Today I tell you a cruel fact, that is, in interpersonal communication, the more people you know, the more cruel they are to you. Today, I will teach you four moves to make others dare not bully you anymore. Whether in the workplace or at home, do you know why people make trouble and bully you? The essential reasons are the following four.
1. Your cards have been figured out by others for a long time. Whether you are a classmate or a colleague, or a man or a woman you just got along with, everyone was polite when they first met. No one will bully you at first, because others will not bully you easily when they don't know you. Why did you bully you later? Because he sees your cards, you become transparent in their eyes. So if someone says something to you that doesn't respect you and does something that makes you uncomfortable, it must not be like this when you met on the first day, but your contact with each other, gradually forming a result through mutual games. In other words, it is your own hands to cultivate it into a person who is unscrupulous of you. In the process of communication, you constantly make concessions and compromises to him, so that he can see your weakness and gradually increase his weight. Gradually, he starts to become more powerful and go straight to your bottom line until you fully understand it, thus forming a strong weak relationship between you and solidifying this strong weak relationship. Once that model is formed, it will be difficult to overturn in the future. So remember, no matter who you associate with, never show your cards, and never trust anyone unreservedly, because once others think you are useless, it is faster to turn your face than to open a book.
2. Don't mind your own mouth. You like to tell your heart to everyone. Don't tell your heart to anyone, even the person closest to you. Why do you like to confide in others? Because in the process of communicating with others, you want to show your honesty, so as to gain the trust of the other party, and then you want the other party to be honest with you as well. Then you two make friends, which is right. But most of the time, your heart is fed to the dog, and confiding is actually running naked in front of the other party. When you have no reservations, The other party can brazenly betray you. Think about it carefully. If you break up with your good friend, he knows a lot about you, and he will spread your stories everywhere. So remember, those who can kill you are those who know you best.
3. You should always defend your own principles when dealing with anyone. If someone bullies you and touches your bottom line, don't bear it once. You must hit me back fiercely and resolutely pack up the other person until he is taken care of. Because we not only need to maintain our own bottom line, but also let others see that you are not a soft persimmon. You can't take it at will.
4. Don't have too good temper when dealing with anyone, and put away your excessive kindness. The quality of a relationship is not how you treat others, but your own strength. Only the strong can be respected and forgiven by others. Don't you think you are just a soft potato when you repeatedly tolerate others? Be patient and be ruthless. A man should have Buddha in his heart and knife in his hand. When you have the strength to crush others, you can talk about how to forgive others. Life is once. You may as well be bold, so that you will have more and more friends, because the strong will be supported. Your position in the minds of others is changed by your own game step by step, rather than just being patient.
