Some people are promoted quickly, while others are standing still. The reason for this difference is not only their ability, but also some psychological factors. Therefore, when you are in the workplace, you should avoid some psychological traps. Here we share some knowledge about workplace psychology for your reference.
1. The character of seeking defeat
Some people are naturally inclined to defeat themselves. They have repeatedly been trapped in a desperate situation of being bullied and attacked, and they have no way to do anything. Even though they have a clear exit, they still turn a blind eye to it and refuse to use it. Even if they are competent, they fail again and again.
2. Narcissism
People who are arrogant, overconfident, and have a high self-esteem will usually crash into the door of self destruction. Narcissists often need to be praised and admired by others. They should deny but affirm. In order to make others like themselves, they often agree to all the requirements of others indiscriminately.
3. Emotional naivety
It is difficult to get others' respect by using childish behavior to attract others' attention, and playing a clown in the workplace to attract others' attention. It is really a way to attack your own career.
4. Understanding of failure
Lack of confidence, limit the territory, always think that they will fail, there is a wrong expectation in their hearts, and they create the mood of failure, how can there be no reason not to fail?
5. Illusory expectations
They are ambitious and talented. They can't make a wise estimation of their talents and potential. They demand too much of themselves, and their life goals are extremely unrealistic. Unrealistic delusions will only lead to self destruction.
6. Inferiority complex
People with a serious sense of inferiority will sometimes make absurd moves to prove their value under the influence of their self-esteem, but they will fail. The inferiority complex will make them think that they are congenitally deficient and postnatal maladjusted, so they can't compete with others naturally.
7. A strong sense of revenge
Those who have a strong sense of revenge are easy to get angry, and their hearts are often full of anger. Once they are in a hurry, they often focus on venting their emotions rather than listening to advice. They can't calmly face setbacks, and as a result, they lose popularity and get into trouble.
8. Seeking attention
Likes to be in the limelight. Only by being the focus of others' attention can we resist the negative emotions such as loneliness, depression and anxiety. But the way of being in the limelight is often counterproductive. They are willing to leave jokes for others, and are also happy to react to others' frowns. They like to talk loudly, brag loudly, and look forward to others' praise.
9. Pursue excitement
Some people like to take the extreme. They will be happy only after they turn the pace of life quickly and become dizzy. But the pursuit of stimulation often ignores correct judgment. Such people had better learn to control their passion for fun and minimize the chance of self destruction, so that they can live happily without paralyzing themselves through stimulation.
10. Deceiving complex
Some people always think that their talents are not as good as others think, and they are always afraid that they will be exposed to the truth one day, so that they will be punished with self destruction. For example, a supervisor may suddenly make a crazy decision to prove that he is not qualified to be a supervisor.
11. Obstinate and suspicious
Narrow minded, suspicious all day long, always wondering about the motives of others and whether your colleagues are calculating on you behind your back will inevitably reduce your working energy, affect your interpersonal relationships, and lead to alienation, disgust and indifference of people around you. These paranoid self guided and self acting behaviors finally make the prediction come true.
12. Midlife crisis
Those who feel middle-aged crisis are not satisfied with their work and career. They think that there is no challenge in front of them worth working hard. They become depressed, moody, pessimistic and negative, and thus make a self destructive move.
13. Escape, pessimism, depression
Although such people are smart and experienced, once promoted, they have no confidence and feel incompetent. Their core belief is "I'm not good enough". Especially when setbacks and challenges occur, their negative thoughts of self destruction and self limitation prevail.
14. Black or white, mechanical
The world in the eyes of such people is either black or white. They believe that everything should be evaluated objectively like an exam with standard answers. They always feel that they are defending their beliefs and adhering to the principles of the plateau. However, others may not care about them at all. As a result, such people always fight alone and often lose.
The rigidity of such people is also manifested in their complete ignorance of human nature, which makes it difficult to understand the emotions of fear, love, anger, greed and pity. When they talk on the phone, they usually don't even call, but go straight to the point. They lack the ability to compare themselves with others. They want to exclude emotional factors from the decision-making process.
15. Arrogance, autocracy, perfectionism
They are unrealistic. When looking for a job, if they are not a leading enterprise, they will not talk about it. Otherwise, they will set up their own business. When working in large enterprises, most of them volunteered to be responsible for work beyond their ability. As a result, when the task was not completed, he still did not stop waving his baton. Instead, he wanted to make up for his previous commitment with higher achievements. As a result, he became a defeated general.
Such people also like to be in the limelight. In a stable society or enterprise, they always express their position quickly for fear that no one will pay attention to them. In fact, it is to cover up the weakness inside. Such a person always requires himself to be a hero everywhere, and also strictly requires others to reach his level. At work, they require themselves and their subordinates to be "more, faster and better". As a result, the subordinates were dragged to exhaustion and "jumped out of the boat to survive", while those who stayed were even more tired.
In their work, they even pretend to understand. They like to say, "These jobs are boring." But their real feeling is, "I can't do any work well." They hope to become famous at a young age, but they don't like to learn, ask for help or ask for advice, because they will be considered "incompetent."
