How to completely let go of a person from the heart? The way to completely let go of a person from the heart is: accept the facts, don't blame yourself too much, learn to be alone, etc.
1. Accept the facts
Many people face a breakup, because they have just broken away from the intimate relationship, both physically and psychologically, our body is not willing to accept such an outcome, and our brain is not willing to accept it.
So, in order to alleviate this pain, we will deceive ourselves, including coming up with all kinds of reasons to prove that the other person still loves us, using various methods to show that it is still possible between you, and even someone will force each other to die and threaten the other person to continue to be with us.
Although this may provide temporary relief from our suffering, it will not be conducive to our growth in the long run. When facing a breakup, whether you will get back together in the future or not, you should learn to tell yourself: we have broken up, everything is in the past tense, and I have to learn to accept this outcome.
2. Don't blame yourself too much
After we break up, we are also prone to a kind of wrong psychology - self-blame, we will blame ourselves for the fault of the breakup, and feel that it is because we have not done a good job that leads to the departure of the other party.
We like to blame ourselves because it gives us a psychological hint that if I do something well, they will come back to me. However, the breakdown of any relationship is not a one-person problem, and a breakup does not mean which of the two is bad, you are simply not a good fit.
3. Learn to be alone
At the beginning of the breakup, whenever you do something alone, you will always remember that this thing has always been done by the two of you in the past, and when you see familiar things, you can't help but think of TA, you need to spend a lot of time to get used to being alone.
But luckily, there's still a long way to go, and you do have plenty of time to find the joy of being alone. You can try things you wanted to do but didn't do, you can run, you can paint, you can make food, etc., there is so much excitement in life waiting for you to discover slowly.
Can't put a person's sentence
1. There are always some people who don't want to forget, but can't; There is always some love, not that I don't want to let go, but I can't let go.
2. If you don't know, don't know, don't love, and don't love, how can you be so greedy and greedy.
3. In fact, you all know and understand, you are just pretending not to understand, and I don't want to debunk it. Once I have saved up enough of disappointment, I will naturally leave, and I will not look back.
4. Have you ever been like this, obviously you want to chat with someone, but you want him to come to you first, staring blankly at his avatar over and over again.
5. If you want to see the facts clearly, you need some pain, you must understand that you can't keep the people who want to leave, and you can't move the people who don't love you.
How to completely let go of a person from the heart
1. Don't contact again
Now that he has decided to leave and explained that the two of them are not happy together, you also have to believe that it is true. There is no such assumption as you would have imagined that "he said so, but not in his heart." Don't try to send WeChat over and over again, asking wishful thinking like "Why?", "What am I not doing well enough", "I can't do without you", etc.
If you think about it, he will definitely see it, and he will be moved by your message and change his mind because of it. But in fact, he really doesn't like you that much. If he really misses the old love, he can't bear to watch you lose sleep and cry bitterly; If he still cares about you, he will definitely come back to you, and he doesn't need you to beg him at all.
If you are separated, you will be separated, it is useless to cry, even if you are afraid to move forward, the days will continue every day. To learn to forget, learn to adapt to the days without him, start from the simplest, don't think about calling him as soon as there is something, don't think about sending him WeChat every day. And tell yourself that if you break up, you are the most familiar stranger, he is him, you are you, don't live in the memories of the past.
2. Don't bother anymore
When you choose to break up, your heart has already given up on you. He is desperate to start a new life, and everything about you is, in his opinion, an obstacle on the way to a new life. If you leave automatically, he'll probably thank goodness; If you still chase after you and hold on tightly, he will not only not have the slightest nostalgia for you, but will be more disgusted and disgusted.
On the one hand, it will make him feel that "you can't live without me" and sneer at you; On the other hand, he is even more convinced that your personality is not suitable for him, and he is glad that his choice is correct.
What he wants most is that the bridge returns to the bridge and the road returns to the road. You should do the same. From now on, his world has nothing to do with you, don't bother, even if others talk about it, they will laugh it off, and never be a stranger.
3. Delete the chat history related to the other party
When you are separated from each other when you are in love, you may not be able to help but miss it, and you will inadvertently think of the time you spent together. Your chat history records your laughter, and you seem to be used to being greeted every day, saying "good morning" and "good night" to each other without interruption, you sending funny emojis to each other, and missing each other.
But if you want to really forget about the relationship, you don't want to keep these chats anymore, after all, that was the joy of the past, and now it is long gone. Keeping it will only make your heart ache when you see it again. So, let go of a relationship and start by deleting the chat history related to the other person.
Fourth, cry happily
If there is something unsatisfactory for a girl, it would be much better to cry happily, cry happily for this relationship, and draw a perfect end to it. When we want to end something, we always choose a special way to announce the official end of the matter.
For example, when a person can't be with the person she loves, she will eat the food that makes her allergic to end the relationship. As for you, you just need to cry and vent all the grievances in your heart.
