When a relative asks you how much your salary is, how can you respond with high EQ? If you want to know the correct way to respond, you need to know the purpose of relatives asking you how much your salary is. Generally, there are several purposes.
Purpose 1: For the purpose of caring
For example, someone who is very close to your family and really regards you as a relative of their own children, he asks you to understand your current situation, whether you can eat and wear warm, whether you can be happy outside, and whether you can not worry about your own livelihood. Therefore, the other party is concerned. You must respond sincerely to the other party, and at the same time, let the other party's heart be in the stomach, so as not to cause anxiety.
Goal 2: relatives for the purpose of comparison
He just wants to compare with you. For such people, if you say high, he is unhappy, if you say low, he may satirize you, so you should also pay attention to the way of speaking.
Purpose 3: Relatives borrow money
He wants to stimulate you to say that you have made a lot of money. If you say that and then he goes to borrow money from you, then you will be embarrassed.
2. When relatives ask about the salary for the purpose of comparison, we reply with the transfer praise method. It is unnecessary for us to tell each other our salary data. Because you said it, the other party heard it clearly. Your salary is higher than his, and he is unhappy. If he is lower than him, he will stimulate you again, and you are unhappy. In order to let you two not be so unhappy, we can simply not say so specific. We can praise each other and then move to the place where the other may be interested. Of course, we also need to respond to each other symbolically. When we respond, we don't need to say specific numbers. We can be careless. For example, you can say, "You don't understand our work. Our work performance appraisal method is different from yours. The monthly appraisal method is different, and we can't compare with such stable people in your company, Or you can just say, "Let's make a living." Your response implies that you don't want to answer specific numbers. In this way, it will be meaningless for the other party to ask questions again. At the same time, you can also meet the vanity of the other party if you move the topic to the place where the other party is sought after. If he wants to compete, you can meet his vanity.
3. For the purpose of borrowing money, relatives ask how much the salary is. It is suggested to cut off the source. That is, we can give each other a drizzle in advance and give a preventive injection in advance. Although we are making a little money now, what kind of reserves are we using the money now. Or where has the money been borrowed. In this way, you will cut off the other party's idea of borrowing money. When you are not sure whether the other party is borrowing money, or suspect that the other party may borrow money from you, you can take precautions in advance, especially those who always like to borrow money from others and always like to reach out to you. For example, you can say that "Second brother, to be honest, I also know that you must need help in this aspect in the future. When brother has the conditions, I will also support you. But recently, my brother has accumulated some of my development, but all of it has been invested in my next project. The future development of my project is still uncertain. Let's wish this project can Let's have some soup together. " This kind of expression can make you move forward and backward freely. If the other party borrows money again in the future, you can say that your project is in progress, and it will be finished.
When a relative asks you how much your salary is, you should first analyze the situation, and then think of ways to deal with it. Different situations have different ways to deal with them.
