1. Law of cause
There must be reasons for people to grow, and the efforts and accumulation behind them must be times that of ordinary people.
Different degrees of indulgence will lead to different degrees of severity; Different levels of exercise must achieve different levels of success.
When translating Gil Blass, Mr. Yang Jiang once read the whole book of Ancient Medicine by Hippocrates, the "father of medicine" of ancient Greece, for an annotation.
There are eight volumes of Don Quixote. When she translated the seventh volume, the translation was confiscated by the Red Guards. When she returned it, she felt that the content could not be connected, and began to translate again.
In the end, the 470000 word Gil Blass won unanimous praise once it was published. Don Quixote has become the best translation so far.
People admire her achievements, but they don't know how many nights she has survived.
Life, in fact, is very fair, where you pay, where you get, where you polish, where you shine.
A person's growth must be tempered from the pain of heartbreaking, and forged from the training of excellence.
2. The law of silence
Don't boast.
It is a big taboo to shout everywhere before things are done. Only by keeping silent can we avoid falling short.
Confucius said: "The first thing to say is the first thing to say, and then follow it." It is the way of a gentleman to behave and do things by putting actions before words.
Most of the truly capable people are low-key and introverted, and like to do great things in silence.
Life is like chess. Every step you take and every sentence you say will affect the final outcome. If you want to succeed, you must know how to hide your strength.
Because in this world, there are always some people who seem to be close, but actually stab others in the back.
Don't make any noise before you succeed. Don't let a moment of ostentation become a stumbling block on the way to success.
"If you are as cautious as ever, you will never fail."
No matter what you do at any time, you should treat it carefully and not publicize it wantonly to avoid falling short.
3. Law of speed
Be slow to communicate with others. The sincerity of honest treatment should go through a period of deliberation, precipitation and patience.
Breaking up with "wrong" people should be faster, because dragging your feet will only hurt you.
The best friends are not passionate when they meet, but become more and more familiar and intimate with each other as time goes by.
Don't fight for speed in making friends, and try your best to know others.
The greatest fear among people is to mistake enthusiasm for sincerity. Don't invite everyone into life, and don't keep people who are not worth it in your heart.
Real feelings will not leave because of the passage of time. Only by saying goodbye to the wrong person can we meet the right person.
4. Square circle law
If a person is too angular, it is easy to provoke trouble; If it is too smooth, it will make people want to stay away.
To be a man, you should know how to be square and round.
In A Dream of Red Mansions, Xue Baochai is the most popular one. Her way of dealing with people reflects the principle of square and round.
Knowing that Jia Mu's mouth was bad, he deliberately ordered some soft food; Mrs. Wang blamed herself for Jin Chuan's dropping into the well, and her three or two sentences of personal words relieved people; Xiuyan was poor, and she was secretly considerate.
Xue Baochai knew that as an outsider living in Jia's house, if he was always a good man, he would not be respected by others.
She has her own principles and temper for complicated human relations. Although she does not provoke others, she does not let others bully her.
If there is a circle without a square, it will not stand; if there is a square without a circle, it will hit a wall.
One should have his own principles and bottom line, that is, "square", if he wants to be skillful in the complex society. At the same time, we should also have the ability to adapt to circumstances, which is "round".
5. Location law
No matter what level of life you reach, someone is looking up at you at the bottom of the step, and someone is looking down at you at the top of the step.
You look up and feel inferior. You can only see your true self when you look at it face up.
In this life, the most difficult thing is to see yourself clearly.
When we are young, we tend to be complacent when we are in a high position, and envious of others when we are in a low position.
Every man has his own way of life. Never envy others' life blindly.
When you have been given experience by the years, you will understand after reading the human relations:
The wisest realization of a person is to keep a clear understanding of himself, not to be blinded by the temporary scenery, nor to be tired of the temporary gains and losses.
Life is nothing more than a process of climbing up the ladder. You need to constantly calibrate your position.
Go ahead alone in the long years to cultivate inner calm and calm.
