In interpersonal communication, courtesy is often necessary. Marriage, birth of a child, the full moon of a child, and the birthday of an elder all require courtesy. Courtesy is a kind of courtesy and a way to maintain the relationship between the two parties. But should you go along with your relatives who don't usually visit you?
1. There is no need to be polite to relatives who have no contacts
Between relatives, you don't have to be polite, you don't have to show up at a critical moment. Whether you need to help each other and show up at the first time is up to you two. He doesn't interact with you at ordinary times, and you can't see him at all. When he needs you, you can not appear in front of him in time. You should know that this kind of person doesn't have you in his heart. He just wants to use you when he contacts you. No matter how you treat him or what you do for him, he will not thank you. I want to collect more money when I do things. When I think of you and send you a message, don't be silly to think that he wants to have more interaction with you. He wants to be beside you in many years.
As a man, you must be ruthless. Don't let someone give you a piece of candy, and you will forget how he treated you. I usually don't want to ignore you and speak ill of you everywhere. I don't have you in my heart at all. This time, I take the initiative to talk to you for a certain purpose. It is not necessary to be connected by blood, not to be so close, and not everything happens. I have always looked down on you, didn't treat you as a relative, you didn't care about his need, and he had something to do, so you didn't have to be polite.
2. Students who have not contacted for many years get married, so there is no need to be casual
When I graduated, I was very reluctant to part with my classmates. At that time, I thought: How wonderful it would be if I didn't graduate, so that I can always get along with my classmates. This kind of idea will only exist at the beginning of graduation, and will disappear after graduation for some time. People around me have changed, and their ideas are completely different from before. At the beginning, there was frequent contact between students, but later there was no contact. No common experience, do not know what they have done, no topic, do not want to chat.
Many years ago, the relationship was very good, but many years later, the relationship may not be so good. There is no contact between the two people, which means that it is not important at all. It means that who is in whose heart, has no place. It is not very important. There is no need to notify when getting married, and there is no need to go with the gift after receiving the news. People who really have good relationships will always keep in touch. Only people with ordinary relationships will not contact and will become unfamiliar. Money doesn't float down from the sky. When someone sends you an invitation, you should think about what your relationship is now. Don't always think about the past. It doesn't matter to you. He just wants you to be polite, so you don't need to be polite at all.
3. There is no need to be polite when someone you are not familiar with sends an invitation
Not all of the friends in WeChat address book are very well connected or frequently contacted. Too many people haven't said a few words since they added friends. Between two people, they are not familiar at all. They may have met once or twice, or they may not have met at all. The two people are very strange. They have no communication. They have never liked or commented in the dynamic. Some people know very well that their relationship with many friends is very ordinary, but when they have something to do, they still send messages in groups.
Such people are very scheming, and often try to calculate others. You are not a fool. You should break off contact with such people instead of going along with them. You are not familiar with him at all. Your money will be wasted. When he is busy, he thinks of you. When you are busy, you may not be able to find him.
There is no need for four kinds of relatives:
The first kind is the kind of relatives who only accept gifts but not follow them.
When we celebrate the Spring Festival, our relatives and friends should walk around each other. We will certainly give gifts here, but a small number of relatives are a bit excessive. They only accept gifts but never give gifts, which is what we call "only entering but not going". Maybe at the beginning, people think you may forget once or twice or some reason, But if you have been like this for a long time, others will think that you are not suitable for long-term friends because you can't deal with human affairs. So we should not contact relatives who can't deal with human relations in the future.
Second, snobbish relatives.
Now some people in the countryside are also very snobbish. The most obvious thing is that those whose economic conditions are slightly better will look down on their poor relatives. This is the most obvious snobbery. Relatives in this situation, when they see people with a little money, will try every way to get close to others. On the contrary, When they see a person who is a little poorer, they will absolutely avoid, and the most hateful thing is that they often say something to ridicule others, always say that others are bad, and often put on a look of contempt for others. For such relatives, there is really no need to have intercourse, it is really to make themselves suffer, why?
Third, relatives who are not trustworthy.
Now, although the economic conditions in our rural areas have gradually improved, we feel that the pressure in life has become greater. For example, if we want to build a house to marry a wife, we may encounter a situation where the money is not good enough. Here, we may need to borrow money from relatives and friends. Of course, when these people are borrowing money, What I said is really very good. I will return it to you right away. In addition, I will definitely return it to you within the specified time. But what? When the time comes, they often don't return it, and they just keep dragging their feet. If you go to find him to return it, he will be very unhappy, and will excuse you for various reasons. Even if you say there are some problems in your own home, he is still indifferent. Forget about such relatives, friends. There is no need to be angry with yourself.
Fourth, relatives with various bad habits.
It will soon be the end of the year. In recent years, gambling in the countryside has become more and more serious. Some farmers' friends worked hard for a year outside, but returned home and lost all their money in a few days. They will also find various reasons to borrow money from his relatives and friends, and then continue to gamble, It's no use trying to persuade him. Instead, he scolded him. For such unrepentant relatives, we should not contact them in the future. We should try to stay away from them. It is not good for us. On the contrary, we may be brought into such an environment by them. It will hurt us in the end. Here's a reminder: Spring Festival is on horseback
