If it is your best friend, you can take your heart to care about her and him. Take her to play or vent. The good thing is to have fun with him. Have confidence in yourself. Comfort is a very simple thing. Don't be afraid to be comforted. If he is a person with strong personality, you should not comfort him. The more you comfort him, the more sad he will be. If he is a very ordinary person with weak personality, you should comfort him and say more words of encouragement to him. He will feel better Comfort him (her) with words that you think can be accepted by the other party!
Tell him to look on the bright side. Who won't be sad? Read more jokes and comedies, think about happy things that happened before, find something to enrich yourself, and hang out with friends. Of course, you can travel if you can. Listen to some quiet and cheerful songs, and it will be better gradually. There may be the following sentences:
1. Jieling still needs a Lingren.
2. Take a deep breath, run and cry. In short, I will do everything I can to eliminate my unhappiness and discomfort.
3. Talk to the person you trust most.
4. Time, for anything, is the best medicine for healing wounds. That sad memory may never be erased, but after a long time, think about those who only know scenery, no matter what, it will fade a lot, because it is just remembered!
Sadness is a common thing, and everyone will encounter unpleasant things, so how should we comfort the sad people?
Let the other party finish the anger
When a person is in a low mood, he can either talk or keep silent. In fact, it's better to keep talking. He is willing to spit out all the unhappiness in his heart. As long as you are a quiet listener, listen to his nagging, and then comfort him according to his meaning, his mood will be much better. But it is the worst consolation for the silent people to hide their troubles and pains in their hearts. You can only keep silent with him, or tell some jokes to let him slowly put down his burden and tell his troubles, so that you can continue to comfort him.
You need to know the cause
When a person in a bad mood tells his troubles, you can know the cause of things. Often, those who are on the spot are obsessed with the situation, and they like to dig into the corner of an ox in a blind alley. As a bystander, you can easily see the face of things. But one thing to note is that the whole thing is just that when you listen to him, when you are in a bad mood, when you look at a thing, it is inevitable to have a self subjective consciousness, which will exaggerate the troubles and pain. The person who always thinks he is the most injured, otherwise how could he be in a bad mood and need someone to comfort him? You should objectively analyze the original appearance of things and make correct judgments.
Say what the other person means
No matter whether things are as the other side said, is he wronged? As a comforter, you can't speak against the other person's words, which will only make him more angry. In this anger, even if the person who did the wrong thing is really him, you should follow the other person's instructions. As long as you follow them, his anger will slow down, or at least not rise. When the other party's mood is stable, he can communicate effectively and reason with him. Only when people are calm can they be persuaded.
Observe the other party's needs
When the other party is angry, his behavior is the most true expression of his heart. You can observe carefully, but you should act as if you don't care. If you look straight at him, he will think you are laughing at him. People are sensitive when they are in a bad mood. Look at what he wants, to get comfort from other people's words? I still want to stay alone for a while. Some people are afraid of leaving the crowd and being alone. Some people like to think alone when they are in a bad mood. You should be good at observing what your friends need.
Find the right time
People want to save face. Even if he is in a bad mood, his words and deeds are not rational enough. He also hopes to save face as much as possible. So when you go to comfort others, you must choose a good time and place, and don't foolishly invite a lot of friends to comfort others. A party is something to do when everyone is in a good mood. Try to keep a low profile and not let everyone know. Only when facing a person can the other person feel secure, be afraid of being laughed at, and let out their feelings.
Learn to think in terms of position
When persuading others, we may make them think in terms of their positions. But we should also think in terms of ourselves. If the person who is in a bad mood is yourself, how do you feel when others ask you to put yourself in another position. Sometimes when you are really wronged, you will be in a bad mood, or you are angry. If you want others to think in terms of others, can others do it? If you can do it, you won't be in a bad mood. So before asking others to put themselves in other's shoes, you should know that you are here to comfort others, and some words should not be said.
Pay attention to your words and attitude
Comfort is words. We should use words to move each other and repair their injured hearts. There is no skill in words that can move people's hearts. What the other person feels is your attitude. Try to be gentle and gentle. Don't be loud and make it seem like a quarrel. Then there is your wording. It does not require you to be eloquent, but your words cannot strike the other party or make the other party understand incorrectly. You can turn the topic aside, say some funny jokes, and comfort a person. It is not to help him solve his difficulties (of course, it is best to solve them), but to make him laugh. Solving his troubles is another topic.
