How to decline the invitation of others with high EQ? Many people sometimes really don't want to participate in activities, but they don't know how to decline. Sometimes rejection becomes a difficult thing to say, which is very annoying. Direct rejection may hurt the other party's heart, or even affect their feelings. Here's how to decline the invitation of others with high EQ.
1、 Let the other party cancel
When we want to refuse an invitation from another person, we'd better break the routine and devise a clever plan to let the other person cancel it by himself. For example, when you are studying and your classmates invite you to go out to play, you can say: I have set a goal for myself. Today, I will spend three hours to get familiar with the contents of the book. I will never go out to play until I finish it.
Your attitude must be firm. Even if the other party guesses that you are looking for reasons to evade, they are embarrassed to force you out again, so they have to cancel the invitation themselves.
2、 Outspoken persuasion
In most cases, if we really have reasons for not accepting the invitation, we can directly state that as long as your attitude is sincere and the reasons are appropriate, let the other party believe that the reasons you have stated are true, and believe that your refusal is out of frustration. Even if you fail to accept his invitation, you can still understand you.
3、 Procrastination and prevarication
Generally, the tone of rejection should be euphemistic and the meaning should be firm. But sometimes, when we are indecisive or do not want to categorically refuse to destroy the relationship, we can use the delaying tactics at the right time.
4、 Preemptive
When someone asks you for an invitation, he always hopes to accept it smoothly. Once he opens his mouth, if you refuse it directly, he will feel "embarrassed" and become dissatisfied with you.
Taking the offensive as the defensive and taking the initiative is a good way to refuse. Before the other person speaks, you speak first. It seems that you have blocked the other person's mouth unintentionally, so that the other person can no longer make an invitation. Moreover, because the other person has not told you clearly, your rejection will not make him feel embarrassed.
High EQ rejects invitations
1、 Reject with a positive attitude
The head of a department of a large domestic enterprise said that his favorite way to refuse was: "This idea is very good, but we can't adopt it yet", "Good idea, but it can't be implemented yet". Using the attitude of affirming the other party to express rejection can effectively avoid hurting the other party's feelings, while using words such as "now" and "now" means not rejecting completely, which will give the other party a psychological buffer.
2、 Reject with regret in an exclamation
Sometimes, when you refuse the other party and want to express your disappointment, you can make each other understand by using a tone of regret in your exclamation. For example, Xiao Chen bought a bag for his girlfriend Xiao Yan. Xiao Yan didn't like it and thought the color was too bright. But she just said, "It's better to be plain. I prefer light colors."
3、 Refuse in a compliment
It is also a high EQ rejection skill to compliment the other party when refusing. For example, when you want to refuse an appointment, you can say: "Thank you for your invitation. I would like to have dinner with you and listen to your ideas, but unfortunately..." Another example is when you refuse a colleague's request for help, you can say: "I know your work is very important. You have many important things to do, but..."
4、 Reject in a polite way
Take the workplace as an example. When you refuse a colleague's request for help, you can politely say, "I'm willing to help you, but it's really unfortunate. Do you think I can do something else for you? For example, what can I bring you when I buy something?"
5、 Refuse in a deliberative tone
If someone invites you to a party, and you just have something else to say no, you can say: "I'm sorry, today is really too busy, otherwise, let's change the time. Would you like to see next Saturday?" This kind of rejection shows high emotional intelligence.
6、 Refuse in a conciliatory manner
The so-called way of easing is to slow down. The most common saying is "Let me think about it". For example, some leaders often say, "We need to study this matter." Most of the time, this is a kind of rejection, but because the tone is mild and not stiff, the rejection suddenly becomes human.
7、 Refuse with self mockery
Self mockery is also a kind of high EQ rejection skill, which can dilute the hurt to others in the humorous and cheerful laughter, and will not make the other party resent your rejection. For example, "I can't do this because I'm not competent enough. If..."
8、 Reject with sympathy
The most difficult people to refuse are those who are pathetic and sighing. At this time, you should also refuse with a sympathetic tone. For example, a foreign friend said to you, "Lao Wang is going to your side on a business trip. If the hotel was not too expensive, I would go with him."
9、 Refuse in an ambiguous tone
A wrote an article, felt brilliant and asked B how he felt. At first glance, B didn't feel any literary talent, but B's answer was "OK". Although this answer was vague, if A was smarter, he would understand what B meant.
10、 Refuse in a euphemistic tone
Compare two rejection methods: "I think what you said is wrong" and "I don't think what you said is right", "I think it's not good" and "I don't think it's good". Although the meaning of the two refusal methods is the same, the latter is more tactful and easier to accept, not as direct as the former.
How can a woman with high EQ refuse an invitation from a man
1. Reject a man's date
When a man first pursues a woman, he always wants to contact and understand each other more. But men may simply like you at this time, and may choose the most suitable partner among many women. Therefore, women with high EQ will know how to refuse your invitation skillfully. Although they really want to make an appointment with you, they know that a woman who is easy to be asked out will not be treasured naturally. So in order to create a sense of mystery, women with high EQ will know how to find all kinds of excuses and reasons to refuse your date. At this time, men will certainly feel that you are not easy to pursue and that you are not a casual woman, but they want to know you very much, which also greatly stimulates men's challenge psychology. They want to catch up with you more and look forward to dating you more. When the time is ripe, women will agree to go out. Such a woman with high EQ makes men have a strong desire to conquer.
2. Reject gifts from men
Every woman likes surprises and gifts. Which woman in the world doesn't like to receive gifts from men? The moment you receive the gift, the whole world is full of love. Giving gifts is also the most direct way for men to pursue, but if you easily accept a gift from a man at this time, you may not give it next time. However, women with high EQ know how to refuse a man's gift, because they begin to accept the gift from him at this time, so it is not long before they are caught. A woman with high EQ knows how to keep your appetite up. She is too embarrassed to accept your gift in front of you. She blames you for your extravagance and waste, and is always thinking of you. A man will blame such a woman if he doesn't love her.
3. Reject men's money
Many men think that the quickest way to pursue a woman is to give her money. But women with high EQ know how to refuse money from men, because once they accept the money from men, it means that the value of this woman in men's hearts begins to decline. A man is very smart. Even if he likes you again, as long as money is involved, he will feel that this woman is very realistic and not with him because of love. But women with high EQ will refuse the money given by the man, even if he has transferred it, he will return it. This action makes a man understand that she is not with you because of money. Such a woman with high EQ, men will love her wholeheartedly.
4. Refuse a man's request not to go home at night
Although it is very common for men and women to spend the night together, have you ever thought of it as casual. Maybe at the beginning, men are just new, but after a long time, they will also be tired of you. You are really small in men's hearts. But a woman with high EQ knows how to refuse a man's request not to go home at night. Even if you start dating hand in hand, it is already a couple's identity, but she still wants to go home after 12 o'clock. A man will feel that such a woman cherishes himself very much and is also very rational. He will not hand himself over at will. Only such a woman can make a man love her wholeheartedly. A woman who knows how to restrain herself can most often make a man want to take this woman seriously, and can make a man look at this woman with new eyes and want to love her.
