Girlfriends are disappointed in me and how to recover it. Many men will not cherish it in love. They often regret it when girls feel disappointed. At this time, boys want to recover their girlfriends. Then, how can girlfriends recover from my disappointment.
1、 Grasp the chat scale and look for opportunities
At this time, we should pay special attention to the degree of conversation. On the one hand, we should try to be gentle and patient, and try to be objective. We should not talk about emotional topics, because at this time, our girlfriend is feeling the opposite of you. If you don't open the pot, it will definitely hit the wall. Don't worry. You can't eat hot tofu if you are anxious about emotional matters.
On the other hand, you should not be too polite. Being polite will lead to alienation. There are only two options for intimacy, namely, to advance, to ease up, or to put it on hold for the time being. Never retreat, or it will be very detrimental to later recovery.
At this time, the chat skills are very important. We must grasp the degree. We must not force too hard or talk too far apart. I teach Xiao Zhang to chat hand in hand during this process.
You should remember that the purpose of this chat is only to temporarily ease the relationship. As long as you still maintain good contact, everything is easy to say. What you have to do is wait for an opportunity. What is this opportunity? Everyone's situation is different.
For example, your ex girlfriend happened to have a big problem at work and could not stand the grievances and resigned naked. You should know that for a girl who is wandering outside, no job is the most insecure time. At this time, her psychology will be very fragile. She needs a warm shoulder to rely on emotionally and a partner to discuss her work.
At this time, you need to chat with your girlfriend on the topic of "work", help her to relieve her depression, and analyze what she should do in the next job. You will find that the tone of conversation between your girlfriend and you has obviously eased a lot.
2、 Find opportunities to show concern
If your girlfriend sends some chicken soup in the circle of friends, such as a picture of instant noodles, people who have no work should only eat instant noodles. This is the time to show your concern and consideration. How to do it specifically?
Make some home cooked dishes immediately. Note that when you cook here, you must think about your girlfriend's usual preferences and taboos. If you step on her taboo, she will be more upset. For example, your girlfriend doesn't like ginger. As a result, you put a lot of ginger in cooking. Instead of appreciating your concern, your girlfriend will think that you have been in love for so long, and you don't know that she doesn't like ginger. Girls are very sensitive, which should be paid special attention to.
After cooking the food, it was delivered to the girlfriend's door, but without seeing her, the food was put at the guard's place, and a WeChat message was sent to the girlfriend: I made some home cooked dishes for you and put them at the guard's place. Remember to come out and get them. Don't worry. You won't see me when I'm gone.
Why don't you take the opportunity of delivering dinner to meet your girlfriend? Because your girlfriend has been disappointed with you before, and it takes a process to ease the relationship between two people. You can't ask to meet at the beginning. If you take advantage of the opportunity to send meals to your girlfriend, then in her opinion, you may not send meals in good faith at all, but just find an excuse to meet her, and she may alienate you again.
If you are too anxious, you are putting pressure on the other party. Your subtext is: I still love you, so you can't refuse me. If you weaken your sense of need, your girlfriend will be more likely to accept your kindness. If you stay here, you will not be afraid of no firewood. As long as she accepts your kindness, you can gradually retrieve her.
3、 Let nature take its course
In the following days, you can continue to maintain the relationship with your girlfriend, deliver meals on time, relieve her anxiety on time, and help her analyze interviews and work on time. gradual., You will find that your girlfriend's tone to you is much better, and you will start to send some relaxed facial expressions. Maybe neither of you mentioned the matter of getting back together, but when you get along with each other, you have returned to the previous state of love. As long as you can keep this state, it will be a matter of time before you get back together.
My girlfriend is disappointed with me. How can I recover?
1、 Express your sincerity and let her know your attitude.
Generally, what can make a girl completely disappointed is not because of one thing, but the result of accumulated dissatisfaction after reaching the peak, but only one thing is sure to be the "trigger".
Therefore, the first thing to do is to sincerely apologize to the woman for the "fuse" incident. You can directly ask a girl to meet you and explain things clearly. If the other party refuses to meet, you can choose to express it by phone or WeChat. In short, you should show 100 pieces of sincerity to express your regret and regret.
At the same time, give the other party enough time to let her vent her dissatisfaction. Do not interrupt and explain when a girl is venting her emotions. When she has finished speaking, you can make necessary explanations about the past and say your expectations for the future. I hope she can give you a chance;
2、 Take action and say goodbye to the "not good enough self".
