Learn how to become a good boyfriend, learn to grow up, sincerely apologize, and so on. When we fall in love, we will feel unprecedented happiness and sweetness. But once two people break up because of a small matter, the immature side of both parties begins to show. They always think that it is all the fault of each other and have nothing to do with themselves. Finally, they pass each other in life and almost lose each other. But when they calm down and find that they still love each other, they will do everything possible to save each other. What should they do then?
1. Learn how to become a good boyfriend. Without heartache, it is not easy to break up. For girls, they are usually emotionally rational. I often break up with you because you don't know her heart. Therefore, you need to learn to be a competent boyfriend. Since you like her, you need to give her snacks. Since love is free, you must understand what she wants to do. In the girl's view, the person who is right is hurting himself, putting himself in his heart, talking with him, not only having a bouquet of flowers, but also cheering for himself. If you know this, you will understand that only by ensuring this, can you be considered competent, and the experience of breaking up is enough for you to grow. Learn to be a competent boyfriend, and you can easily find your girlfriend.
2. Learn to grow. At the end of any relationship, there will be places for us to learn and grow from temporarily failed relationships. I believe this is a good thing for many men. At the same time, after a man experiences and becomes more familiar with love, his girlfriend can see your changes, be willing to trust you again, trust you, and may begin to consider being with you again. Therefore, men should learn to mature and change themselves, and let themselves know more about love, so that their girlfriend will not leave you again, and you can truly understand the true meaning of love. Toutiao Lai
3. Apologize sincerely. Sincerity is the most basic quality of a man. If the breakup is really because of you, you may as well be magnanimous and sincerely apologize to her, sincerely, but not too modest. The girl has a proud heart. She doesn't want men to have no bottom line in order to please women. Don't rush to let the girl accept you again, the injured heart needs time to comfort. You might as well tell her that she doesn't have to promise you anything before you change everything. In this way, it not only shows your maturity, but also gives her a warmth.
What to do if I break up with my girlfriend
1、 Learn to admit mistakes
Ying Cai'er and Ying Cai'er are an enviable couple in the entertainment circle, but sometimes Ying Cai'er is angry with Ying Cai'er. The key is that his apology makes people want to fight. This should be a mistake that many boys are prone to make. How can she be so angry when thinking about few things and then apologize? But you should understand that a perfunctory apology is better than saying nothing. Instead, girls feel that you think she is too careful.
What a girl loves is not an apology, but your approval, or she doesn't comfort you gently. Apologizing is not that critical. The key is that you need to know where you are wrong before apologizing. "Sorry, I won't ignore your experience." Sentences like this are more useful than typing 100 apologies on a letter.
2、 Let her see her sincerity
If you want to retain your girlfriend, you need to know how to retain her. Language alone is obviously insufficient. If you want to keep her and you love her, you should let her see your actual actions and your changes.
Reduce the number of things that make her plan, calm down and prepare a table for her in advance. Tell her with action that she is an important person in your life, not an insignificant role, so that she will love you more and more.
You can also learn some methods from movies and TV dramas to try to save your girlfriend. Many methods are old-fashioned, but the key is practical. In any case, black cats and white cats are good cats who can catch mice. In the same way, as long as you can save your girlfriend, it is a good way. So when you save your girlfriend, you must learn to be flexible.
3、 Speaking skills of WeChat contact
After breaking up, many people try their best to get the other party's response. WeChat is a common way to recover after breaking up. However, if you don't know how to edit messages and make mistakes, not only can you not save your lover's heart, but also the other person will blackout all your contact information, which often increases the difficulty of recovering hunger. So how should I edit the retrieved sentence if I want to retrieve my ex girlfriend?
Do not show high demand in messages. In life, many people often tell themselves that it is impossible without her, "I love you", "I cannot do without you" and other words when they retrieve their ex girlfriends, or even force them to come back to you by hurting themselves.
But such a high demand performance will only increase the pressure on the other party. When you break up, the contradiction is high. When you show high demand and low value behavior, the other party will often feel that you are also low value. So if you want to take the initiative in love, you'd better start from no need to contact, arouse the other party's interest, and not expose your own sense of needs, In this way, the other party often wants to reply.
4、 Freeze properly after breaking up
In fact, freezing is also the best time for you to calmly reflect on the mistakes you have made during love. For example, whether you did not give a corresponding response when the other party needed you, instead, you scolded the other party, whether you forced the other party to reform, and whether you chattered around when the other party needed silence.
Many times, people don't know about their mistakes, but they are silently recorded by the other party. When patience reaches a certain critical point, they are ready to break up. The result is a quarrel, and then break up. First, think about whether there are any mistakes. Don't worry about each other. Otherwise, you will end up with a resentful wife image.
5、 Change yourself during the freezing period
Improve your appearance. External change is the quickest and most effective way to change your negative image in his mind. Many times, whether in the workplace or in love, your external image is critical, so the effect of external change can not be underestimated.
Improve your inner self. In emotion, internal and external promotion are equally important. One person's love for another often starts from his appearance and is loyal to his character. Only by steadfastly improving his inner self can you make your charm last forever.
After breaking up, it is the most effective way to save your girlfriend: contact as soon as possible, talk about the past, learn to listen, praise each other, and make contact.
1. Contact as soon as possible.
Since you want to maintain this relationship, you can't apologize for the sake of face, unless you are fully sure that he can't leave you. Because some men have strong self-esteem, they are unwilling to put down the so-called face for you, or they are not lack of spare tire. If this cooling off period is delayed too long, it may lead to the intervention of a third party. Sometimes love is so strange. Passion fades, a small misunderstanding, and a goodbye may never be seen again. If you still cherish this relationship, please take advantage of it and take the initiative to contact each other at the appropriate time.
2. Talk about the past.
When two people fall in love, they will surely have many beautiful memories. When love begins, it is often very beautiful. Mention the unforgettable places you have been to, the unforgettable food you have tasted together, and the romantic things you have experienced unintentionally, so that the other person can deeply feel his position in your mind, so that he is more likely to change his mind.
3. Learn to listen.
Many people say that their failure in a relationship is due to too many misunderstandings and their poor communication skills. Most people do not know that listening is also an important part of communication skills. People who know how to listen will make the other party feel that their ideas and feelings are respected, so they are more willing to take the initiative to accept the other party's opinions.
4. Praise each other.
In the book "Five Languages of Love", the author emphasized the importance of "positive words", praising each other's advantages and praising them appropriately, which can make both parties get along more harmoniously, instead of always thinking about each other's mistakes and grasping each other's shortcomings, such two people will only go farther and farther.
5. Make contact.
It is also emphasized in the Five Languages of Love that proper physical contact will enhance the intimate relationship between the two parties. Love is largely produced by the secretion of hormones, and physical contact will stimulate the secretion of the other party's hormones, thus making the other party have the impulse to want to recover.
