How can people with low EQ improve their EQ? If you understand these five words, you will surpass 99% of the people to become a high EQ person. Become a person with high EQ.
The first word is fake.
Disguise. But it's not the kind of pretend that you don't have anything to do. It's a low-key way to hide your strength.
Let's start with a negative example. Your friend said, "I am lovelorn, and I don't believe in love anymore."
You said: "Ah, it's lucky that my girlfriend has been doing well. In fact, it's very simple to manage love,...."
Your friend will be furious if you say so. When the other party comes to seek comfort, you should comfort him. Even if you know any truth, don't talk about it at this time, and he won't listen. In other words, when you find that the person in front of you is frustrated in some way or lags behind you, you must pretend to resonate with the other person. Now think about how to continue the dialogue just now.
The second word is peep.
Most of the things in the world are covered with window paper. You can only peek at them rather than pierce them, because once you pierce them, you will be embarrassed. This peep is not for you to peep or peep, but for you to observe what you say and what you look like. People with high EQ will carry out this step quietly. Seeing is insight, without saying anything clearly, it can also let others understand your meaning, so that people will not feel deliberate, but also the most comfortable way.
For example, if you talk to someone and the other person keeps looking at his watch, it must be in a hurry. At this time, even if he is talking, you should take the initiative to end the topic as soon as possible. Do not ask if the other person is busy or in a hurry. This is the meaning of observing his words and expressions. It is not to please the other person, but to make you step on a few holes less.
The third word is "hold".
There is a saying called "When you want to point out a person's mistakes, please think twice, but when you want to praise a person, please do not hesitate", because everyone likes to be praised, and everyone likes it.
For example, if you want to praise a person for his beautiful appearance, you can say, "Oh, you are famous. On my way to work today, I heard two colleagues talking about you. They said you are beautiful." He must be happy to say that.
The fourth word, avoid.
This word has two meanings. One is to avoid your current situation, that is, to find ways to break and learn new things, and to constantly accept new information and ideas. The second is to avoid the people who put you in this situation. When you realize that your situation is very bad, the first thing you need to reflect on is whether there are problems in your own social circle. When all you input is garbage, all you output is garbage. So don't try to persuade the other party. The cost of reasoning is very high. It is often the quickest way to avoid it directly.
The fifth word is ruthless.
This is great. The most fundamental definition of emotional intelligence is to manage your emotions, rather than let you abuse them. If you just stand on the other's point of view to think, always put yourself in the other's shoes and be careful everywhere, then you are not high in EQ, then you have made yourself a fawning personality. So if you want to improve your EQ, you must be ruthless. Otherwise, your EQ cannot serve you well and can only be a good gun for others. In some matters that touch the bottom line and are related to principles, you should be cruel. Don't be kidnapped by the current emotions, let alone feel guilty because of rejection. Therefore, high EQ does not conflict with ruthlessness, because people with high EQ know how to regulate their emotions as needed.
Heard here friends, if you interpret these five words perfectly, you will be a high EQ person in your currency circle. So there are no people with low EQ, only people who are unwilling to make changes.
