As the ancients said, "Those who are close to the ink will get red, and those who are close to the ink will get black". Energy is contagious. If you want to make changes and do something, the first thing to do is to approach those people who are full of positive energy, because they can make you realize that you are young, lucky, and your life is full of hope.
No matter what age you are, what city you live in, and what job you have, the people you often meet around you will be divided into two categories:
One is the kind of people who always meet or chat in the same way. They tell you that they have a boring life, a boring partner, or even a job with no future. There seems to be no surprise about the future in their looks;
The other kind of people around you are those who have something new to share every time they meet. They may not be your best friends.
Maybe you still have serious differences on some issues and values, but this chat is full of hope and information, which makes you feel that there is something worth changing or trying in your life.
In their bodies, there is something that deeply attracts you and can give you broader thinking.
I refer to the first as negative friends, and the second as positive friends.
1、 Energy is contagious
If you don't believe me, you can open the chat tool and send a mass message "What are you doing recently?", "I've been reading XX's book recently!" "I signed up for a study class this month to make use of the time after work." "I just ran five kilometers to exercise."
If you choose to talk with the first kind of friends, the content of your chat will generally include "salary that can't be increased", "house that can't be bought", "always against your parents". Occasionally, he/she will say "my girlfriend/boyfriend really doesn't understand me", or "I'm trying my best to explain why life still hasn't improved!" You will probably agree, Then I think of my sad life, which is not easy.
If you choose to talk with the second kind of friend, you will probably find that his/her life is like a legend. It is clear that everyone enjoys 24 hours of every day fairly, but he/she has time to run, read, and watch movies.
When you end this conversation, you will probably be inspired by the thought, "Or go to the new gym to run after work today!" "Do you want to buy a book introduced by him/her?"
If you really start to take some practical action to practice the inspiration of the second type of friends after work, congratulations. You have successfully absorbed the positive energy of a positive friend. If you choose to talk about a heavy topic with your first friend, I'm not sure if you will become the person who "suddenly gets inspired and starts to work harder".
2、 There are so many things you can do in life
A mere trifle is not enough to become your world. From the perspective of energy, I will always receive more positive energy from a "positive friend" than from a "negative friend". Being in a "negative" environment and a "positive" environment is a huge difference for a person's physical and mental development.
I once had a relatively decadent day. I didn't know where the goal of life was. I clearly knew that "I should work hard", but I didn't know what to start from.
At that time, I felt that my life was a bottomless quagmire, without a future that I expected. I think there are so many trivial things that make me worry or worry. I often ask myself "where is your life?" Boredom makes me unable to generate a little will to struggle.
Those of us who are full of negative forces seem to be experiencing a terrible infectious disease together. We can't resist it and destroy each other's hopes all the time.
Later, I met a girl by chance. She was a friend of a friend and a traveler who always walked on the road. As a result, we had only met a few times and had no chance to become long-term friends. But in these brief encounters, I learned a very important lesson from her. I think of this girl now. Her appearance has become blurred, but this impression will flash in my mind. Her whole body is always full of fighting spirit, as if she is always busy. She is single, but the density of life is extremely high.
Every time I meet her, she always brings some amazing new things, such as - "I went bungee jumping last week!" "Do you know the movie The BucKET List? I have been working on the bucKET list recently!" "I found a job in the bakery, it was hard, but I met many interesting friends!" "I found a good book, do you want to read it?"
Objectively speaking, an ordinary traveler's life is not rich, but I think her life is full of meaning, more than a little richer than my life.
She taught me to face life with a broader vision, and made me realize that there are so many things to do in life, and nothing is enough to become my whole world.
3、 The best way for people to progress
This method is to approach those who are full of positive energy. I have absorbed similar positive energy from many "positive friends". For example, I met my friends who love bodybuilding to run, asked my friends who love reading for a book list, and listened to my friends who love traveling about their travel... I have learned from these "positive friends", and my life has also changed a lot because of them. A few small misfortunes in my life are not worth giving up the whole world.
If you take out these two periods of time, you will see that I am totally different. The previous period of time, I looked depressed and depressed; In the later period of time, I was still suffering the same hardships, but I always felt that everything was full of hope.
One of the valuable experiences that life brings to me is to stay with some friends who are always "complaining about the unfairness of life" and "doing nothing", and to stay with some friends who "believe that hard work will bring fairness" and "life is always full of unknowns". The results of the two are different. Even with love, it can be because of being with different people, It grows into a posture of "two people decadent together" or "two people grow together".
I heard an impressive saying, "The average level of the five people who spend the most time together usually represents this person."
I never doubt the relationship between a person's progress and the surrounding environment, nor can I imagine what kind of person I would become if I were not pulled by the positive energy around me.
In terms of psychology, people are social animals and are easy to accept the hints of people and environment around them. I still think that the best way for people to make progress is to approach those who are full of positive energy, and the better thing is to become such a full of positive energy, to change to attract more people who need this power.
I wish you to be such a person.
