As parents, children must be criticized when they make mistakes, but many parents will not criticize their children, which leads to more and more rebellious children. How can they criticize children most effectively? Failing parents all criticize in this way. We must pay attention to these taboos when criticizing children.
1. Criticism without division of field and time
You should know whether there are outsiders, peers or people who care about the child when criticizing him. If there are these people present, you will seriously hurt his self-esteem when you criticize him, and the child will begin to hate you, even unwilling to face these people and make another rebellious escape. At this time, being a parent is more troublesome. Sometimes it's not good to criticize children without time. For example, criticizing children during meals can affect their digestion and absorption. Criticizing a child before going to bed will affect his sleep and his growth. Therefore, as a parent, he criticized the children for their time.
2. Turn over old accounts
Say to your child, "Why are you always like this? Can you still have some memory if you can't change it?" Sometimes, you even put forward, "How did you last time? You don't have a long memory at all." The more you say that as a parent, the more your child feels that you can't talk about things from the point of view. Sometimes, two things that are not strongly related can be said together softly, which will attack a certain character of the child, Then the child began to break the jar. Anyway, you don't think he can do it. Why should he do it? I'll show you if I can't do it.
3. Don't just vent your emotions
Some parents can't control their own emotions. When criticizing their children, they beat and scold them, even become furious. Sometimes they may frighten the children. In this case, the children are prone to become neurotic. They always hide from you. Some words can be communicated with you freely, and they will not communicate with you. Gradually, the psychological distance between you and your child will become more and more distant. When he grows up, he will have some skills, become more and more secretive, become more and more unwilling to communicate with you, and become more and more distant from you. It will be a great failure to be a parent in this way.
4. Don't always compare other people's children
The more you compare children, the more they feel that they are not your own, and it is easier to develop their rebellious character.
5. Constant nagging
This situation is more likely to annoy children. Everyone does not like being blamed. It is enough for you to accuse the child once and remember it. It is annoying to keep nagging like a fly. The key is that you cannot solve the problem.
Parents communicate with children. Sometimes children are unwilling to communicate with parents because parents have committed the above five taboos of communication with children. Therefore, as parents, children should also master skills when communicating, so as to help children grow healthily and happily.
