Because you are acquaintances, sometimes you and him may be too casual, or they may have differences unintentionally. For example, if you feel familiar with an acquaintance when he has something to decide, you may interfere with his thinking if you take the initiative to suggest. The other party will think that you know too much about his privacy, and will take precautions against you. Once there is any rumor, he will think what role you played in it. We all know the truth that things are not people, but when it is necessary to make a clear position once a problem arises, he always thinks that you should stand on feelings rather than on reason. That is, no matter right or wrong, he needs your support. For him, when he asks you to work in his place, he always gives you the kind of gift or reward that you should do no matter how much he asks you to do, and you must do whatever he asks you to do, so that both you and he will eventually reach the point of uncontrollable.
The most common reason is that you think you earn what you deserve by your own efforts, and the other party thinks that it is obviously based on the blood relationship to take care of you. This cognitive dislocation is often the source of contradictions. From the perspective of migrant workers, they are embarrassed to raise their wages, change jobs (or be tangled), and many benefits are also embarrassed to be honest, especially the commission. It's hard to be happy to give more than enough. From the boss's point of view, I'm embarrassed to punish him or to dismiss him (or to say that he is more tangled). I feel I am not competent but I'm also embarrassed to say that when I meet someone who doesn't want to take advantage of the company, I have to ask someone to deliver a message. If you are a novice and have no experience, you can work as an apprentice in the form of an acquaintance for a period of time, but not too long, or even acquaintances will not get along well. If you do well, you will think that you have not received the due reward, if you do not do well, you will feel that your mistakes have been magnified. You always feel that you have not been treated fairly, and your dissatisfaction will gradually accumulate over time, which will naturally erupt over time. What do you think?
Many people feel that when they work with people they know very well, their own affairs will be known clearly, and everything in the company will be known by acquaintances, without any secrets. At this time, we will feel like a ventilated wall, and everything is known by people around us, whether good or bad. At the same time, we are afraid that acquaintances will spread some things out, which is the most unacceptable. So they will avoid working with acquaintances.
In the work, disputes, disagreement and so on often occur. If you work with an acquaintance at this time, and two people are unhappy because of work, it will be extremely awkward, and may not be as easy to solve as usual. One of the biggest reasons for not working with acquaintances is that you are not confident enough. I always feel that if I work with acquaintances, they will find many shortcomings and let them down. If this happens, the lack of confidence will become more serious.
If we say that our ability is inferior to that of our acquaintances, we have an inferiority complex. We are afraid that we will fall behind everywhere, resulting in jealousy and even resentment. If I say that my ability is better than that of my acquaintances, I always feel that I am superior to others and will look down on others, so I don't want to work with losers. This abnormal human nature is not rare. There is another kind of person who thinks that others are watching him every day, and he is careful in everything he does. This is also a sign of lack of confidence. But I like working with acquaintances, knowing the root and the bottom, and communicating well.
In terms of business, the business of acquaintances is the most difficult to do. Either you give them wholesale prices, you will still feel that you have earned their money, or some people will pay more. Now the prices in all walks of life are basically transparent, so neither way is easy to do. So it is also true to talk about salary when working with acquaintances. There are two reasons for conflicts between people: one is because of money, but because of love. In such an environment, problems will naturally occur. The roles of employees and bosses are opposite in many people's understanding, not win-win.
Working under relatives means that relatives have certain power in their work. You should be managed by relatives and obey their commands.
This can lead to three situations:
First, relatives take care of you in everything, and only hand over the easy work to you. Such work is generally low in technical content, and there is little room to learn and improve from it; Other colleagues have great objections to this. You have been labeled as being related to the company/unit and weak in ability, wasting time and being challenged, but your ability has not been improved.
Second, relatives have the idea that their own people don't have to worry about salary, relevant benefits and other matters, and give you the thankless work that other people are unwilling to do, but don't pay the corresponding salary, so they can find you if they work hard. And most of them fight for the treatment they deserve based on their kinship; Even if it is not easy to open a mouth, it may also be labeled as being considerate and regardless of family affection.
Third, fair competition and objectivity cannot be achieved in the work. Sometimes it may cause some people to rely on their relatives as a backer, act like tigers, abuse their power, fail to compete fairly with their colleagues, and the working atmosphere of the enterprise/unit is poor. In the long past, other employees are slack off or leave because of unfair treatment, which is not easy for the development of the enterprise/unit.
As the saying goes, a close brother should pay the bills. China has always attached great importance to worldly wisdom and parental ethics. Sometimes, even if the working environment does not involve relatives, they may be kidnapped by their relatives and have to spend time doing something, not to mention working under relatives, their hands and feet are bound and their spirit is suppressed. Work should not be done by relatives. Even if relatives have kindly invited and promised generous salary and promising future at the beginning, they must resolutely refuse to do it, otherwise, when it comes to work interests, it will be cut and sorted out.
