That's settled. Leaders need a reason to accept gifts.
What is the reason for leaders to receive gifts? It is not that everyone is required to give gifts, but that the gifts given to leaders do not appear to be special.
The same is true for inviting leaders to dinner. Only in this way can leaders have no psychological burden. Therefore, it is suggested to invite people at appropriate occasions and give gifts at appropriate occasions when inviting them to dinner. It is too deliberate, but it makes people feel uncomfortable.
1. If you give gifts to the leader for promotion and salary increase, and the invitation to dinner is rejected, it shows that the leader is a very honest person, and will not accept gifts from subordinates at will. A good leader is one who can do things like this, and is worth following.
Only if you work harder than before, and complete the tasks assigned to you on time and perfectly, can you get the chance of promotion and salary increase as quickly as possible. If you don't work hard, the leadership may look at you differently.
2. If you invite guests just to increase workplace emotion, you can ask several colleagues to join you to eliminate suspicion. Of course, don't put pressure on yourself. You should be clear and comfortable with the leaders. And if you have such a heart, the leaders are also happy.
What should we do if the leader refuses to invite the leader to dinner and also refuses to give gifts? So far, don't be angry. You can adjust your attitude as if it had never happened. Don't bring bad emotions into your work.
Secondly, calm down and imagine why they will be rejected. Is the relationship with the leadership not up to scratch or is it inappropriate to send gifts and invite people to dinner? All these reasons should be considered clearly, otherwise the same problem will still occur next time.
Reasons and timing for inviting guests and gifts
1. Reason for inviting guests to dinner
The reason for inviting guests to dinner should be appropriate, so that leaders can not refuse, for example, inviting leaders to attend department meetings. If leaders are free, they will basically attend, because they need to get close to their subordinates and grasp the dynamics; If you don't go, you will give others a feeling of being unapproachable. Or there may be some leaders of higher level who will also participate, etc. There are many reasons. When you are not clear about the situation, you'd better not be alone.
2. The occasions for gift giving
The occasion of gift giving should be well controlled. How can leaders accept gifts when you take them to the office? It's just asking for trouble. It also makes the leader think that you are not sensible. Some people will say that it is certainly to send it home. Do you know the leader? The couple has a lot of conflicts. They quarrel every day, and you just go to give gifts. It's good not to throw them out. So if you want to give gifts, you need to know a lot about working in advance.
3. Timing of gift giving
Know your purpose, then you can choose the time to express gratitude and close relations. You should make an appointment in advance to test the leadership's attitude and time. If it is to remove the misunderstanding, it is timely. Don't wait until the contradiction is very deep to explain. If it is to ask someone to do things, you should hurry up sooner rather than later. When many things are settled, you miss the best time to help you.
4. "cramming" is meaningless
In fact, most of the "temporary cramming" is meaningless and has no effect. Most of the people who take the leadership position have a sense of preparedness. Your "temporary cramming" will give people a feeling that it is too utilitarian. Generally speaking, leaders are unwilling to make such deep friendship with each other. When they get along well with each other at ordinary times, it will be easy to do things at that time.
If you want him to accept it, you have to analyze his psychology. Why don't they accept it? There are generally three reasons.
First, I don't accept gifts or handle affairs. This kind of person has a principle. If he says no, he will not accept. What you say is useless. Ask him to do something. To put it mildly, you are crying at the wrong grave. Don't talk nonsense, pick up your things and leave quickly.
The second is to show politeness because of face. I'm such a big leader. I want something you give me. It seems that I have no taste. Therefore, such people say no, and their eyes are fixed on the gift. They refused because you didn't give him a step.
The third is to be hesitant and apprehensive. I can do this for you, but I feel that we are not friendly enough. Do you want to help or not? I can't make up my mind. At this time, you need to use flexible words to urge him to make up his mind and then accept the gift.
Well, here comes the question. How can we say that we can make the other party accept the gift happily and reasonably? Remember, Chinese people are good at face saving, and they can't show their eagerness even if they want to accept it. To use the common people's saying, they should be careful! At this time, you have to think of a reason for him to refuse.
It's important. Here comes the dry goods. If the other party doesn't accept them, there is a panacea, You must remember: "Leader, I've been with you for so many years, and I know your character too well, so I know you won't want it. But it's not for you, it's for you to invite someone to have dinner. If you don't accept it, you will be sorry for your friends. It may be difficult for you to go down and ask someone else to do something. Take it, invite a friend to have dinner, and we can't owe someone a favor."
When the leader said this, he generally accepted it with smile: I'm not polite. I'll lend flowers to Buddha and invite those boys to have a meal. It's so good. The leaders happily accept it. There is no copper smell.
