When we chat with others, we will inevitably encounter awkward conversation. How can we save ourselves in this situation? How about making each other comfortable? Here are two days' suggestions.
First of all, we need to understand why we are embarrassed when chatting with others. Although there are many reasons, there are two mainstream reasons.
Reason 1: You don't relax
Why don't you relax? Because you have an inferiority complex, you are not confident, and you are particularly concerned about what the other party thinks of you. So you become not relaxed. If you do not relax, you will lose your voice. You will be nervous or lose your sense of propriety.
Reason 2: Not familiar with each other
Sometimes when I am unfamiliar, I will talk about some sensitive points, or places where there is no feeling between each other. In this case, you need to do your homework well in advance, get to know each other's circle of friends in advance, and get to know his interests through the people around him.
After we understand the specific reasons, we can suit the remedy to the case. There are three very useful ways.
First move: humorous self mockery
Once a person mocks himself, he dares to lower himself and expose his shortcomings, which will naturally be more relaxed. And others will think you are easy to get along with and sincere. For example, if you say something wrong, you can laugh at yourself like this: "I live with the paper every day. I haven't seen a girl for a long time. I'm excited when I see a girl. What I said just now may not be appropriate. I hope you will forgive me."
The second move: make fun freely
A generous joke is a generous acceptance when someone praises you. Chinese people are relatively modest. When encountering praise from others, they often reply "Where? No". When you reply like this, the topic will end. If you want to continue the topic, you might as well replace the overly modest words with generous jokes. For example, if someone praises you for being handsome, you can respond generously and ridiculously by saying, "Just as long as you want, I like the way you are serious and telling the truth." Similar responses are equivalent to counter praising the other party, while accepting your own advantages.
Third move: Be good at observation
In order to solve the embarrassment of not being familiar with each other, we need to be good at observation. We should be good at observing the dynamics of the other party's circle of friends, learn about him through friends around him, as well as his dressing and other characteristics, and then ask the other party to open the conversation. Because everyone has a desire to express. For example, if you learn from your friend's circle that he has just returned from a trip recently, you can ask him some questions about tourism. When you ask the other person to say what he wants to say, it is not easy for you to have awkward conversations, and he will talk more and more.
