Many new workplace employees don't know how to quickly integrate into the team. Rapid integration of new workplace employees into the team can improve work efficiency and is also good for their social contacts, but how to quickly integrate into the team? Here is a brief introduction.
1、 Understand people and humanity.
The first step to improve interpersonal communication and master successful interpersonal skills is to correctly understand people and their nature.
Understanding people and human nature can be simply summarized as: "identify with people according to their nature", "identify with people in their own position", instead of looking at others with your own eyes, let alone imposing your own will on others. People are interested in themselves first, not you! In other words, personal attention to yourself is 10000 times better than that to you.
The key to life is to realize that "people first care about themselves rather than you".
2、 Cut out a few words.
When you talk to people, please choose the topic they are most interested in. What topics are they most interested in? It's them! Take these words out of your dictionary - "I, myself, mine". Replace it with another word, the most powerful word in human language - "you". It doesn't matter whether you are interested in the conversation or not. What matters is whether your audience is interested in the conversation. When you talk to people, please talk about them and guide them to talk about themselves. In this way, you can become a most popular conversation partner.
3、 Make the other person feel important.
One of the most common characteristics of human beings is the desire to be recognized and to be understood. Are you willing to be at ease in interpersonal relationships? Then, please try to make others realize their importance. Remember, the more important you make others think you are, the more they will repay you.
4、 Learn to agree with others.
Never forget that any fool can oppose others, and only the wise and great will agree - especially when the other party makes mistakes! The "approval art" can be summarized as the following five points:
1. Learn to approve and recognize;
2. When you agree with others, please speak out;
3. When you disagree, don't tell them unless you have to;
4. When you make a mistake, be brave to admit it;
5. Avoid arguing with others.
5、 Learn to listen to others.
The more you listen, the smarter you will become, the more people will love you, and you will become a better conversation partner. Of course, it is not easy to become a good listener. Here are five suggestions for reference:
1. Look at the speaker; 2. Get close to the speaker and listen attentively; 3. Ask questions; 4. Don't interrupt the speaker's topic; 5. Use the speaker's person - "you" and "your".
6、 Know what the other party wants.
The first step in getting people to do what you want is to find out why they do it (that is, what they want). Tell others what they want to hear, and they will be moved. You simply explain to them that they can get what they want after doing what you ask them to do. The way to "understand what people think" is to ask more questions, observe more, listen more and make unremitting efforts.
7、 Learn to let others speak for you.
When you say something beneficial to yourself, people usually doubt you and what you say, which is a manifestation of human instinct. A better way is not to explain directly, but to quote others' words and let others speak for you, even if those people are not on the scene. Therefore, we should speak through the mouth of a third party.
