Many people may have such experience when they are in love, that is, they are blackmailed by their girlfriend. Many girls like to blackmail their boyfriend when they are angry. Let's analyze what kind of psychology this is.
What is my psychology that my girlfriend often blackmails me
When you are in love, your girlfriend always likes to pull you black and then add you back. By doing so, she can explain at least two problems. The first problem is that you often make her angry, and the second problem is that she is a more emotional and impulsive person.
Girls always delete and blackmail you. It is not necessarily her fault that she does so. It is more likely that your words and deeds always make her angry. She has a lot of complaints about you, but she doesn't know how to vent them, so she is used to deleting and blacking you repeatedly, warning you in this way, hoping you can take care of yourself, cherish her and treat her well.
If a girl is used to deleting and blacking you, it may also be because of her own personality. She is probably an impulsive person with a strong temper. Therefore, once she quarrels with you and gets angry, she will lose control of herself, want to pull you black and delete you, and never contact each other again. But when she calms down, she may regret it, so she adds you back.
What should I do if my girlfriend often blackmails me
The first thing is to know what's wrong with you. This is something that many straight men have been confused about. Maybe you didn't do what you promised unintentionally, and then you didn't realize it. Finally, you will find that the reason why your girlfriend doesn't tell you your mistake is that he doesn't want you to think that she is stingy or even sensitive, He wants to give you a warning by blacking you, so before you decide to communicate with her, you must think carefully about what you have done wrong, write down all the mistakes you have made in this period of time, and apologize together. The effect will be better.
The second is that the attitude must be sincere. Many straight men are not sincere about apologizing. They think that apologizing is just saying sorry. It's just a wrong attitude. It's definitely wrong. Apologizing does not mean that you should admit your own mistakes, and you should learn to respect others' ideas. Many girls are not angry and want you to care about her, You love games more than games. Compared with some friends, she may feel left out. So when apologizing, she must promise and guarantee that she will spend more time with her in the future. The game will never be played again. As long as he asks you back at the beginning, or even asks you, it means that your relationship is good again.
Finally, you must master certain communication skills. The consequence of many straight men not understanding communication skills is that they cannot understand the other meaning in their girlfriend's words. For example, you will ask you, are you wrong? Many straight men may be wrong in this song. The girlfriend then asks you where you are wrong. This is not to ask you where you are wrong, but to let you have a deeper understanding of your own mistakes. At this time, you should start to repeatedly ensure that you will not make mistakes again, and what will happen in the future, instead of mentioning those mistakes again.
Another useful communication skill is to buy gifts. Many women often say that you are not sincere enough to apologize. Another meaning of the lack of sincerity is that you did not buy a gift. Your words do not prove that you realized the mistake of buying a valuable gift. On the one hand, they tell themselves that they can't do it again, On the other hand, it is to express one's sincerity.
Girlfriend Lahei, what do you mean
1. Anger
Your girlfriend may be angry. For example, if you are too close to the opposite sex, she will be jealous. Once a woman becomes jealous, she will do many unimaginable things. Therefore, a woman who blackmails you means that she is angry and wants to attract your attention in this way. This does not mean that a woman does not love you, but that she does such things because she cares too much about you, Men should try to understand each other's feelings. If you have a girlfriend, you should know how to keep a safe distance from other members of the opposite sex to avoid hurting your girlfriend.
2. Probing
You may be trying to pull black or delete women. Generally, women are less secure than men. Especially when women chase men together, women sometimes feel inferior to men. Slowly, insecurity appears. At this time, women will use pulling black to judge your sincerity in order to test her position in your heart, So women pull black you represent temptation.
3. Break up
If a girlfriend blackmails you without warning, she should want to break up with you. Lablacking is just a hint. Some women are afraid to break up directly, so it is the most reliable way for her to blackmail the other party. When her boyfriend asks her what is going on, she can push the boat to say the words of breaking up. At least, men are prepared before again, It's just a matter of reconfirmation. At this time, men should help her. If you insist on going forward, you will not get good results.
What should I do if my girlfriend often blackmails me?
The first thing is to know what's wrong with you. This is something that many straight men have been confused about. Maybe you didn't do what you promised unintentionally, and then you didn't realize it. Finally, you will find that the reason why your girlfriend doesn't tell you your mistake is that he doesn't want you to think that she is stingy or even sensitive.
He wants to give you a warning by blacking you, so before you decide to communicate with her, you must think carefully about what you have done wrong, write down all the mistakes you have made in this period of time, and apologize together. The effect will be better.
The second is that the attitude must be sincere. Many straight men are not sincere about apologizing. They think that apologizing is just saying sorry, that is, under the attitude, just admit a mistake, which is definitely wrong. Apologizing does not mean that you should admit your own mistakes, but also learn to respect others' ideas.
Many girls are not angry. They just want you to care about her. You love games more than games. Compared with some friends, she may feel left out. So when apologizing, she must promise and guarantee that she will spend more time with her in the future. The game will never be played again, as long as he asks you back at the beginning, or even asks you, That means your relationship has been reconciled again.
Finally, you must master certain communication skills. The consequence of many straight men not understanding communication skills is that they cannot understand the other meaning in their girlfriend's words. For example, you will ask you, are you wrong? At this time, many straight men may be wrong.
The girlfriend then asked you where you were wrong. This is not to ask you where you were wrong, but to let you have a deeper understanding of your own mistakes. At this time, you should start to repeatedly guarantee that you will not commit again, and what will happen in the future, instead of mentioning those mistakes again.
Another useful communication skill is to buy gifts. Many women often say that you are not sincere enough to apologize. Another meaning of the lack of sincerity is that you did not buy a gift. Your words do not prove that you realized the mistake of buying a valuable gift. On the one hand, they tell themselves that they can't do it again, On the other hand, it is to express one's sincerity.
