In my opinion, there should be four best ways to let go of a person. The real letting go is not to let the memory go to zero, but to think about it again, and the mood is also calm.
1. The best way to let go of a person: When you break up, don't be noisy, don't make trouble, don't get entangled.
Some people, when they break up, have already shown that they "can't let go". When the relationship slowly fades and breaks down, there will always be someone who will say, "Let's let go", and the person who is unwilling to let go is the one who is more painful. You can tearfully say "let's let go", in fact, I have been prepared for a long time, even if I feel very bitter in my heart, but it will not be too bitter.
Encounters are always caught off guard, and separation is early preparation. It turned out that I had comforted others, "Since you let go, you will be generous, and no one owes anyone in this life", but when it was my turn, I couldn't calm down, let alone be generous.
When reader Amin and I chatted, he said that on the day he broke up, he first quarreled with his girlfriend for two hours, and then walked alone on the street for more than five hours, aimlessly. Tired of walking, he returned to the empty room and found tears sliding down his face. A big man has become so fragile in the face of love, if it were a woman, wouldn't it be even more embarrassing. I sympathize with Amin's suffering, because it is not him who is at fault, he already cherishes the other party very much, and even quit his job for the sake of the other party. But love is not a one-person decision, Amin can only learn to "bear silently".
I don't know how many people, like Amin, always want to entangle, but what's the use of entanglement. When you see the other person turn around, it's all over, and the more entangled you are, the more entangled your heart becomes, like a rope that traps your future. Letting go of a person, from the moment of breakup, becoming a quiet person, watching the other person leave, and then you slowly turn around, is the best choice.
2. The best way to let go of a person: after leaving, don't bother or contact.
If you don't bother or contact, no matter how good your relationship is, it will slowly fade. Many lovers, just because they are reluctant to delete each other's contact information after separation, and even often go to each other's circle of friends to see, but the more they look at it, the more they miss it, and even their hearts are as uncomfortable as a knife.
Here, let's talk about Amin, because he can't let go of the people in the past, he always knows the other party's life through various ways, and when he knows that the other party is married, he borrows alcohol all day to kill his sorrows, and his life is almost collapsed. But one day, he got drunk, fell asleep in a daze, and lost his phone. Now it's okay, all the contact information is gone, and you can't quietly follow each other. At first, Amin desperately tried to find the contact information of the other party, but two months passed, in vain. His mood hit rock bottom, but it was at this moment that he found that when he thought about her again, he didn't feel that important.
Time is the best healing medicine, and all emotional wounds will become dull because of time. Therefore, leave the person you once loved, never contact again, and don't keep anything. Everyone will "see things and think about people", and if you can't see anything, you will slowly let go.
3. The best way to let go of a person: When you miss something, don't do anything.
The stupidest person in the world is that the other party has left you, but you still keep pleasing the other party and treat the other party as a "baby". For example, if she asks you to do something, you will do it with a knife in both sides. Her marriage is not good enough, you still listen to her seriously, and even ask for leave to accompany her; Her child is lost, and you go all over the world to find it; Her husband has a problem at work, and you secretly help...... Anyway, you have everything you need from her.
They all said, "I dreamed of someone last night, and the next morning, when I woke up, I went to look for him." "Actually, there is no need, because when we were together, we didn't let love bear fruit, and it was just a joke to find it later. Maybe someone else has forgotten about you and never wanted you to bother him.
Also, "The people who miss every day are destined to meet again." In this case, you can believe it, but don't believe it all, because when we meet again, it may be an afterlife. When can we meet again, everything has a providence, and it is never because you miss it every day. If you can't be together in this life, it's actually the will of God, and you don't have to blame yourself.
Sometimes, you can't let go because you are looking forward to the reunion too much, or because you take the initiative to pay attention to him after missing him. From now on, no matter how much you miss him, don't contact him or ask about him. You are used to such "indifference", and your memory will slowly become blurred, and you will never be able to get back the original feeling.
