The four criteria of a true friend are not afraid to offend you, not easy to borrow money from you, speaking well for you in front of others, and not caring about the gain and loss of interests.
1. Not afraid to offend you
There are many people around us who always speak nice and polite words in front of us. These people never get along with us carefully and never offend us. But although these friends seem to have a good relationship with us on the surface, in fact, these people are not true friends.
Those who really regard you as a friend cannot just say good things about us and ignore our shortcomings. If he is just saying hello, making you happy, and never points out your shortcomings, he must want to get something from you. Such people don't care about your good or bad.
No one is perfect. Everyone has shortcomings. Friends often get along with each other. They must know what shortcomings each other has. Real friends will point out your shortcomings for your own good. They know that this will make friends unhappy, but they will still be like your parents, sincerely hope that you can change your shortcomings and become better.
Therefore, when you meet a friend who dares to offend you, you must cherish it. Those who only speak good words should stay away.
2. Not easy to borrow money from you
Some people think that since they are friends, it is normal to borrow some money. But a true friend will consider from your point of view. Everyone's life is not easy, and they will not borrow money from friends unless they have to.
Those friends who borrow money from you every once in a while never think about themselves, and never take you seriously. He only thinks that he treats you as a friend, and you should help him when he has something to do. But when you have difficulties, what he thinks is that since we are friends, we should understand each other, and you should consider for him.
Friends who easily borrow money from you are usually selfish people, who only use friends as tools, not friends. If you meet such a person, he will not treat you as a friend, and you should not treat him as a friend.
3. Speak up for you in front of others
Many people are two faced and three faced. I don't speak ill of you in front of you, but I talk about you behind your back. Some people only listen to what their friends say in front of them, instead of caring about what they say behind their backs, which is easy to be fooled into thinking that their friends are loyal. Others regard you as a fool, but you treat others as friends.
A true friend, even if you are not present, will defend you and defend you when others speak ill of you. Real friends are people who know you well. When others say bad things about you, they may just misunderstand you. Real friends know what your nature is. They will not listen to others, but will explain it to you.
A friend who can speak well of you in front of you is a true friend.
4. Regardless of benefits
Some friends seem to be loyal at ordinary times, but when it comes to money, they change. When you invite him to eat and play, he promises faster than anyone, but you can never wait for him to invite you. He asked you a favor, and you could help no matter how troublesome you are. If you ask him for help, he won't bother to answer you even if it's a simple task.
A true friend will not care about the gains and losses with you. If you have money, you can spend it. If he has money, he can spend it. I don't know how much you spent, how much he spent and whether he suffered. If he can help you, he will do his best even if it is troublesome. He won't find reasons to excuse himself if he doesn't feel troublesome.
There are mainly four aspects of the standard, including time not to dilute your feelings, taking the initiative to hint at your mistakes when you do something wrong, telling you your own things and feelings, and new friends not replacing him.
1. Time will not dilute your feelings
In our life, we will meet many friends. Some old friends have gradually lost touch or even weakened their feelings over time. However, true good friends will not fade because they have not contacted for a long time. Instead, they will not meet for a long time. Suddenly meeting them will make your feelings deeper.
2. When you do something wrong, you will take the initiative to hint at your mistakes
When you do something wrong, you don't know it, or you do something on your own impulse, your good friend will not go to the theatre because it doesn't matter to him, but will warn you, talk to you, guide you, and guide you! I won't ignore you for fear of contradicting you.
3. I will tell you my things and feelings
When your good friend has a very sad thing or trouble or something in his heart, because you trust him and trust you, he will tell you everything in his heart, talk to you or ask for your opinions.
4. New friends will not replace him
We will have many friends and many new friends, but even if we have new friends or new good friends, we will not go without contacting our old friends. Of course, his special position in your heart is not something anyone can easily replace.
What kind of friend is a real good friend
1. A friend who cares about you is a good friend
Some friends will always contact you and ask about your recent situation. Because they will think of you, they are good friends.
2. A friend who reaches out to help you when you are in trouble is a good friend
When you are in trouble, you have to ask him (her) for help. He (she) will do his best to help you without hesitation. Such a friend is your good friend.
3. Friends who comfort you when you are sad are good friends
When you are sad and helpless, if there is a friend who is always by your side to comfort and encourage you, such a friend is a bosom friend.
4. A good friend is one who doesn't abandon you
No matter people all over the world don't want you, there is always a friend who will always be with you, never abandon you, never betray you. Such a friend is a true friend.
5. Friends who look up to you are good friends
No matter how high his or her identity, status and economy are, he or she still looks up to you and will not leave you alone. Such a friend is a good friend.
6. Friends who share weal and woe are good friends
When the other party has a good life, it will let you have a good life together. When the other party has a bad life, it will face all the difficulties with you. Such a friend is a bosom friend.
