The person who can really make connections is not to make friends with people who are useful to him, but to make himself the most useful person. Today we will talk about how to build relationships and how to avoid ineffective social interaction. Relationship is not a derogatory word, but a neutral word. If you use it well, it will even have a decisive effect on life. If you don't use it well, you will lose everything.
First of all, what is inefficient, or even wrong relationship. It's just busy trying to make connections with big people. It's not like they can make connections. Is it so easy for big people to be used? If you flatter successfully, he will also use you, and vice versa. If you only have relationships with people who are not as good as you or of the same level, then the information and resources you get will be limited and it is difficult to expand upward. The foundation of any relationship is cooperation, and people's social activities can be seen as exchanges, with the purpose of meeting the needs of both parties. Ineffective social interaction means only consumption, no exchange, and no income. How to become the most useful person? He is not necessarily the most capable, but can weave the most reasonable network of relationships and be in the best position in this network.
There are three important points:
First, the network should be cross-border. If you only make friends with people in the same field, your information is interlinked. You may be bosom friends, but you will not be the most useful people, because your ability and cognition are similar. But if it is cross-border, you can provide valuable information to people in different fields. For example, doctors and teachers have topics that everyone cares about in any field, so try to explore the value you have for people in different fields.
Second, be good at making use of cross-border and become an intermediary of different groups. For example, if you are a doctor, you have many friends from different groups. B is a teacher, and C is an entrepreneur who wants to consult children's education. When you can help them realize value interaction, your relationship has provided you with personal value added. Among all groups, the stronger your intermediary ability, the more needed you will be, and the more secure your position will be.
Third, never put the cart before the horse. Good interpersonal relationship is indeed a kind of ability and a key factor for success. But don't be burdened by relationships. Know what you can't do and why not do it. You have to understand that "1" without self, even if there are many acquaintances and friends, "0" is worthless.
