The most important four stages of chasing girls are attraction, establishing comfort, ambiguity and dependence. Many boys are afraid of failure and injury in the process of pursuing girls, so they can't do their best in thought and behavior. It is not so much a failure to pursue girls as a failure to pursue them.
The first stage is attraction.
Most boys' failure in pursuit is often stuck in the attraction stage. When boys first meet girls, girls will be very cold, and may not reply to information. At this stage, when two people first meet girls, boys will easily collapse, can't accept it, and will easily give up without positive feedback from girls. Many boys with long-term difficulty in getting rid of their jobs are unable to break through this stage.
In fact, boys should pay more attention to girls' usual personality. If she is indifferent to every boy she has just met, you should be happy because this indifference makes it difficult for her to approach. It just helps you eliminate some competitors, and you will have a better chance. Of course, there are also some girls who are naturally active and active, but most girls are still passive compared with boys. This is girls' instinct and a defense mechanism to protect themselves. Only this stage can be crossed. There will be opportunities.
The second stage is to establish comfort.
There are two reasons why girls are indifferent to boys. First, boys may not attract girls. Second, girls are defensive to boys. Even if girls are not particularly familiar with boys when they are attracted to boys, girls must have some defensive psychology. At this time, boys are the most taboo to show too strong purpose, such as sending flowers to express their feelings when they just know each other. Girls will be very sensitive to this behavior. If the boy I just met expresses his good will to me, I will think that it is too hasty for you to say you like me when you just know me but don't know me. In this way, boys are so easily attracted to each other, and whether they will say they like other girls so easily in the future is particularly bad. At this point, boys and girls will be very different. When the boys around me face the girl's sudden confession, they will be relatively easy to accept. They will not think so much as the girls, but will believe that it is not good. I have such charm. Once the girl has this defensive mentality, the boy will be embarrassed when you contact the girl.
The third stage is ambiguous.
At this stage, you may chat more, but not too closely. This is an important stage of establishing contact. In this period, the most important thing for boys is to give themselves a sense of existence and let girls get used to contacting you. Feeling is an ignorant state, and I'm not sure whether the boy can go on. If boys stay at this stage all the time, they will easily develop into a spare tire.
Girls are willing to go to this stage with boys. They generally have a good impression on boys, but they are not very sure. If boys can show more of their advantages in getting along, girls will slowly accept and build trust in their hearts. At this time, it is the most taboo to rush to accept the confession and other behaviors to confirm the relationship. Girls will think that you were nice to me just to wait for something to happen to me. I thought you were nice at first, but now it's hard to say, just like other men.
The fourth stage is to form dependence.
When girls interact with you very frequently and naturally, they have a sense of dependence on you. At this time, no matter when two people are chatting or meeting, they will not be embarrassed. The girls have already trusted you. The interaction is relaxed, and the progress of the relationship will be easy. The most important thing at this stage is to seize the opportunity and upgrade the relationship. However, there are still some boys who have reached this stage, but they will hesitate, afraid that the girl will refuse them and will be embarrassed, and then they will think a lot. In fact, once a girl enters this stage with you, she is willing to get along with you. You need to have some aggressiveness to promote development. Boys should know where you are with girls to do the right thing. When a girl is still unfamiliar with you, you are in a hurry to express yourself and will definitely be rejected. The same two people have formed trust and become very familiar with each other. When you are upgrading your attack, you do not take the initiative. Girls are also very upset.
