What if a good man doesn't know how to refuse others? Teach you four ingenious ways to refuse others
What if you are a good man and don't know how to refuse? Here are 4 suggestions to make it easy for you to say no from time to time.
In fact, it is normal for us to help each other in interpersonal communication, so we can help, but we should help, but we should not help some people, because some people are spoiled when you help them, and they always ask you for help, even if they think it is reasonable, they don't think they owe you anything, We should not help such people. How should we refuse? Here are 4 suggestions for you.
1. Increase the difficulty of fulfilling his request
Whether the time is unreasonable or the situation does not allow, or who does not allow, we should find reasonable reasons to increase the difficulty of his request. For example, when the opposite side borrows money from you, you respond like this: "Ouch, I have to ask my daughter-in-law about this. Recently, she has been in strict control." In a word, you should return the problem to him. It is not easy for him to grasp it, and it is not easy to help you solve it. He is under pressure, and it is not easy to solve it, so you will not help him solve it. This is reasonable and you do not owe him any favors.
2. Delayed the difficulty of fulfilling his request
We can delay the difficulty of fulfilling the request from the perspective of time. For example, if the other party wants to ask you for help, you say, "Ouch, it's just not a good time. I just went on a business trip recently. How can I help you when I come back from my business trip?" In short, taking a long time to make alternative plans does not mean that we don't want to help him, but the time may not be appropriate. You don't owe him any favors, and the other party will also stop thinking about it.
3. Be good at using situational stories to downplay each other's requests
For example, if you don't want to lend others a car, you can tell a story about your psychological shadow in this regard. For example, you can say that "Ouch, I used to be indifferent in this respect. Today, I'm not the elder brother. I won't help you because I really have a psychological shadow in this respect. It's because when someone borrowed my car last year, I was very careless. I lent it to him carelessly. Unexpectedly, he caused me some trouble later. Later, I went to the traffic bureau to take notes, and then went to the police station to make notes, which annoyed me It's so annoying. From that day on, I swear that I will never borrow this thing again. " This is to tell a situational story, telling that you have no choice but to have a shadow in your mind, hoping that the other party can understand.
4. Find a third-party media to help you reject the other party
Even if you are embarrassed to come forward and try to find a spokesperson to refuse, he will not have pressure when the spokesperson refuses him anyway. Anyway, he is not very familiar with him, and may even be a stranger. He has no psychological burden, and you also have no psychological burden. This is the best way to help your friend or family to play the game. He can tell the story well and then block the other party's request. So you can talk to your lover, your parents or colleagues and friends. Of course, you can also talk to the third party media.
Either way, always remember that for those who should not help or who you really don't want to help
