In terms of psychological adjustment, we should have the ability of self adjustment. Let me tell myself how to correctly understand the difficulties, obstacles and low points in my life and career. How to adjust your mind when encountering setbacks? Three sentences can be summed up.
The first sentence is "Forget it". There are many things in life that we have tried hard, and we have fought for them. Then we value the process, and the results may also be important, but don't pay too much attention to it. Efforts are made by people. So sometimes, there is no way to reverse difficulties or failures, so we should look down on them.
The second sentence is "It's no big deal". You should face difficulties with an optimistic attitude. Only when you are optimistic can you really think about problems, solve problems and overcome difficulties.
In the third sentence, "Everything will pass". What has happened is irreversible, so we should admit its existence, not be covered by the shadow of failure, but face the future with an optimistic and positive attitude. I don't think anyone should be trapped in anything and can't extricate himself from it. It can only make himself more and more trapped and can't be extricated. So, to get rid of this situation, first of all, we should jump out of the vortex and mud psychologically, which is the basis of our efforts to start again, and only on this solid basis, We can start again.
No matter when, where and what the situation is, we should have a positive attitude to face difficulties. There is no impassable barrier in life. When we face cliffs, torrents and whirlpools, and insurmountable mountains, in fact, it is a reminder that the road of life or career should turn.
Failure is not terrible. What is terrible is that we let ourselves neglect ourselves because of temporary failure. Some people learn from failure and make themselves better the next time, while some people make their self-confidence suffer from temporary failure. Let's talk about how to adjust their mentality after failure.
The first emotion after failure may generate a voice in my heart. Why am I so useless and trapped in a state of self blame? First of all, we should understand that it is normal to have such an emotion. Although it makes you feel uncomfortable, it is precisely because of this discomfort that you will pay attention to it. We should know that life is nine out of ten unhappy, Many things are very unsatisfactory, which is beyond our control. What we should do is not let ourselves fall into a very bad emotional state.
Secondly, we should see the positive side of failure. More or less, you have absorbed something, but it is not nothing. Failure is not shameful. The terrible thing is that we have brought a lot of negative emotions to ourselves because of failure, making a mess of ourselves. In fact, what people should not hurt is themselves. We should learn to embrace ourselves, and we should learn to understand ourselves, Understand your current problems and improve yourself instead of attacking yourself.
Many people's habit after failure is to suppress themselves, which is not advisable. We need to change our thinking habits, learn to analyze problems after each failure, analyze the reasons for their failure, and readjust their mentality. Of course, you need to give yourself space to buffer, and it takes time to gradually improve their mentality and become aware of their emotions, When we think about the bad side, we should stop ourselves in time. We should not sink all the time and reduce the conflict with our hearts.
Set goals for yourself, set some goals that you can achieve, set some appropriate and reasonable goals according to your actual ability, reduce some high expectations, and focus on doing them well, so that you can accumulate self-confidence. Self confidence is like a good medicine. When you accumulate enough self-confidence, your attitude will gradually change, We should learn to recognize ourselves, look at our strengths and weaknesses correctly, be able to accept our shortcomings and appreciate our strengths. The most important thing for a person is to recognize himself, and also understand that the past is to let him pass. Time is irreversible, and what we can do is to cherish time.
Finally, if you can't help yourself, you can look for help from others, such as your friends or family, or if you can't help yourself, you can look for the help of a professional psychological consultant, which has some effect. There are many unsatisfactory things in life. We should treat these hardships as a stepping stone rather than a stumbling block. If we face life with this attitude, we can achieve better growth. Failure is not terrible or shameful. What is terrible is that we have been trapped in self attack, which is the most terrible.
