Why do you always have so many white eyed wolves around you, and your kindness is never rewarded? You pay so much, why is there always someone ungrateful? Because of your ignorance and prejudice to human nature, you are too simple. You can't swim, dare you go into the water? Don't dare, right? Because you don't know about water and beasts, you dare not be a keeper, right? Because you don't know animal nature. So you live in the world of people and deal with people every day. If you don't understand human nature at all, how can you not be hurt. So I will share four hidden rules of human nature for you. You must write them down. You see, they are at least ten times stronger.
First, don't give too many benefits at one time.
For example, if you give a child a birthday gift, don't give him too luxurious gifts for the first time, or he will have to meet this standard in the future, because he has already had a very high expectation. If he falls below this standard, he will be mentally unbalanced. So don't think it's someone else's problem that others betray you. Think about it carefully. When you give benefits to others, do you give them too much at once. If you don't master it well, you can easily turn others into white eyed wolves. Do you agree?
Second, don't expect too much from others
Promise eight points, make eight points count, promise eight points, make nine points count as excellent, promise eight points to make ten points, that is the impressive content of excellence. But you promised to achieve nine points. Sorry, you let me down too much. See? In fact, it doesn't matter what you do. What matters is how you make the other person feel about you, right? So it is important to learn to set and manage people's expectations.
Third, roses can't live without thorns, and kindness can't live without a bottom line.
Most of the time, you are too polite and kind. If someone asks you anything, you will get what you want. You will make you think that you will gain respect by taking a step back. In fact, people will only take an inch, right. When dealing with people, you must be strong. If you feel uncomfortable, you can refuse directly. This will make people fear you and dare not bully you again.
Fourth, don't think too well of others
Some people are born with no conscience. You must be prepared. For example, if a friend who has not contacted you for a long time suddenly greets you and cares about you, there must be something behind him asking you, either to borrow money, or to sell things, or to get married. You must be 200% vigilant. Don't lend money because of face. Do you think he can borrow money from his acquaintances around him? If you lend it out, it will be a waste of money.
