If a woman wants to be happy in marriage, she must know the following questions before marriage. This is the truth of marriage. I believe it will help you move towards a happier marriage.
Lili and her husband got married in 2018, but in just three years, their marriage became unsustainable. The relationship between the two became that she wanted to complain when she saw her husband, while the husband could not go home without going home. The life became a real month. After a month of not seeing each other, it was a big quarrel. Both of them were very painful. A few days ago, her husband took the initiative to ask her to end this marriage. Lily was very calm on the surface, but she was still very unwilling. In fact, she didn't want to leave. But in the past, she felt that her husband did not make progress, he only listened to his mother-in-law, never respected his own opinions, and he never paid attention to himself. He had a little emotion, so he left without thinking about it. So the former gentle and kind character has become a little more. He blames, complains, and his husband has become his only way to vent, which has led the marriage to a dead end step by step. After listening to her description, I give some advice to women who want happiness in marriage, but happiness is far away.
First, maybe you don't believe that all marriages are based on equal status. No matter how good your relationship with your husband is, don't ignore the impact of your original family on him. A man who was brought up by his mother when he was young is likely to have no decision-making ability, so it is impossible to adjust the relationship between you and your mother-in-law. So good parents and harmonious family are the first criteria for you to consider when you marry a man. When you are in marriage. It is very important for a man to avoid, shirk responsibility and cold violence all the time. He probably led his parents to solve problems when they were young and they were unwilling to solve them.
Secondly, 80% of the material base determines the success or failure of the emotional life. It's better to have a house when getting married. It's better not to live with each other's parents. There are only you, your husband and your children in your marriage. If more people participate, it will be a collision of values, and this collision will never be fair. You are treasure to your parents, and you will always be an outsider to others. Therefore, what the wedding betrothal gifts should be, even if there is no money left to go back, this sense of ritual must not be less. If you can not live together, you must talk clearly at the beginning, otherwise your marriage. There must be others involved. Don't believe too much in a man's ability to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Finally, you have to rely on yourself.
Third, a man who performs well before marriage is better than a man who can tolerate you after marriage. When you see that a man is very beautiful at the beginning, you must be careful of the true appearance under its packaging. There are many examples of warm men before marriage and cold after marriage, so don't fall in love, don't flash marriage, and don't get pregnant before marriage.
Fourth, economic independence is very important. Only when you are financially independent can your spirit be independent. You must have the ability to make money. Don't think you have to rely on marriage. The only constant in this world is that everything is changing. When you give up your independence, you may be provisioned for a short time, but you will also lose your independent personality. When you can't drive, you can only take the co pilot. The steering wheel is always controlled by others. You have to rely on others wherever you want to go.
