In life, each of us has different personalities and lifestyles, which results in different ways of getting along with others. Some people are outgoing and outgoing, and can easily make friends in life; However, some people are introverted, withdrawn and have few friends in life, so they are difficult to integrate into social circles. Personality differences affect the way and scope of social interaction.
If you are unsociable and unsociable in your life. First, have confidence in yourself. The reason why many people are withdrawn is that they lack confidence in themselves, or even feel inferior to themselves. They are afraid that others will look down on them, so they are afraid to get along with others and wrap themselves up. So if you want to change, you must be confident; Secondly, take the initiative to approach and meet people. Start with the nearest person around you, take the initiative to talk with them, develop your social skills, and then take the initiative to approach people in life, and use your enthusiasm and sincerity to infect them; Finally, more social activities. In your daily life, you should often participate in some community or social activities, get to know and associate more people, and expand your social circle and circle of friends.
What to do if you are unsociable
First: The character is withdrawn and unsociable, which needs to be changed. What is gratifying is that the subject has realized his problem, knows what his problem is, and wants to change himself and solve it. This is very important and is the basis for making changes.
Second: Know yourself rationally and evaluate yourself objectively. People are tall, short, fat and thin, and their personalities are introverted and withdrawn. There are not few people with introverted and withdrawn personalities. We should know ourselves rationally, not inferiority because of our own personality, and not think that we are bad because we are not sociable. Everyone has something that everyone is not good at. Your knowledge is just not good at interpersonal communication. But I think you must have a lot of things that you are good at, and you can get positive self experience from these activities that you delete.
Third: master the way and dare to communicate. You are not good at communication. You can try to read some books about cultivating interpersonal skills, and try to find and practice ways suitable for your own use. Everyone has his own unique way of communication. Don't deliberately imitate others, as long as you feel comfortable and effective.
Fourth: Change takes time. Don't be too urgent and anxious. Change is painful and takes time. You should be psychologically prepared for the coming change and the anxiety that may arise from it.
Children are withdrawn and do not like to talk. If they are not sociable, parents need to guide children correctly, so that children can build confidence and expand their social circle. The main needs are as follows:
1. Parents are their children's first teachers. If you want your children to fit in, parents should first fit in. They often take their children to places with strong popularity, set an example and let them see how they behave in terms of words, deeds and interpersonal communication. Set a good example for children, and children will unconsciously shape a good character if they are influenced by others.
2. Outdoor activities. Parents should lead their children to take part in nature: travel, climbing, swimming, exercise, etc. On the one hand, it can cultivate children's courage, optimism and persistence; on the other hand, it can strengthen children's physique, so that children can participate in various collective activities, games among peers, and sports activities.
3. Communication attitude. Parents can use some positive comments, such as "Although you didn't succeed, I still want to praise you because you have already worked hard." "You have been working hard, and if you work harder, you must do better!" Pay attention to the evaluation and attitude, and more affirmation and encouragement to children, such as caressing, nodding, smiling, praise, etc. These small actions will receive unexpected results, making children confident Be cheerful.
4. Parent child interaction. Good parent-child relationship can enable children to establish the initial sense of security and belonging when interacting with others. Safe attachment between children and parents can provide the safest and most powerful support for children's social interaction activities.
5. Communicate actively with teachers. Contact teachers to give children more opportunities to express themselves and cultivate their ability to speak in public. Teachers should encourage and praise such children more to improve their status in other people's hearts.