4. The best way to let go of someone: Always believe in love when no one is loving.
"If someone comes to hurt you, someone will love you", and love is also a kind of "conservation of energy". You have loved him for so long and there is no result, it is not your fault, it is that he is not blessed to be loved by you. But anyone who loses all the happiness in life because of one person is not wise enough.
Learn to turn around and meet the right person, this way is to really let go of a person. Happiness is like this, there is no happiness, only more happiness. When greater happiness pours into life, the happiness that once had is insignificant.
You have to believe in love, whether anyone loves you or not. Even if you're a little older, it doesn't matter. People still have twilight love, and they don't think that love comes too late, and they are still full of happiness.
How do you leave a relationship silently?
1. Don't pester each other
If the other party doesn't love you anymore, just say yes, leave without looking back, start your new life, and someone will always love you.
2. Don't retaliate against the other party, let alone hurt yourself
Everyone is free to fall in love and break up freely, it is unwise to hurt themselves or hurt them in a way, and in the end it is themselves who are hurt, and after breaking up, they will go their own way and do not interfere with each other.
3. Time will dilute everything, and strive to improve yourself
With the passage of time, some people will be slowly forgotten by us, or even laughed off, we don't have to take this failed love to heart, we have to work hard, constantly improve ourselves to make ourselves better and better, so that he can't climb high when he broke up, work hard to make money, let himself become status, live with dignity, and live for himself.
At the beginning of the relationship, we all fantasized about growing old with each other, and we have been loving and accompanying each other until we grow old, but many times, two people walk and walk and then break up.
Someone asked: "I still miss him very much after the breakup, what should I do if I can't let go?"
Generally, the person who asks this question is the person who has been broken up, and the other party finds that the two people are not suitable after getting along with you for a while, so they resolutely decide to break up with you, but this is a sudden blow for you, because you are not ready to break up with the other party, so you feel very hurt.
Falling in love is a very happy thing, but falling out of love is also a very common thing, if two people are not suitable, reluctant to be together, always not harmonious enough, not happy enough, leaving the wrong person is actually a fortunate thing.
But not everyone can turn around and leave in a chic manner, there are many people crying silently, missing each other, missing the days when they fell in love, and feeling that the days of breaking up are very difficult
How do you leave a relationship silently?
1. Stay away from him and look for his shortcomings
You love that man, but he doesn't belong to you. Therefore, what you have to do is not only to let go of this relationship that does not belong to you, but also to forget all that was in a limited way. Only by staying away from a person, you can slightly let go of a little bit of missing and worrying about him, a woman encounters this emotional situation, she should make a decision immediately, stay away from that man, the man who makes you cry and breaks your heart. Work hard to find that man's shortcomings, no one in the world is perfect, everyone will have their own shortcomings, even if it is a man who has been silently thinking about you in your heart, he will have his own shortcomings and shortcomings.
To leave a person is to let go of the whole of that person, which is the only difference between women and men. The pain of the woman is obvious, but the pain of the man is in the heart. When a woman loves the wrong person and does the wrong thing, as long as she is ruthless to herself, she will definitely be able to repent before it is too late.
2. Reduce contact with him
Strictly control your bottom line, if a woman really falls in love with someone else's man, if the above code of conduct can't make you forget that man, you still can't generously admit that you have let go of your heart, then try the following behavior requirements. Reduce contact with him, put an end to meeting and chatting with him, delete WeChat, block calls, don't answer text messages, so many expressions are at your disposal. Actually, if that man is really desperate to love you regardless of the world. A man will definitely take the initiative to contact you, but even if a man takes the initiative to contact, he must not accept it, because when a man is willing to give up everything he has for you, he is the man who really loves you.
Third, we must have a bottom line and strictly control our words and deeds.
Because as a woman, you decide to give up that man without hesitation, just to really forget that man, so what you should do as a woman is not only to do these codes of conduct, but also to really let go and forget that man from your heart. If you don't want the man you love wrong to hurt you, then stick to your principles and try to maintain a few days of life without that man, and you will discover a new world and a new love. As Bi Shumin once said in the book, happiness is a product of the soul, not just the achievement of love. Ta tells us that there is no emotion that neither a man nor a woman can let go of, only time and the way to forget can make you let go of everything.
