To recover a relationship, you should first understand that your relationship and the problem are undoubted from the other side's perspective, but the problem is so big that the other side cannot continue to love you, lose your original attraction in the other side's heart, or see the future. So if you really break up, you must grasp every detail.
The following is the key point. The other side said, "I find I don't love you enough." This is because there are contradictions in your relationship. He can't see the future. This is because your shortcomings are always there, and he doesn't believe that you will change. This is the end. This is because you don't pay enough attention to me. There is a problem in your heart. So you broke up. This is your mistake. Be sure to understand the sequence of breaking up. It is because of the problems between you that she does not love you, not because she does not love you. So for her, the purpose of breaking up before this question is that long pain is better than short pain, so whether she is cold now, whether she breaks up with firm words, whether she doesn't give you a chance, or pull black to delete your contact information, or even find a new lover, it will not make your relationship irreversible. As long as you prove to her that you are capable of solving the problems between you, she will have a great opportunity to turn back.
How to do it? Do you have such a feeling that something you like has not been used for a long time, such as changing clothes, a book or even a pen, but suddenly one day you can't find it, or when it breaks down, you have a very sad feeling, even think it is very useful, which is called loss in psychology. Based on such psychology, we call this period a roller coaster. This method is widely spread on the Internet, but its usage is completely different.
Its effectiveness is mainly reflected in:
1、 Loss of guilt
Even if she really doesn't love you, she will become depressed and painful when she feels that she has lost the person who loved her, which will lead to a sense of loss and crisis. You have been entangled for some time, and the other party has obviously disliked you. At this time, stop loss in time, keep calm, control your emotions, and let the other party reduce their negative emotions towards you.
2、 Win equality and return to equal status.
Only when you are equal in status can you attract each other. What you can't get is always the best.
3、 Reduce the other party's rebellious attitude towards you
When you have been pestering her hard, you will have a rebellious mentality. The more you pester her, the less you want to get back together with you. Because of the pressure generated by each contact, psychological vigilance arises. Think about it. How can you like you again when a person defends you like the enemy? When the other party proposes to break up, we have a certain sense of comfort in the early stage, which means that you can do whatever the other party says, and then suddenly withdraw from the space of calm and thinking with the other party, so as to turn passivity into initiative and become more valuable people in high positions. When you just broke up, you refused to give up, apologized, and became infatuated. Then you calmed down and made her feel that you had let go. As long as you gave the other party a relaxed and comfortable feeling, it was the beginning of a successful reunion.
