When it comes to the five inappropriate behaviors of men and women, we all know that some people ask what are the inappropriate behaviors of two people?, In addition, some people want to ask what are the manifestations of the incompatibility between the two people when they fall in love?, You know what this is about? In fact, the inappropriate performance of a couple, let's take a look at the inappropriate performance of two people?
1. Willing to listen and learn
Many people say that whether two people fit together depends on whether they have a common topic. In fact, this is just a superficial phenomenon. Whether a person can share the same topic with you depends on whether the person is willing to listen and learn. A person who is willing to listen attentively when you speak, and try to learn what you are talking about, enrich his knowledge, then even if there is no common topic at the beginning, there will be some gradually. Therefore, whether two people are suitable together depends on whether they are willing to listen and learn.
2. After being together, they are getting better and better
Love that can make people progress is good love, so it depends on whether you two are suitable to be together. First, it depends on whether your love can make you both better and better. This means that your character has become better, your pursuit has become higher, your people have become mature, and you have become enterprising and responsible. If two people are together and you are moving towards a better way, you should cherish each other.
3. He made up soon after the quarrel
It is said that it is normal for lovers or couples to quarrel, but it is not good to quarrel often, especially when they are used to the cold war after quarreling. Such behavior will only make two people go farther and farther. Therefore, if you want to know whether it is appropriate for two people to be together, it depends on their performance in dealing with conflicts. If the quarrel is just to solve the problem, and it will be reconciled soon after the quarrel, it shows that you have really achieved mutual tolerance and understanding. On the contrary, it means you still need to run in.
4. Don't argue over trifles
You should know whether it is appropriate for two people to be together. It depends on whether they can understand each other. Don't start to doubt TA's love for you because the other person is busy with work and ignores you; Don't make a fuss about who washes the dishes today or mops the floor tomorrow. If you no longer quarrel over trivial matters and can think from the other's perspective, it will be difficult to separate this relationship!
5. Know what kind of love and life the other party wants
Time is changing, so is love. When two people are together, we must know what kind of love and life the other party wants. Don't blindly get together just because we think they are suitable now. If two people have different expectations for love and life, then you should know that the chances of each other getting to the end are not high. Only when the two sides are in step and have the same expectations for the future can such feelings go on for a long time.
There are four kinds of inappropriate behaviors of men and women together:
1. Divergence in consumption concept
What you think is valuable and should strive to pursue is a waste of time in the eyes of the other party, while what you think is worth nothing in his eyes. For example, you spent 100 yuan to buy a bunch of flowers for a whole day of happiness, while he kept on talking, complaining and accusing you of spending money indiscriminately. If couples often have conflicts in spending money, can't understand each other's value perception, and there are always differences in consumption concepts, then this is the most direct manifestation of the conflict between the three views.
2. Different pursuits in life
Couples should work together to achieve the same goal, but couples who pursue different goals in life are always unable to understand each other's goals and ideals, always feel that each other's choices are wrong, insist that their own ideas are correct, and are not willing to tolerate and accommodate each other. The two people who pursue different goals in life will only gradually drift apart. Since their hearts can't rely on each other, even if they share a bed, it is just a different dream.
3. Speak on different channels
The three different couples stand in different positions, look at the world with different eyes, and take different actions. The two people have different views on the world. Every conversation is not on the same channel. It is always "chicken talks with duck". The major and minor issues in life are not discussed with each other. Without common topics, they may not even have the desire to quarrel. Couples who have lost the desire to communicate can only make do with life and let their feelings gradually fade.
4. There are differences in childcare concepts
Parents' parenting philosophy can be said to be an important guideline for shaping a child's values. If the husband and wife can't reach an agreement on the method and attitude of child rearing, and they have different opinions, then the result of doing so is that the child is confused, and they don't know who to listen to, and who's right to follow. In addition, the husband and wife will certainly have conflicts because of these things again and again, leading to quarrels and wars.
If the relationship between men and women is not suitable, the following aspects can be considered to solve the problem:
1. Honest communication: Sometimes people may have misunderstanding or different expectations of each other's expectations and ideas. In this case, honest communication is the key to solving the problem. We can find common ground and solve mutual problems by exchanging and sharing our thoughts and feelings.
2. Ask for help: If the problem between you is serious, you may need professional help. You can consider one-on-one counseling or other similar forms of counseling to seek help and find better solutions from a professional perspective.
3. Adjust expectations: If the problem between you is that both parties have different expectations of each other, you may need to adjust expectations. In the process of getting along, we can better understand each other's needs and aspirations, so as to reach a better consensus and understanding.
4. Repositioning: If the problem between you is that both sides need time to adapt to each other, you may need to reposition. In the process of getting along, you can give each other some time and space to adapt to the new environment and interpersonal relationships.
5. Adjust yourself: Finally, sometimes the problem may be your own. It may be that there is a problem with your personality, behavior or communication style. In this case, you need to reflect on yourself and try to change yourself to better adapt to each other and get along with each other.
In a word, it needs the joint efforts of both sides to solve the problem of inappropriate relationship between men and women. We need to communicate frankly, seek help, adjust expectations, reposition and adjust ourselves to find a way to get along with each other.
