It is unlikely, the success rate of long-distance relationships is low, and at least 40% will fail.
1. Long-distance relationship itself is a very hard thing, so long-distance relationship is more of a responsibility for two people, and it takes more time to get along to understand each other's dynamics and living habits. So if you can't build trust and security between two people, then the two people will become more and more estranged. Because the two of you are separated by thousands of mountains and rivers, separated by the screen of your mobile phone. Therefore, it takes more effort and courage to face the problem of long-distance relationship for relationships.
2. The biggest challenge of a long-distance relationship is that you don't have enough time to spend with your other half, so this will make the relationship between two people very fragile. If someone says that long-distance relationships can easily affect relationships, it is because they don't have enough time to spend with their significant other. In the process of a long-distance relationship, it is very scary to say that the other half has not heard from him for a week; So when two people lose contact, it's the saddest thing. So a long-distance relationship can also make a breakup a very normal thing.
3. Although the long-distance relationship allows the two to have a common topic, because the two people have no way to meet, it makes it very difficult to communicate with each other, and it can easily lead to a relationship breakdown...... Therefore, a long-distance relationship is not the most difficult relationship - as long as both parties can maintain positive communication and communication, they will not fail;
4. The reason why a long-distance relationship will affect the relationship between two people is mainly because both parties have no way to give each other enough beautiful and warm companionship, because you will always be a "stranger" in the other party's heart, so once you lose each other, it is difficult for the relationship between two people to continue.
Although many people are reluctant to talk about long-distance relationships now, in order to allow two people to have more time to meet and interact more, many people will choose to work hard to achieve long-distance relationships.
A poll on the success rate of long-distance relationships shows that 43.6% of people have successful long-distance relationships and 56.4% have failed long-distance relationships. Because it is a poll, the conclusions may not be rigorous enough. We can conclude that the success rate of long-distance relationships is around 40%, which is actually quite high, and the success rate of non-long-distance relationships is so much.
In fact, two people ultimately deny that they can be together, it has nothing to do with being in a different place, but whether this person is suitable for you. What's the difference between a different place and the same place? The difference is that two people in the same place can make do even if they don't fit, but two people in different places will never be together if they don't fit.
Long-distance relationships have stricter requirements, so their success rate is naturally lower than that of the same place. But not as low as you think. As long as two people really want to be together, how big is the distance? In this era where you can hear each other's voices on the phone, you can see each other's faces through connecting videos, and you can walk the street hand in hand by train for a night, how can the distance be as terrifying as you think? Hasn't the whole earth become a village?
Of course, if two people really want to be together in the end, they must have a common goal. At the same time, one of the parties may need some sacrifice because of the remote location. But as long as these are decided, it is just an expectation to be together in the end. In the end, something went wrong. It can only be: you don't love each other anymore, or the two of you are not a good fit at all. These reasons have nothing to do with off-site.
Reasons for the low success rate of long-distance relationships
First of all, the cost of money
Since we couldn't see each other for a long time, it was necessary to make a phone call. However, long-distance calls are not to be underestimated. Maybe you're really rich enough to pay a hefty phone bill, but not every long-distance couple can do it. Secondly, since we haven't seen each other for a long time, we both want to meet. One of the conveniences is to take a car, a boat, a plane, climb a mountain, cross a sea, and meet once. It's enough to think about the cost of the journey. Plus go somewhere to play after meeting, have a meal, and go to bed, it's terrible. That's a pretty big number.
Second, the cost of time
Because you have not been together for a long time, you will automatically forget about her (or him) in the other place when allocating time, and always feel that there is no or enough time to call her (or him). Based on the first and second reasons, you will find that when you are apart, you will talk on the phone a lot, and it will be old, but over time, the number of phone conversations and the time of each chat will gradually decrease.
Third, opportunity cost
Opportunity cost, also known as substitution cost, refers to the cost or potential loss of benefit when choosing one option over another in the economic decision-making process. Yes, you have to pay one or two of the above costs for dating a woman (or him) that you can't see often, but have you ever considered that if you break up with her (or him), find someone by your side who is the same as or better than her (or him) to take care of you? Maybe all of you will be happier? Sometimes, it is better to find true happiness than to indulge in the good of the imagination. What I am saying here is only an objective opinion and does not represent the author's personal opinion. The author only analyzes it from an economic point of view. After all, love can't be counted in numbers.
Fourth, psychological costs.
You haven't tried to relieve psychological stress by suddenly wanting to talk to someone, or find someone to lean on, or find someone to hug for some reason. But at this point, she (or he) is no longer with you. If long-term repression is not relieved, people will lose their minds. At this time, it is easy for people to be "taken advantage".
What exactly should I do to survive a long-distance relationship?
1. Keep in touch
Staying connected is definitely a very important part of it, and it represents the desire to share. He sends you every day what's going on today, and that proves he loves you very much. If you talk about everything when you are together, but you lose contact after separation, it will make the other party have a big psychological gap. But keeping in touch doesn't mean sticking to them all the time, it's about making your partner feel safe, telling them what you're going to do, and then focusing on doing it and not losing contact.
2. Don't be suspicious
Suspicion is the most important thing in a relationship, especially if this suspicion can't even be proven, and it can't change your situation. You need to fully believe in them, say anything, don't let them get angry overnight, and trust your partner a lot. Blind suspicion is even more undesirable, and don't put too much effort into hypothetical questions. This will only drain the patience of yourself and the other person. At the same time, it is necessary to find out the bottom line and taboo of the other party, everyone has their own taboo zone, it may be a parent, it may be an idol, don't just joke in the other party's taboo zone.
3. Create surprises
If love is a dish, surprise is definitely the best seasoning for this dish. When two people in a long-distance relationship haven't seen each other for a long time, you secretly buy a ticket to a city to ta, tell them that you want to, and suddenly appear in front of them. Holding their favorite gift... Of course, there are many ways to create surprises that everyone needs to find by themselves, not only girls, but boys will be very happy to receive surprises~
4. Find more topics
Usually share your own bits and pieces, so that the two of them have more common topics: such as watching a movie together, reading a book, playing the same game, and learning to cook a dish together, so that the topic comes by itself and there is no need to find it by yourself. Or create some activities exclusive to two people: such as holding a year-end summary meeting for emotional exchanges on a regular basis, writing a summary for each trip, and so on
5. Strive for a face base
What long-distance relationships need most is to meet, and if you can get the opportunity to meet, you must meet once. A thousand words are not as real as a hug of yours.
6. Solve problems
Quarrels are inevitable between couples, and the same is true for long-distance relationships. There are many problems, which are not clear in the mobile phone, the louder and louder they are, the more black they become, but when two people meet, look at each other and smile, maybe the problem will be solved. So always remember this principle – in any situation: typing chat< voice chat< video chat< to meet in person. In fact, love is like eating, if you are hungry for a long time and eat very full, there will definitely be problems, it is good to eat in moderation! The long-term hunger of love is matched with happy overeating, and then it returns to the state of long-term hunger, and so on, people will only be more hungry and unbearable, and will only collapse faster.
The moment you hold hands and decide to accept a long-distance relationship, you're ready to face the trials ahead. Long-distance relationships are really not easy, and I wish all friends in long-distance relationships to achieve positive results and grow old.
