What's the fear of causing trouble to others? You are especially afraid of causing trouble to others. If you go to a restaurant to have a meal, you will never bother the waiter if you can do it yourself. If you go shopping to buy clothes, you are either embarrassed to try it. If you try it, you will be embarrassed not to buy it, because you think you can't trouble others for nothing. When you have to ask someone else to do something for you, even if it is the responsibility of the other party, you will be very upset and anxious.
From a psychological point of view, all acceptance will burden you. Whether it is receiving help, payment, kindness, money or love from others, you will be nervous. You will have a vague and unworthy feeling in your heart. You are not sure whether you really deserve others to do so, whether he is sincere, whether he will have a bad view of you, whether he will regret Will you care about being disappointed with you in the future? Only when you give or give, you are relatively comfortable, generous and natural.
Did you have similar feelings in your childhood? I can't make trouble for others or make too many demands. Otherwise, they will think that I am not a good child and don't understand. They will dislike me and don't love me. I can only be loved and safe if I am obedient, do more things and behave positively. As a result, even as an adult, you don't dare to accept the contributions of others, and don't dare to make suggestions, requests, or troubles to others, because you think you may be rejected, or lose the good evaluation of others, or simply lose love.
However, any really good relationship, whether friendship or love, must be paid and accepted by both parties at the same time. If only one party pays unilaterally, then the relationship will not last long because of the imbalance. So if you really cherish a certain relationship, you can try it next time and summon up the courage to tell the other party: "Honey, can you do me a favor?" Maybe you will see a lot of joy in the other party's eyes instead. Maybe he has waited for this sentence for a long time, because you are always worth it.
