Invite the opposite sex with courtesy to make them closer to themselves. We have opposite sex in our work, study and life circles. No matter what the purpose, it is necessary to be polite to invite the opposite sex to dinner, because eating is not the purpose but the way. Single heterosexual dating, do not understand each other, not to mention polite. So, how can we invite the opposite sex to dinner without losing politeness and successfully invite?
First, find an excuse that the other party is not easy to refuse.
Let's take inviting the opposite sex out for dinner on weekends as an example. How can we find the reason for inviting the opposite sex? In fact, there are many methods.
1. Push the boat along the river
Look for two people's common hobbies, such as asking each other what they like to do on weekends? If the other person says that I like to watch movies on weekends, you can use the other person's story to say that I also like to watch movies on weekends. In this way, the two have found a common topic, and their common interest is to watch movies. So it is logical for them to make an appointment to watch movies and then have dinner.
2. Cast a brick to attract jade.
Ask him how he usually spent his weekends. If the other party has no answer or gives an answer for a long time, and you are not satisfied with it, then you should learn to guide. For example, you can say that I usually go shopping, eat food, watch movies, etc. on weekends. When the other party hears your guidance, he may choose an answer that you are also satisfied with. If shopping, you can go shopping together.
3. Take advantage of the problems.
For example, when you tell the other party where to go in the process of chatting, you have recently opened a restaurant, which tastes very good. Either the restaurant has new dishes, or the environment of a theme restaurant is good, and one of the many options is always satisfactory to the other party. As long as the other party has the option, you can invite the other party out naturally.
4. There is no other way.
Give the other party the only option, so that the other party has no choice. Sometimes, we give each other too many options, which makes it difficult for the other party to choose. Rather than embarrass the other party, it is better to give the other party the only option. For example, you can say: I just have a 50% discount coupon for the limited time in XX restaurant. You can go with me, or it will be too wasteful and regrettable. In this way, the opposite sex will not refuse.
Second, the way of invitation should vary from person to person and from event to event.
Invite the opposite sex according to the nature of the purpose of communication and the identity of the other party. For example, scholars and experts, company bosses, most of these people are busy with business and have little time. It is better to invite and send special personnel to convey the invitation information in advance, or even invite them to the door so that they can arrange time in advance and feel that you attach importance to them. Invite some important figures of the group openly, send letters and invitation cards to facilitate publicity and expand influence. For some people who have good relationships or have plenty of time, they can usually be invited at any time, even if they make a temporary invitation, say hello or send a message. If you are your boyfriend or girlfriend, you can invite them quietly. There is no need to make such a big deal.
Third, after being rejected, he formally refused to reflect on himself.
Being rejected is a terrible thing. For the depressed things, if we are invited to be rejected by someone, we still feel uncomfortable. However, some people can't stand the blow. After being rejected, they will abandon themselves. Finally, we gave up the invitation. In fact, it's not terrible that the banquet was rejected. We have no right to force others to face difficulties, respect each other, and highlight our own demeanor. The key is to have a correct attitude, master some psychological skills to overcome depression, and then fight back. So, how to do it?
Face rejection squarely and be mentally prepared. When rejected, they can take it calmly, handle it properly, reflect on themselves, find out the reasons for their rejection, and find the crux of the problem. Then turn the depression after being rejected into the potential motivation of eager to try. Finally, I would like to emphasize that there are also taboos about heterosexual invitations. We must avoid these taboo things. If we say that the invitation for non lover relationship should be held in a place where people are bright, so as to avoid unnecessary misunderstanding. Or if we think the other party is important, the way and method of invitation should be solemn and important. If a man invites a woman, he'd better come in advance. If he invites a married opposite sex, he must avoid other people's rumors in public.
