Where exactly is the pain of a long-distance relationship?
1. Don't see each other often
Many couples are emotionally weakened because they often don't see each other, and there is no doubt that any relationship needs to be strengthened by frequent contact. If you don't see each other for a long time, even close relatives will inevitably feel unfamiliar, let alone a couple.
The most intuitive manifestation of not seeing each other often is that I feel like I have always been single, there is no one around me all the time, and the person I like is far away. Sometimes I suddenly want to find someone to rely on, but I find that no one is reliable. Obviously a very small thing, sometimes a hug and a kiss can solve the matter, but as a result, long-distance couples often explain for a long time to no avail.
Second, there is no sense of reality
Long-distance couples are basically in contact by phone and chatting on mobile phones. Many girls said that they seemed to be in love with a mobile phone, and there was no sense of reality at all. Even if something big happens to two people, there will not be another person by their side, and the interaction that they can do or can do is just chatting on their mobile phones.
Whenever I see someone else in and out of pairs, and I am alone, I always feel like a single dog, as if he has never appeared around me. Sometimes I even think that one person is very good, and I don't have to worry about the feelings of another person, but every time the unstoppable thoughts at night unconsciously come to my heart like a tide, I deeply remember that I still have a loved one in the distance.
Third, the helplessness of reality
Some couples who are close are okay, the university is wide, and they can meet and date on weekends or something, but those who are far away are more miserable. Not to mention the number of meetings is extremely rare, the round-trip tickets and expenses are enough for one's living expenses for one month.
Most of the long-distance relationships are students, and there is basically no choice of long-distance people in mixed society. If the student's family is not very wealthy, then the long-distance relationship rarely sees each other for a semester, which is very painful. The helplessness of reality often presses long-distance couples who can't breathe, and their feelings are like maple leaves that are blown away at any time in the wind and rain, crumbling.
Fourth, all kinds of temptations are continuous
Whether it is the temptation of the opposite sex, the temptation of society, or the ugliness of other couples, there is a certain test for long-distance couples. In terms of the ratio of men and women today, girls are often more tempted than boys, and there are more choices to make, and there is often no shortage of excellent boys in college, and the reason why most girls choose to accept a long distance is that they have found a more suitable love partner in college.
Girls are naturally more sensitive and easily provoked by emotions, and whoever treats her better, she will go to whomever she wants. Even if you know that there is no good result, even if you are not sure that the later boy will be better than the previous partner, you will still resolutely choose to break up with the long-distance object, just because the other party can't always be with you.
Once you are in a long-distance relationship, it means that two people have started a special and arduous journey, in which two people need to consider a lot of problems, also need to endure a lot of things, and need to be fully mentally prepared.
One. You need to fill your free time.
When you're immersed in a long-distance relationship, you won't have any extra time in your life. As soon as you are free, you will start thinking about him and will not be able to concentrate at all. When you have nothing to do, you have to put your interest into doing something creative that may help you, such as drawing, needlework, reading, blogging, photography, and doing practical things that can ease the pain of lovesickness. It's a wonderful thing and a hard thing at the same time. But it can be optimistic that this is the benefit of a long-distance relationship, as it can elevate your personal development.
2. Be prepared for endless suffering.
At first, it seemed difficult to be separated from your lover, but it was actually extremely hard. Of course, you will gradually get used to it, and you can have a good time with your friends and enjoy life. But other times you become very annoying with the people and things around you. When you start a long-distance relationship, you have to be prepared to endure the pain of not being able to contact your lover, not being able to feel his breath, and not being able to kiss him.
3. Learn to trust each other.
You don't have to be bound by your parents' hundreds of rules because you don't see each other often, you don't need to expect anything from each other, and you both have plenty of time to do what you want. Despite not mastering each other's lives, actions and surroundings, there is no mutual suspicion. You will believe in Him because you love Him, and it will make you have a lot of faith in Him.
Four. You will struggle until the very end.
Make sure you refuse to flirt with everyone, and you will only do anything with him to get through this difficult time. Of course, you have to try it to be sure, but don't think about anything else now, just follow your wishes. If you feel like that is the person, be prepared to endure being misunderstood by others.
5. You have to respond to some very important questions.
Now the question you have is what to do next, what to expect in this relationship and how to shorten the distance between you. This kind of problem is obviously a headache for you. You try to make money and find time to meet each other, but that's also a difficult thing to do. When you solve this kind of thing, you are still faced with the question of your parents, what are you waiting for, why are so many good men around you not getting married. I hope you have patience.
6. Your friends won't fully support you.
Your friends will try to support you. Either way, they'll pretend to understand you but you know it's not true. They won't know how you're feeling, and sometimes they can make you feel lonely. Some people really ask stupid questions, like, "Do you really have a boyfriend?" Or "How can you not have physical contact with your boyfriend?" These questions really drive you crazy, so it's best to pretend you can't hear when you encounter such questions.
Bottom line: As you can see, long-distance relationships aren't for everyone. When you are serious about developing a long-distance relationship, you should face it bravely, strongly, and responsibly. Get ready for a sleepless late night and tear-stained pillow. However, these things will test your relationship and how loyal you really are to each other. If it's true love, it's stronger, and if it's not, it's a useful life experience. In short, there will still be some positive long-distance relationships, please be mentally prepared.
What are the cruel rules or rules in love or even marriage?
1. Generally around 22 to 25 years old, you can meet the opposite sex who can chat all night without feeling bored, and each other's education level and life experience are comparable, it is likely to be the most compatible marriage partner in your life, the higher the education level, the greater the likelihood, once missed, there will be no second time.
2. It is generally agreed that if you will be together after many years, you will basically not be in touch after a year or two, and you will not be together in the future.
3. After your confession, the essence of any reason not to accept it is: you are not worthy of me now.
4. People who are coaxed (tricked) into a relationship feel that they have met the half of their true love in a short period of time, and the truth of the fact is often that the other party's insecurity maintains this unequal giving, and once this insecurity disappears, all the efforts will be repaid. And the person who really loves you, in this life, in this long life, will not deceive you because of himself.
5. Generally, people who enter marriage after the age of 30 will miss the friends of the opposite sex who have met but missed, and this degree of nostalgia is inversely proportional to the happiness of marriage.
6. In the end, you will understand that everything is just your own growth, just like going to the supermarket to buy toys, your choice is the beginning of your growth, and the result of this choice will form a feedback on you, which will affect your next growth, continuous feedback and growth, forming a closed-loop control system.
When can it be stabilized, that is, your system output is not too affected by the choice and fluctuate greatly, through multiple purchases and feedback corrections, you will eventually choose the one you really like and never get tired of playing as soon as you make a shot.
7. If you meet someone who spends all your luck once, you will never be happy in this life. And anyone you reject who is genuinely for you and overly affectionate, it is very likely that you have changed the trajectory of someone else's life.