To save a girl's heart, attitude and language alone are not enough. More often, it depends on a person's change. After all, actions are more honest than words.
If the other party is disappointed because you don't want to make progress, you can't get forgiveness from the other party because you say "definitely change" but act like drinking, dining and playing games every day. The best way is to reduce the number of dinners, stay away from games, and make some achievements in work.
Therefore, "your change" is very important whether you can recover the other party. Of course, this kind of change is not intended to restore feelings or temporary changes, but to know from the bottom of my heart that I was wrong, and then to sincerely say goodbye to my former bad self.
3、 Mobilize "resources" to let her know your changes
If a girl is completely disappointed in you, she will naturally pay less and less attention to you. So, although you are getting better, she may not know it.
If you report your progress to her every day, it may be a little "Wang Po sells melons and boasts", which may make her even more upset with you. In fact, you can choose to change silently for a period of time. When you see the results, let your common friend talk about your changes with her. The effect will be better.
After all, many times we praise ourselves 100 times, which is not as convincing as others' praise of you once. Therefore, mobilize your friends' resources and timely "convey" your good.
4、 Anyway, respect her decision
We can easily hurt a person, but we cannot easily retrieve a wounded heart. Therefore, while recovering, we should also make full psychological preparations.
The best outcome is that you change, the other party accepts, and everyone is happy. Of course, another possibility is that no matter what efforts you make, the other party has completely given up,
If the result is the latter, please respect the other party's decision. After all, you have tried your best to save her, and there will be no regret in this relationship. What's more, your efforts have turned you into a better person, and even in the near future, you will meet a more suitable person!
The reference method for how to recover a woman who has been disappointed in you is as follows:
1. Reflection and integration
Don't take any chances any more. The only way for a person who is really wrong to change people's view of him is to correct his own mistakes.
2. Identify needs
Don't think that she is disappointed in you, and you are useless to him.
The girl is just disappointed. She is not a fool. Who would be with a person who doesn't like her at all and only disappoints her? Disappointments are accumulated, and what supports you to get along is that you must have a point that can attract her. What is needed is to find this point, and then enlarge it,
3. Edge contact
When we begin to reflect and improve our own value laterally, the possibility that the other party will pay attention to us is great.
Because one slap can't make a sound. Even if she is disappointed with you, don't feel that after the breakup, you are the only one who is sad. The other party must also pay attention to you at some uncomfortable moment.
However, the huge sense of contrast caused by your change is easy to make her question the breakup, which is a complex emotion for the other party.
Mixed with doubts, regret, self blame and so on. Generally speaking, she may not have the intention of getting back together with you at this time, but it is already acceptable for her to get along properly and let you continue to exist in the life circle. So it is necessary to start a tentative marginal contact and first step back into her life circle
4. Reverse the impression and create new attraction
After returning to each other's life circle, never rush to bring up the topic of feelings. Because at this time, your negative impression in the other person's mind has not completely disappeared, even if it has completely disappeared, it does not mean that you like it. Therefore, we need to stop communication. In this limited communication, let the other party experience the existence of our changing facts, which is easy to attract the other party's deeper attention to us. On this node, increase the "content input" to the "common communication platform". For example, show more exquisite life in the circle of friends. Compared with previous changes, foreign trade, clothing, life fun and rules.
Our previous efforts need to be implemented at this stage. In this stage, communication must not be excessive. It needs to be concise and valuable. It can make the other party feel relaxed, so that they can let go of their bad feelings.
5. Apologize frankly
After a period of time together, the new intimate relationship you have established can support you to face the previous problems. At this time, you need to sincerely apologize to the other party. This apology is owed to the other party before, for the interruption of just breaking up, and for yourself who has always given the other party a bad emotional experience. When the other party accepts your apology, it indicates that both of you have cut off the old intimate relationship, which means that both of you have begun to acquiesce and accept the new intimate relationship.
6. Strengthen intimacy
Of course, what is strengthened is your newly created intimate relationship. At this time, it is not necessary to properly mention the past events to remind each other of their memories. What we are doing is still a new way of getting along, to dispel the disappointment of the other party. The lack of feelings between you is not rigid. The less disappointed you are, the easier it will become to feel the same for you.
What you need to create is an environment that is valuable enough, desirable enough, and easy enough for girls to rely on your new image.
