In the workplace, you can't just be an "old man" or "honest man". Because people of this type are easy to be bullied and cannot defend their rights and interests. The workplace needs people with moderate "edges and corners". "Edges and corners" do not mean playing with personality. "Edges and corners" mean being principled, having a bottom line, being reasonable, and daring to argue.
You may have a consensus that most of the leaders and backbones of companies and departments are people with "edges and corners", rather than just "good" old men who are docile and can only say "good". They dare to say "no", express their own opinions, and put forward opinions and suggestions for leaders to adopt at critical times. Such employees with "edges and corners" are the mainstay of the company.
However, our "edges and corners" in the workplace should not be excessive, otherwise it is easy to become "playing with personality". How do you handle the situation?
1、 Learn to refuse appropriately
One of the manifestations of "angularity" is appropriate rejection. We should accept selectively when others ask us to do things, including the work arranged by leaders. If it is the duty bound work within the scope of the post, it should be accepted; If it is an assisting job, we should not agree to it at once. We should use our brains to ask the leaders' intentions and work related information, and the more detailed the better. We can do it later after we understand it clearly.
If the work arranged is beyond the scope of his/her work authority or ability, we can say: XX leader, is it not good for me to intervene in this matter that does not belong to my scope? XX will have opinions and think I am striving for performance. The tactful and reasonable refusal will not hurt the leader's face, and the leader can also accept and consider it.
If there are several jobs in my hand and I don't have time and energy to take on other tasks, I can say: Leader XX, I have three unfinished tasks in my hand, all of which are the tasks I rushed to do this weekend. I really don't have time to take on other tasks. Can I do that after I finish these three tasks? Leaders will consider the time factor to let others take over. Reject the unreasonable arrangement of the leader with real work conditions, which will not embarrass the leader.
Such an answer not only won't offend the leader, but also allows the leader to understand the workload of employees and feel the perspective of employees' consideration. It shows that the subordinate's answer is serious, serious and responsible after careful consideration. From then on, the leader will trust employees more.
2、 Clear mind and principled
Another manifestation of "edges and corners" is that they are principled. Leaders are sometimes very casual and act without careful consideration. Sometimes they just make decisions by clapping their heads. They don't think about the authority and boundaries of employees' work or whether they are suitable. But we should accept the task in principle. It is the part you should bear that should not be compromised, and the part you should not bear should be argued against.
As long as they are principled and have a bottom line, the leaders have no way, because our statement is reasonable. Even if the current leader is unhappy, the leader will still admire this principled subordinate when he calms down and thinks about it later, because this subordinate does not exceed the rules, does not violate the rules, understands the bottom line, and does not exceed the boundaries, which reassures the leader.
3、 Learn to occasionally "hate" people
"Edge" means "not easy to talk", and occasionally "hate" people. When "hating", we should not "hating" casually, and we should have good sense and skill. A certain amount of knowledge reserve, long-term accumulation and training are required for "grudge". The speed of oral expression, logical thinking and reaction should be fast, so that people can "hate" the idea, or even hit the nail on the head, and others cannot refute it. It also lets the other party know that it is wrong without hurting face and self-esteem. The scale is just right.
I don't know if you have this feeling. The "powerful" colleagues in the company often "hate" occasionally when they talk, and the "powerful" colleagues are very popular. Because "grudge" can not only keep a proper distance from colleagues, but also respect each other. It can also show your own boundaries and bottom line, which is just in line with the "space and distance" theory of interpersonal communication. In addition, "powerful" colleagues treat leaders in the same way, with amazing results. You guys in the workplace might as well give it a try.
To "hate" an idea is like hitting a snake with seven inches. After learning it once, leaders and colleagues will not dare to offend you easily, but also maintain friendship and respect for you. In addition, the "powerful" colleagues have a solid position in the company, and no one can shake them. Although "edges and corners" sometimes make leaders feel awkward, it is precisely because of "difficulties" that leaders attach importance to and respect them. Moreover, leaders really entrust such "edges and corners" subordinates rather than good people.
Learn to find people with "edges and corners" to handle affairs. Although it's uncomfortable to be rejected sometimes, people with "edges and corners" either don't do it or will do it responsibly. And we will think about it when we find someone with "edges and corners"
