The most important quality between friends is sincerity. There is an old saying, "If you want others to be your friends, you should be their friends first." This sentence is very simple, but it has a profound meaning. If we want to make friends with others, we should automatically come out of our ivory tower and care about others and their world. We often care too much about our own world and the impression we give others, so that we cannot really communicate with others openly. Forgetting yourself and extending your hands of friendship can make you receive a warm response.
Mutual trust is the cornerstone and premise of friendship. It is hard to imagine that people who do not trust each other can become true friends. In that case, even if they call each other brothers, I am afraid that there is still a grudge in their hearts, or because of temporary interests, two people form an alliance, this kind of friendship will not last.
The most important quality among friends should be to help each other. A philosopher once said: "The way we make friends is to benefit others, not to benefit from others.". We should care for and help our friends, and when a person wants to get the care and help of others when interacting with others, he must consider that others also have such needs, so friends should care for and help each other.
The three qualities that make friends most value each other:
First, filial piety
Filial piety comes first. If the other party cannot be filial to his own parents, then it is superficial to be good to friends. So if the other party is not filial, it is not worth associating.
Second, responsibility
Only when there is responsibility can there be responsibility. Such a friend must be worth associating with.
Third, character
The most important thing to make friends is to see the character. Character is the most fundamental weight for a foothold in society. People with good character have a kind, benevolent and sincere heart. They don't have to worry about making friends with such people. They have a sense of security.
If a person does not have a good character, it may even cause some harm to his friends. Therefore, making friends is always loyal to his character.
These are the three principles of making friends.
What kind of friends are not allowed:
1. Those who are not filial to the elderly will not pay. No matter whether our parents are capable or not, they have given us life. Let us listen to the world, observe the world, and transform the world, which is enough to make us grateful. A man always says that his parents are bad and wrong. He haggles over every detail with his parents. He hates taking care of his parents, spending money on shopping, and treating his parents badly. Can he be sincere to others?
2. Don't pay the money that is more important than anything. The interests of such people always come first. There is a saying in the countryside: a penny falls on the ground and soot is blown on all sides. In other words, even a penny is in the eye. It's tiring to make such friends! When you invite him out for dinner, he feels at ease. Occasionally, he invites you, and his heart aches like death. I still want to spend a few yuan more than you paid for that meal. You have no money at the moment, so borrow some from him. He reminds you today and urges you tomorrow. Tired!
3. Be duplicitous, face to face and back to face. It is impossible to guard against such friends. I kissed you like a sister and brother today, and I turned around to speak ill of you. As a rural saying goes: call your brother to your face and pick up the guy behind your back. Such a friend is kind.
4. Those who are dirty, like taking other people's things and taking advantage of others will not pay. It's hard to make friends with such people.
A person who lives in the world will have friends. Making good friends can help you in your work and life as well as in all aspects. If you make bad friends, you will either be trapped by the friend or taken to an evil path by the friend. In short, it is not useless for you.
So, what qualities should we pay attention to when making friends? First of all, during the observation, communication and contact at ordinary times, you should see whether this person has problems in dealing with others. For a selfish and arrogant person, you'd better not contact such a person. Another kind of person is a person who is silent and has a heavy heart. Such a person is very insidious and may hurt you at some time.
Another kind is to pick the top everywhere, with a bad character, and you should stay away from him in the end. For those who worship the high and trample on the low, don't really associate with them. Maybe they are already thinking of you when they associate with you. When one day you have no use value, they will trample on you. Our daily life is inseparable from friends, so how can we make friends?
First of all, you should choose people who have good reputation and popularity, and also make friends with people who have similar interests. Because these people are called good people, they generally do not use others to frame people and deceive people, and they will help you when you are in trouble. In fact, I have a good personality. It is also a good choice for magnanimous people to make friends. This kind of friend often has a good interpersonal relationship, which may be helpful to your work, career and family. Finally, you must be a decent person. You can make friends with him. This kind of person is usually aboveboard and won't hurt you behind your back. You don't have to worry about defending him. The reason why people are willing to make friends is to seek help for themselves, family, work, life and study, so they should be treated with caution. If you can get some people who are positive and eager to learn, open minded and helpful, open minded and kind, your work, study and life will be very satisfactory.
