If your girlfriend wants to break up with you, her attitude is very firm. You think that your girlfriend doesn't love you. You can try to have a good talk with your girlfriend. If you still break up with your girlfriend firmly, let's divide it. If you try to change things, it's not sweet. Love is mutual. Both sides of each other have to pay their feelings, which also requires both sides to manage each other.
Girlfriend is determined to break up. What should I do
1. Think about your feelings. If you are not happy in this relationship, you are not happy. Then we can think about the relationship here. Whose fault is it? If it is your own mistake, can you correct it? If it is the other party's mistake, can the other party correct it? Or adapt yourself. But what love brings to oneself should be a sweet feeling. If pain is greater than pleasure. There is no need to detain.
2. Communicate earnestly. If the girlfriend wants to break up, she has a firm attitude, and the boyfriend can communicate with him. After all, the two people loved each other, so they could sit down and have a serious talk. What on earth caused the current situation? If we can make it up, we can correct our mistakes and maybe make up again.
3. Let go bravely. If boys feel unhappy in this relationship, they can choose to let go bravely, because there are many good girls in the world. The reason why I can't let this relationship go is that I have invested too much and paid too much. But if you find that this relationship is not satisfactory, you can let go in time and stop losing bravely. After all, long pain is better than short pain.
It seems to be sudden, but in fact, it is a foreboding. Because no girl will suddenly and resolutely break up with you for no reason, so when her girlfriend suddenly and resolutely breaks up, what should we do or can we recover?
1、 Girlfriend's determination is long-term accumulation
There is a saying that "women are both passionate and unfeeling, while men are passionate and affectionate" cannot be said to be absolutely correct, but it actually reflects the difference in thinking between men and women.
Men will feel moved by many women. At first, it is fresh, but over time, it will become dependent, habitual or comfortable.
Women just like it and don't like it. Once you like it, you will devote yourself wholeheartedly, even pay everything. But once the disappointment accumulates to a certain extent, women will completely give up, and will choose silence and escape.
2、 What causes her girlfriend to be determined
1. Emotional needs: Emotional needs are vague and unclear when they are said. Everyone is different, but they are almost the same.
Most common: hope to be accompanied, have a sense of security, passion, or novelty, etc
2. Get along and feel tired
Some feelings, the longer we get along, the more loving we become, and lead a life that others envy. Because they know that they need to find a suitable way to get along with each other both in life and emotion.
Some people appreciate each other and care about each other, but they don't agree with each other in terms of three perspectives and communication is not in place. They often quarrel and have a cold war as if they are competing for the best.
If two people do not understand each other well or analyze problems calmly after each quarrel, even if it is better later, there will still be barriers in their hearts. But this bad accumulation will make both parties feel tired when they can't bear it, and it will be difficult to continue the relationship.
3. Can't see the future
In most girls' love, they hope to get married or live an ideal life.
However, if a male student does not take on the responsibility (material, psychological, etc.) when a female student wants to get married, she will lose confidence in her future life.
3、 Solve each other's problems
You can also ask your girlfriend to come out to meet you, find a restaurant or coffee shop that you are familiar with, and solve the problem of breaking up face to face with each other. At this time, you must be calm, so as to avoid quarrels, you can recall some pleasant things about each other first, and then turn to the topic.
This time it is the key to solve the problem. I can write a general description:
1. The real reason why the girlfriend wants to break up;
2. Understand what you do to make your girlfriend dissatisfied in love;
3. During the conversation, judge whether the girlfriend is willing to turn back;
4. What is your girlfriend's future plan;
Of course, there are some other problems that you don't understand.
4、 There is a chance of recovery, enter into recovery analysis
From the above conversation, we can see whether there is a chance to recover. Then, we should recover and pursue again at the appropriate time.
1. Position yourself
Some boys have such a misunderstanding that when girls ignore you, they desperately admit their mistakes, make commitments, and desperately prove that you love her.
In fact, for some girls who need a sense of security, there is still some effect, but for girls who are determined, they will only lower their impression in her mind, from boredom to blackness, or tell friends that you are a wonderful girl.
2. Specific changes to specific problems
We should find out the root cause from the period of just talking about love to the period of breaking up. At the same time, you can make some changes in your image, such as fitness, hairstyle, and clothing, to enhance your attractiveness.
Take the term "primary effect" in psychology, which is the first impression effect. I left a good impression when I met him for the first time, and naturally wanted to be close to him, so we could get to know each other faster.
Therefore, change is not only to change your own mistakes, but also to change some of your own attributes, so that the other party can feel the new you, feel your charm, and have a sense of curiosity about you.
3. Establish indirect connection
坚决分手=不会主动与你联系，这时候的你，不存在什么断联方法，而是她彻底放飞。
You'd better establish indirect contact. For example, if she doesn't delete your WeChat, you can send some targeted circles of friends. By showing her changes in some aspects, she can arouse her curiosity about you.
However, when you send a circle of friends, you should be careful not to use the "sense of crisis" to send photos and topics related to other members of the opposite sex. This will only make the other party feel that "it is right to break up with you"
Learn to find outside help to chat with her friends, talk about her current situation and ideas, and reveal your ideas and changes.
Before chatting, make some plans to convey the key points. At the same time, let your friends feel your attitude, your sincerity, your inadequacy and your apology.
4. Moderately weak
In both sides of the quarrel, the man is reasonable and the woman is attitudinal.
At this time, how should we communicate well?
The weakness here is not a prayer of "I'm wrong, please, please don't go". But the form of expression should be gentle and positive communication to think.
For example:
"This problem is very serious, but for our future, give me some time to think about it“
"Why do you have such an idea? I'm curious. Tell me what you think."
"I'm slow and often make you unhappy, but I'm trying to improve, and you will support me, won't you?"
Don't avoid problems, but try to communicate with her and express concern and curiosity, but not control.
Therefore, when your girlfriend suddenly insists on breaking up, you need to find your own problems first and then make up for them.