5. Don't look back
Experiencing a failed relationship, although it hurts and hurts, also forces you to reflect on what kind of person you want to find? What should I pay attention to when managing a relationship well? More importantly, you have to believe that in the vast sea of people, you will eventually meet the person who loves you, spoils you, and cares for you all your life. You deserve better. So, quickly break free from the sadness and move forward bravely.
Make good use of this time to do a challenging job, to recharge yourself, to adjust yourself through exercise, reading, and listening to music, so that every day is fulfilling, and you can grow and improve. Accumulate little by little, don't slacken, don't give up, persevere, and give yourself a new birth.
How to completely let go of a person from the heart
1. When you break up, don't be noisy, don't make trouble, don't entangle.
Some people, when they break up, have already shown that they "can't let go". When the relationship slowly fades and breaks down, there will always be someone who will say, "Let's let go", and the person who is unwilling to let go is the one who suffers more. You can tearfully say "let's let go", in fact, I have been prepared for a long time, even if I feel very bitter in my heart, but it will not be too bitter.
Encounters are always caught off guard, and separation is early preparation. It turned out that I had comforted others, "Since you let go, you will be generous, and no one owes anyone in this life", but when it was my turn, I couldn't calm down, let alone be generous.
When reader Amin and I chatted, he said that on the day he broke up, he first quarreled with his girlfriend for two hours, and then walked alone on the street for more than five hours, aimlessly. Tired of walking, he returned to the empty room and found tears sliding down his face. A big man has become so fragile in the face of love, if it were a woman, wouldn't it be even more embarrassing. I sympathize with Amin's suffering, because it is not him who is at fault, he already cherishes the other party very much, and even quit his job for the sake of the other party. But love is not a one-person decision, Amin can only learn to "bear it silently".
I don't know how many people, like Amin, always want to entangle, but what's the use of entanglement. When you see the other person turn around, it's all over, and the more you entangle, the more entangled your heart becomes, like a rope that traps your future. Letting go of a person, starting from the moment of breakup, becoming a quiet person, watching the other person leave, and then you slowly turn around, is the best choice.
2. After leaving, do not disturb or contact.
If you don't bother or contact, no matter how good your relationship is, it will slowly fade. Many lovers, just because they are reluctant to delete each other's contact information after separation, and even often go to each other's circle of friends to see, but the more they look at it, the more they miss it, and even their hearts are as uncomfortable as a knife.
Here, let's talk about Amin, because he can't let go of the people in the past, he always knows the other party's life through various ways, and when he knows that the other party is married, he borrows alcohol all day to kill his sorrows, and his life is almost collapsed. But one day, he got drunk, fell asleep in a daze, and lost his phone. Now it's okay, all the contact information is gone, and you can't quietly follow each other. At first, Amin desperately tried to find the contact information of the other party, but two months passed, in vain. His mood hit rock bottom, but it was at this moment that he found that when he thought about her again, he didn't feel that important.
Time is the best healing medicine, and all emotional wounds will become dull because of time. Therefore, leave the person you once loved, never contact again, and don't keep anything. Everyone will "see things and think about people", and if you can't see anything, you will slowly let go.
3. When you miss it, don't do anything.
The stupidest person in the world is that the other party has left you, but you still keep pleasing the other party and treat the other party as a "baby". For example, if she asks you to do something, you will do it with a knife in both sides. Her marriage is not good enough, you still listen to her seriously, and even ask for leave to accompany her; Her child is lost, and you go all over the world to find it; Her husband has a problem at work, and you secretly help...... Anyway, you have everything you need from her.
They all said, "I dreamed of someone last night, and the next morning, when I woke up, I went to look for him." "Actually, there is no need, because when we were together, we didn't let love bear fruit, and it was just a joke to find it later. Maybe someone else has forgotten about you and never wanted you to bother him.
Also, "The people who miss every day are destined to meet again." In this case, you can believe it, but don't believe it all, because when we meet again, it may be an afterlife. When can we meet again, everything has a providence, and it is never because you miss it every day. If you can't be together in this life, it's actually the will of God, and you don't have to blame yourself.
Sometimes, you can't let go because you are looking forward to the reunion too much, or because you take the initiative to pay attention to him after missing him. From now on, no matter how much you miss him, don't contact him or ask about him. You are used to such "indifference", and your memory will slowly become blurry, and you will never be able to get back the original feeling.
4. Always believe in love when no one loves.
"Someone comes to hurt you, someone comes to love you", love is also a kind of "conservation of energy". You have loved him for so long and there is no result, it is not your fault, it is that he is not blessed to be loved by you. But anyone who loses all the happiness in life because of one person is not wise enough.
Learn to turn around and meet the right person, this way is to really let go of a person. Happiness is like this, there is no happiness, only more happiness. When greater happiness pours into life, the happiness that once had is insignificant.
You have to believe in love, whether anyone loves you or not. Even if you're a little older, it doesn't matter. People still have twilight love, and they don't think that love comes too late, and they are still full of happiness.
If one day, you also have someone who can't let go, then try in these ways, maybe you will let go.
