Soft food men are men who only know how to get from women, but do not know how to struggle, have no goals, and have no ideals. Maybe he has a good look, maybe he has a strong body, but his heart is broken at the touch, and nothing can happen. As a man, he cannot and does not want to take responsibility.
When a soft food man is with you, or even after he marries you, he is not for love, but for the future life. He values women's money. You are a big tree to protect him from wind and rain. Money is his psychological security. He is with you to look for dependence, not to become a dependent object. If you have no money and no ability to support him, this kind of soft food man will immediately leave, and will never stay with you.
3. Selfish man
In life, the most men we meet who can not shelter the family are selfish men. This kind of man is very common.
There is such a selfish man around me. In fact, his family situation is very general. His hometown is in the countryside, and his parents are honest farmers. In his generation, after the support of his family, he entered the university and found a decent job after graduation.
Maybe it is because of his inferiority complex since childhood. He is a very selfish person. He is not good to his parents who work hard to support him. He often hides something good by himself. Even if he doesn't need something, he never takes it back to his parents in his hometown. I once saw his parents come to the city to find him, and he looked really ugly when he hurriedly hid expensive snacks.
Not only for his parents, but also for his lover. He never undertakes the work at home, and his work is also a life of idleness. His family is supported by his lover. In the eyes of outsiders, his life is very frugal, but his frugality is only for people other than him. Sometimes when something happens at home, his parents and relatives are ill, and he never shows up.
When something happens, he first picks himself up, never takes the initiative to take responsibility, and often blames his lover, parents or friends, as if he is always the most innocent one.
